My Anxious/Impatient/Crazy story

[American Girl]

Here''s a recap -

10/22/08 Just joined today... and like you, very normal level headed girl. Have my own life, keep myself busy. Have an absolutely amazing relationship with my boyfriend (been together a year - both in our early to mid-30''s)... and THEN we went to look at rings...

... after reading a lot of the posts on here I''m just so thankful I''m not the only one going absolutely NUTS/INSANE/CRAZY. Ever since we looked at rings, I tried a whole bunch on, picked one, picked the diamond... I have been an absolutely completely different person. I think about the ring, about him proposing, I think about the wedding, what will be the wedding date/season, we agreed on a 6 month engagement (in the engagement ring store/prior to picking out rings/and after)I can''t tear myself away from looking at wedding magazines or websites... if he knew this... he may run far far away lol.

Now... I''m trying with all of my will to NOT talk to him about the ring (he knows exactly what I want), the wedding plans, getting engaged... but it''s not always working. Sometimes HE brings it up! Mostly he wants to talk about the wedding and I just don''t know what to do with myself... lol. I keep telling him that he has to propose first. The last thing I want (seriously) is to pressure him... but if he keeps this up, I may hit him over the head and drag him to vegas .

10/23/08 Oh how i wish i would''ve found you ladies earlier in my insanity... so to speak

i really thought after leaving the e-ring store that somehow a niftly little ''switch'' flipped and all of a sudden my clock started ticking... and then it started ticking faster and faster and faster... my poor bf lol!

11/11/08 Ok working on 10+ months now, 50 days? LOL, but who''s counting?

He''s an amazing man (I feel like God put him on this earth just for me), he really does his research and wants me to have the ring of my dreams... which I dearly love about him (and I feel very fortunate that he''s able to afford my ''dream ring''). But the flip side of the ''making sure it''s perfect'' is that it takes forever and I''m not good with being patient.

So... here''s to the next 50 days! May we not have to wait until Christmas or New Years, but if we do... I pray that we''re able to keep a lid on the anxious emotional crazy feelings that feel like they''re going to explode out of us the next time we see another commercial about engagement rings while we''re sitting next to our SO on the couch... and then there''s that akward silence... and then the thoughts of ''why are you so mean?!?!'' come to your mind... or something else lol.

11/24/08 ... I ''accidentally'' found out that he has/had the diamond... he told me there''s no use looking for it as it''s been sent out to be set.

We''re supposed to be engaged before the end of this year... so... I''m hoping it will be really really really soon, I just can''t handle this much longer (I''m sure many of you can relate lol!).

How the heck do you ladies cope with this???

 

[joyfulbarry]

Hi American Girl,

Your post made me smile and laugh because I''m in pretty much the same situation. When my thoughts get too excited and I think that I may drive my boyfriend crazy, I step away from ps for just a few days and look at other websites. I''ve been waiting for his proposal for about 6 months and I think that it will happen any day now, but honestly we don''t talk about it much, because I know he wants it to be a surprise.

What ring did you pick out?

I''m sending you dust!!!

Joyfulbarry

 

[American Girl]

We’re ‘supposed’ to be engaged before the end of the year (his timeline). I asked him a few times (a while ago) to please not make me wait all the way until xmas or new years eve as that would just be TORTURE… he’s not the type to be holding out just to tease me, so if he does hold out until then it’s because it was part of his original plan.

This past weekend was a little ‘strange’ even for him… he took me to his old neighborhood where he grew up just to show me around so that I could “get to know him better”. We stopped by his mom’s best friends house (heard a lot about her had not yet met her)… she immediately started asking questions and making comments... “have you set a date?” “we’re all so very excited for you!” “we can’t wait until the wedding” “your mom (his) is so excited and anxious” “we’ve (her and his mom) talked about how expensive weddings are… my goodness” “have you set a date (2nd time asking)”.

When we left I was in a bit of shock. We just saw his mom for Thanksgiving, she didn’t mention anything about the wedding or us getting engaged or appear anxious. She’s letting it all out to her friend… I’m sure he’s asked her to not say anything until after we’re engaged (I’ve made it pretty clear that I want to be engaged before discussing details of the wedding – it’s out of order, even if I’m off looking on my own).

