Moving to SoCal for Grad School... feeling the proposal itch

[pannini]

Hi everyone,

So many of you know I got into Grad School, had fears of long distance, etc. Worried about its effects on a long engagement possibly, etc.

here are two links to two related topics....


https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/grad-school-blues-tuition-costs-are-throwing-me-off.118839/

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/i-got-into-graduate-school-but-now-what-about-the-liw-status.118166/

Well summer time flies, I am moving out of the apartment I share with my bf in a bout 6 days! So scared, so anxious, so excited to get to a new town with like-minded individuals. Bittersweet to start a LDR with bf.

I think I am starting to get a good feeling about him possibly proposing soon! We commissioned an ering by Leon Mege, and I know it must be done any minute now. He could have it on him already even! So... I''m wondering, will he propose before I move out next week, or will it be on some holiday/long weekend in the fall semester when we visit each other?

I''m kind of hoping for next week- LOL.

EEK! Need DUST! I wonder wonder wonder....

Also, how many of you have LDR engagements in grad school?

 

[Erinleigh]

***DUST*** that he proposes before your big move!!
To pass the time, care to describe (or share pics) of your commissioned ering? I

Leons rings!!!

 

[mariewest]

My SO is going to be attending grad. school in the fall in another state. He wants me to move out there with him, which I have no problem doing once I find a job. I have told him since we started taking about marriage over a year and a half ago, that I would prefer to be engaged before making a major move. I think it would work out really well if he would propose before he goes out there, and then have a two year engagement period which will give us lots of time to plan and save, and then get married the summer that he''s done. I however, do not believe that is going to happen, and may even end up waiting two years before he proposes. I''m still looking for a job in the area that he''s school is in, and my name is even already on the apartment lease, and I''ll go out there with or without a ring, but I just wish he could do it soon! But until I get a job, we''ll have a LDR (six hours.)

I''m sending **DUST** your way in that he proposes before you have to move. If not, anytime you come home or you see each other you''ll be wondering if it''s the day and it''ll drive you crazy.

 

[Luckyeshe]

I hope it''s next week!!!! ********************DUST DUST DUST*******************
Nothing like starting Grad school knowing you''re already engaged to marry the man of your dreams! It''ll definitely keep you motivated to finish on time!!

Good luck in grad school!

 

[BeachRunner]

**dust** !!

My best friend who just got married had a LDR with her, at the time, BF throughout college. It can work.

BTW: I have your avatar hanging on my wall in the bedroom! Actually, we have a multiple Kawasaki''s throughout our house.

 

[mrscushion]

I was going to send you dust that he proposes before you move -- but on second thought, you do want a few days of giddy celebration and togetherness, and I fear you lose out on that with so little time left before your move.

So perhaps it''s better for you guys to get settled in your LDR and when he has time for a longer visit (or vice versa), he''ll propose then.

Either way, I''m excited for you.

I''m moving to grad school in 9 days, too. FI is driving there with me to help me move in and get the scoop on my new scene for a few days.

 

[lulu66]

****DUST**** for a sooner than later proposal & for lots of luck w/grad school!!

and, what about a sneak peak of the ring...any little hints or tidbits to share w/us liws???

 

[purselover]

**DUST** for a speedy proposal!

 

[princessplease]

Dust!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[sparklyheart]

Wow it seems like you were JUST talking about going out there! Hopefully he will pop the question soon so you can be excited about it and think about planning (if you don''t start planning)! Plus you''ll have a gorgeous Leon to sport on your finger! ***DUST***

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 8/7/2009 1:06:13 PM
Author: mscushion
I was going to send you dust that he proposes before you move -- but on second thought, you do want a few days of giddy celebration and togetherness, and I fear you lose out on that with so little time left before your move.

So perhaps it''s better for you guys to get settled in your LDR and when he has time for a longer visit (or vice versa), he''ll propose then.

Either way, I''m excited for you.

I''m moving to grad school in 9 days, too. FI is driving there with me to help me move in and get the scoop on my new scene for a few days.

This!

FI and I are LDR, and I totally got a driveby proposal!

