I was finally over how rude people were being and was back to enjoying doing all of the last minute details. FI and I were sitting on the floor assembling favors and watching a movie and my phone rings. Its my aunt...whom I have always been very close with, so I thought we''d be having a nice talk! Boy was I wrong.
She starts the conversation of like this:
Aunt: Hi Nov, I need to talk to you about the wedding. ( I didn''t get a hi, how are you, nothing!)
Me: Sure, whats up? (me thinking she had a general question, hoping for the best)
Aunt: I find it extremely rude that you did not invite your cousin with a date. (she has 3 sons)
Me: I did invite "Bob" and "Will" with guests, are you talking about "Mike"?
Aunt: Yes.
Me: Oh, well "Mike" is single, and we really can only afford to invite people with significant others/spouses because of our budget, if he has a girlfriend I wasn''t aware of then I''m sorry, he can bring her.
Aunt: You know very well he doesn''t have a girlfriend, I just think its very mean and rude that you didn''t invite him with a guest but you invited his brothers with their wives/girlfriends. (should i have not invited my cousins wife? lol or the others girlfriend who he has been with for 3.5 years and will probably be proposing to soon?)
Me: I''m really sorry but we needed to be able to include as many family and friends as we could, and inviting people with guests just isn''t in our budget.
Aunt: I never thought you would be this disrespectful of your cousin''s feelings, he is not a child! (my cousin is 28, I haven''t seen him in 5 years, he didn''t come to my college graduation party, FIs 30th birthday etc. Talk about disrespect hah!)
Me: (finally not being able to take it anymore) I''m sorry you feel that way, but I think you need to think about the conversation that you just had with me and realize who is being rude and acting like a child. This is our wedding, and I''m sorry if he can''t come to the wedding and have a good time without a date but we do not have an unlimited budget and this is how it is.
Aunt: Then maybe none of us will come.
Me: That is your decision, but this will only reflect poorly on you. Your son is not the only adult that was not invited with a guest. All of the other cousins who are single were not invited with guests, and many other family members and friends who are all adults are coming solo as well.
Aunt: He is different, I thought he was your favorite. (WHAT THE ?????)
Me: I dont have favorites of anything other than ice cream. You can let me know on the response cards of what you are going to do. I hope to see all of you at the wedding. If not, I''ll understand. I need to go, I have things to take care of.
Aunt: Click.
I got off the phone and FI was sitting there with this WTF just happened look. She sent my mom a nasty email this morning and my mom said the same thing...I guarantee my cousin doesn''t even know this conversation took place. He could probably careless about any of it!
She starts the conversation of like this:
Aunt: Hi Nov, I need to talk to you about the wedding. ( I didn''t get a hi, how are you, nothing!)
Me: Sure, whats up? (me thinking she had a general question, hoping for the best)
Aunt: I find it extremely rude that you did not invite your cousin with a date. (she has 3 sons)
Me: I did invite "Bob" and "Will" with guests, are you talking about "Mike"?
Aunt: Yes.
Me: Oh, well "Mike" is single, and we really can only afford to invite people with significant others/spouses because of our budget, if he has a girlfriend I wasn''t aware of then I''m sorry, he can bring her.
Aunt: You know very well he doesn''t have a girlfriend, I just think its very mean and rude that you didn''t invite him with a guest but you invited his brothers with their wives/girlfriends. (should i have not invited my cousins wife? lol or the others girlfriend who he has been with for 3.5 years and will probably be proposing to soon?)
Me: I''m really sorry but we needed to be able to include as many family and friends as we could, and inviting people with guests just isn''t in our budget.
Aunt: I never thought you would be this disrespectful of your cousin''s feelings, he is not a child! (my cousin is 28, I haven''t seen him in 5 years, he didn''t come to my college graduation party, FIs 30th birthday etc. Talk about disrespect hah!)
Me: (finally not being able to take it anymore) I''m sorry you feel that way, but I think you need to think about the conversation that you just had with me and realize who is being rude and acting like a child. This is our wedding, and I''m sorry if he can''t come to the wedding and have a good time without a date but we do not have an unlimited budget and this is how it is.
Aunt: Then maybe none of us will come.
Me: That is your decision, but this will only reflect poorly on you. Your son is not the only adult that was not invited with a guest. All of the other cousins who are single were not invited with guests, and many other family members and friends who are all adults are coming solo as well.
Aunt: He is different, I thought he was your favorite. (WHAT THE ?????)
Me: I dont have favorites of anything other than ice cream. You can let me know on the response cards of what you are going to do. I hope to see all of you at the wedding. If not, I''ll understand. I need to go, I have things to take care of.
Aunt: Click.
I got off the phone and FI was sitting there with this WTF just happened look. She sent my mom a nasty email this morning and my mom said the same thing...I guarantee my cousin doesn''t even know this conversation took place. He could probably careless about any of it!