So… I’ve asked for it to be a ‘surprise’, but being the little investigator that I am… and since he’s dragging it out I’m searching & hunting for clues. IT’S TERRIBLE!!! And I can’t stop! LOL!

Tomorrow is my birthday… I have a sneaky suspicion. It’s the only day he has an ‘excuse’ for us to go out to dinner that won’t have me analyzing & thinking he may be up to something. If it doesn’t happen tomorrow… I’m guessing xmas or new years eve .

Tomorrow tomorrow tomorrow… I’ve got my fingers crossed!

 

[ams0124]

Sending ****DUST**** your way for a birthday proposal!!!

Keep us updated!!! Sounds promising

 

[lala2332]

haha....your post sounds very similar to my story! I''m so ready for this to happen. The insanity kind of comes in waves....I was awful this summer and then calmed back down, and now I''m going nuts again. My birthday is THursday and I don''t think anything will happen then, but thats ok b/c we have exams next week.

I''m keeping my fingers crossed for a christmas engagement. I LOVE christmas.

 

[American Girl]

Hi Joy!

Thank you so much for the encouragement! Lots of nice sparkly *dust* your way as well... the waiting is torture! They really just don’t understand what they’re doing to us.

I’m TRYING my best, and been doing pretty good, not to talk about it… to him anyways.

The ring we picked is by jeff cooper style #3145 with the matching wedding band, all princess cut diamonds (trying to upload - file is too big). How about you???

 

[SparklyLibra]

Sending *****DUST***** your way!!!

~SL.

 

[American Girl]

Lala - I hope you get your Christmas engagement then! I LOVE Christmas... I was already looking at Christmas decorations in October (before Halloween). I Agree - my craziness seems to come in cycles. Now that it''s so close to the end, I''m just not sure what to do with myself.

Ams - Thank you so much!

Sparkly - THANK YOU!!!

All I know is that we''re going out for dinner tonight (for my bday), don''t know where or if there are any other plans (I love surprises). I''m not ''expecting'' that he''ll propose tonight, but I am a little suspicious. I''m sure that I''ll probably be a little sad if he doesn''t, but what the heck... worst case scenario I''ll have to wait until New Years Eve.

... this is torture

 

[miss_flo]

OH AG I''m so excited for you!! Lots and lots and LOTS of dust for your birthday dinner!!

 

[KCCutie]

I don''t think it''s unusual to think about it, maybe that''s because I do think about it .....a lot.

If it seems like a good plan for you then talk to your FF about it and see what he thinks. At one point my FF mentioned that he was toying with the idea of buying the diamond and proposing with that so we could look for and and choose the setting later after he had more time to save. I told him I''d pay for the setting if it was going to make a difference and he didn''t like the idea. So, instead I pay for all the groceries and this helps him save money faster. I think a setting like the one I want would be under 1000 but that''s a big chunk of the total cost so I''d feel fine contributing but if it''s not what he wants than I''ll just try to help him out in non-ring related ways.

 

[American Girl]

Not completely surprised - but unfortunately no proposal story to post... only 28 days left in the entire year though

KCC - I absolutely agree about talking to our FF (you''re absolutely right!) - about... well, everything (ok maybe something''s will be left for your gf''s lol). They will be walking side by side with us in life and us with them. Fortunately FF and I have already picked out the ring (I feel like the luckiest girl ever knowing that he can afford to get my ''dream ring'')... so now all I have to do is ''be patient'' haha. MUCH easier said than done, right???

I''m really very blessed to have someone I can communicate so very well with... FF & I have had many many wonderful conversations about our future together and what we expect and don''t expect of each other and our relationship.

The year will be over soon, I don''t have to wait too much longer. FF has some ''post bday plan'' on saturday... could be the day... maybe maybe not. Seems like every day from here on out feels like ''the day'' though haha!

 

[lala2332]

dust for you!

THese boys sure now how to draw it out and drive us crazy!