It was wonderful, and not so bad because I was on vacay with my family the following day, but I did desperately want to spend time with FI! So I came up the next week, and we just doted on one another, and enjoyed each other, and LOL, he NEVER calls me FI, but LOVES to call me his WIFE, ha! We did an engagement celebration dinner, and we''ve gone on dates and just really enjoyed one another. He smiled at me the other day and said that this had been one of the best weeks of his life!

So a no vote to drive-by proposals, you need time for some LOVIN''!

Also, I told FI while we were still dating that I would not move for him unless a.) I wanted to, or b.) we were engaged. He''s been asking me to move for a few years, and we have been dating for nearly 6 years (next month). A move is a BIG commitment, and SoCal is a fun and fab place, but can be a rough adjustment for many. (I lived in L.A. for 4 yrs, LOVED it!) You def need a car... and a good income! It''s very expensive, and can feel pretty plastic and artificial, but there is so much to, so much culture, so many beautiful places, a fantastic place for weekend trips (Santa Barbara, San Diego, Palm Springs, OC, Vegas, Mexico, the Bay area, etc)!

If you are feeling like you need to pull back a little, then you need to take care of yourself.

I know my LIW status was really driving me batty for the 5/6 months before my proposal, and there is no way I would have moved. I would have been a ball of angry resentment

Good luck, and dust for you!

 

[pannini]

Thanks so much everyone! I really think I''d be insane if it wasn''t for PS. I do agree that there are pros and cons of getting engaged before, during, or after grad school. I will take all your experiences and words of wisdom to heart. Thank you!

As for tips and tidbits.... I seriously combed the PS Forum for keywords on certain designers, and ultimately found Leon to be the best one for my ideas. If there are questions you need answers to, definitely ask on Rocky Talky. It saved me so much time and money to get real life perspective on diamonds. I definitely recommend Brian Gavin Diamonds for quality diamonds with hearts and arrows. H is always okay! I know everyone thinks a G or higher is preferred, but there are diamonds out there that show up white! As for Leon, definitely know what you have in mind before going to him. He''s a busy guy, and coming prepared is the way to go. Have ideas that are not high maintenance and know and trust Leon to take care of the rest. Just be sure to set your boundaries!

My ering will be 1.3 carats, round, with a mushroom pave melee in platinum. It''s going to be similar to DiamondNut, but set lower I believe. No idea how it will look, but I seriously have dreams about it. Especially the past two weeks! It''s scary how that happens. I thought I''d be dreaming about grad school classes or something.

mariewest and mscushion... i hope we all have a great Fall Semester this year! let''s be in touch and be sure to share our LIW stories throughout the rest of this year.


BEACHRUNNER... omg I am so jealous you have Kawasaki in your home. I was one of the sad many who tried to bid and got stuck/frozen on the website. I could never EVER score a Kawasaki. will you share with me your tips? did you find them on Ebay perhaps or directly from her online auctions?

care to show me your Kawasaki art lined up in your home? lol. I''ll be drooling all over them.

 

[pannini]

Date: 8/7/2009 5:00:23 PM
Author: trillionaire

Date: 8/7/2009 1:06:13 PM

Author: mscushion

I was going to send you dust that he proposes before you move -- but on second thought, you do want a few days of giddy celebration and togetherness, and I fear you lose out on that with so little time left before your move.


So perhaps it''s better for you guys to get settled in your LDR and when he has time for a longer visit (or vice versa), he''ll propose then.


Either way, I''m excited for you.


I''m moving to grad school in 9 days, too. FI is driving there with me to help me move in and get the scoop on my new scene for a few days.

This!


FI and I are LDR, and I totally got a driveby proposal!

It was wonderful, and not so bad because I was on vacay with my family the following day, but I did desperately want to spend time with FI! So I came up the next week, and we just doted on one another, and enjoyed each other, and LOL, he NEVER calls me FI, but LOVES to call me his WIFE, ha! We did an engagement celebration dinner, and we''ve gone on dates and just really enjoyed one another. He smiled at me the other day and said that this had been one of the best weeks of his life!


So a no vote to drive-by proposals, you need time for some LOVIN''!


