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Shiny_Rock
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- Apr 7, 2009
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Well I got into graduate school after being waitlisted for about 4-5 months (talk about a Lady in Grad School Waiting!), and I am overjoyed! To think I had accepted my destiny to just try to find work in this economy, and then to be suprised with a phone call from the school's faculty to congratulate me early! I am going to start this Fall! Everything feels perfect. Boyfriend who loves me and intends to propose, grad school acceptance for the program of my dreams, and a healthy life. But then I started worrying.
I live in SF with my boyfriend, and we've just commissioned an ering for Leon Mege, and it's all falling into place. We planned that I'd just find work (when I wasn't going to school, things would run it's natural course, he'd surprise me with a proposal (still no clue when that will be), and we'd aim to get hitched in late 2010.
Now I am accepted into a school that will be about a 7-8 hour drive to southern California. I will be able to see him on occassional weekends and of course holidays/breaks. Call me crazy, but first thing I started wondering about is... the proposal and then future engagement. Has anyone been in this boat? Is it practical or do-able to have a wedding in the middle of someone's graduate career? Can it be done financially, and how? Can it be done with ample time to plan and make reservations and do all that crazy stuff while attending grad school, while maintaining a long distance engagement?!
I'd love to hear your tips and your personal experiences. I worry that we'll have to wait until I graduate, which would be TWO YEARS from now in late 2011?! I don't think I can wait that long of an engagement, but then again it doesn't matter as long as we are healthy and happy and together. Marriage can come later of course, I just feel the pressure of family, telling me I'm getting too old to be an LIW for this long (psssh whatever, I'm just 30, which is a great age to be).
I live in SF with my boyfriend, and we've just commissioned an ering for Leon Mege, and it's all falling into place. We planned that I'd just find work (when I wasn't going to school, things would run it's natural course, he'd surprise me with a proposal (still no clue when that will be), and we'd aim to get hitched in late 2010.
Now I am accepted into a school that will be about a 7-8 hour drive to southern California. I will be able to see him on occassional weekends and of course holidays/breaks. Call me crazy, but first thing I started wondering about is... the proposal and then future engagement. Has anyone been in this boat? Is it practical or do-able to have a wedding in the middle of someone's graduate career? Can it be done financially, and how? Can it be done with ample time to plan and make reservations and do all that crazy stuff while attending grad school, while maintaining a long distance engagement?!
I'd love to hear your tips and your personal experiences. I worry that we'll have to wait until I graduate, which would be TWO YEARS from now in late 2011?! I don't think I can wait that long of an engagement, but then again it doesn't matter as long as we are healthy and happy and together. Marriage can come later of course, I just feel the pressure of family, telling me I'm getting too old to be an LIW for this long (psssh whatever, I'm just 30, which is a great age to be).