Also, I told FI while we were still dating that I would not move for him unless a.) I wanted to, or b.) we were engaged. He''s been asking me to move for a few years, and we have been dating for nearly 6 years (next month). A move is a BIG commitment, and SoCal is a fun and fab place, but can be a rough adjustment for many. (I lived in L.A. for 4 yrs, LOVED it!) You def need a car... and a good income! It''s very expensive, and can feel pretty plastic and artificial, but there is so much to, so much culture, so many beautiful places, a fantastic place for weekend trips (Santa Barbara, San Diego, Palm Springs, OC, Vegas, Mexico, the Bay area, etc)!


If you are feeling like you need to pull back a little, then you need to take care of yourself.


I know my LIW status was really driving me batty for the 5/6 months before my proposal, and there is no way I would have moved. I would have been a ball of angry resentment

Good luck, and dust for you!

Thank you Trillionaire, I think I am hoping to see the ring asap just cause it''s been built up for almost 8 months now. I think in the long run, it''s more about timing and the place and the mood of the proposal. I really don''t want to get proposed asap (LOL) or ... do I?

I think if he does decide to propose next week, we''ll just have to make the most of the time we have while together before I move to SoCal, and then we make plans to visit each other asap for a weekend getaway... perhaps Santa Barbara or somewhere with the ocean and a bottle of wine/champagne. I just love the excitement!

Thanks everyone, again.

 

[Indylady]

Dust Pannini!!


I am so happy for you! About everything, grad school, getting into the program you want, and your upcoming proposal! Lots of dust to you!

 

[BeachRunner]

Warning: Thread Jack. . .

My FI purchased these Kawasaki pieces through her site. He bought them a couple years ago, so they weren''t as difficult to snatch up!

This print is actually printed on wood.

ETA: None of these are originals; we aren''t that lucky nor have that kind of money to spend!

 

[BeachRunner]

Your avatar:

Framed glicee print.

 

[BeachRunner]

also a framed glicee print:

Enjoy!

End Thread Jack.

 

[pannini]

Oh! Thank you so much for showing me. I am seriously so jealous. Does your hubby know if he had to purchase them within an auction timeframe? I remember she was selling prints when I tried to purchase, and they sold out within minutes!

 

[pannini]

just some updates***


asked my bf slyly "are we planning any romantic events before my big move this week?"


his response "eh... i really don''t think so, this week is kinda hectic, we should just get everything in order and ready for your move."

my silent response was a feeling of disappointment and frustration. doesn''t he get the hint?! why is he being so practical.


GRRR.

and, i dreamt last night that i saw the ring and it was a wreck of a design. it''s just funny, i have dreams of what the ring looks like. and it''s always bad! lol. how could it be, it''s a Leon though. i am so damn curious. should i sneak around the apt to look for it? heheh.

 

[Bia]

Congrats pannini!

It will all work out beautifully. I hope he proposes before you leave, but if he doesn''t don''t worry about it. It''s gonna happen soon regardless!

 

[pannini]

So just an update on the status. I''m still an LIW. Oh well. Basically the moving ordeal was really stressful and he already said matter-of-factly that it will be sometime after I''ve settled into my new Graduate School lifestyle. I just drove my dear bf to the airport and I kid you not, I couldn''t stop crying at the airport terminal. We hugged for extended moments, and he held me so tight. I seriously can''t appreciate him enough for helping me get my graduate apt all prepped for the school semester. We hit up ikea, target, bed bath beyond, staples, walmart, and a couple mom n pop hardware stores over the past 4 days. In addition, we explored the downtown area together and tried to find good spots to eat for the visits he''ll be making over the next year. I think our love life has been re-sparked and revamped due to this new lifestyle. He whispered in my ear as he held me "I can''t wait to ask to marry you."

Also, bf never cries, and for the second time since I''ve first met him 4 years ago, he started to tear up at the airport. When I got in my car finally to drive off, he said he''d wait at the curb to see me go. I turned around as I drove off and he was still there. When I asked him later tonight how long he stood there for. He said until my car was completely out of sight.

I miss him and love him!

I look forward to the day he proposes. There''s no rush. I just know that when it comes it will be a rush of overwhelming happiness!

Keep your fingers crossed fellow LIWs. We plan on seeing each other every 3-4 weeks. Our 4 year anniversary is also in Novemeber, so maybe it will be then?