Treasure43
Brilliant_Rock
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BF and I are living together in an apt. and he is planning a proposal before the end of summer. We''ve looked at rings and found a beautiful one we both adore. Problem is, I feel terribly guilty letting him spend that much money on a piece of jewelery. We both have a LOT of student loans to pay off. Eventually we want a house and children. He''s an accountant and will be moving up to his dad''s position of head CFO, which has great earning potential. Getting started is the tough part. I''m working at a private school, which doesn''t pay nearly as well as a public school and like I said, we have a lot of loans. We talked about getting me a cheaper ring but ultimatly he said he knows I''m in love with the ring we picked out and wants to get me what I deserve. We''ve talked about not getting married until June of 2011 because my parents won''t be able to help much and we''ll be paying for most everything ourself. I''m not thinking we need a big wedding but there are some things I would like (ie: nice dress, photographer, etc).
I''m feeling guilty for wanting the things that I want and I''m not quite sure how to deal with my feelings. My BF listens and is great and tells me that I deserve everything I want and we''ll work together to come up with a plan for how we can achieve everything we want. I just feel frustraed with myself. WHY is that ring I''ve fallen in love with so important? When do I want a honeymoon and a beautiful white dress? I feel so materialistic and I hate this feeling.
Any advice? Feel free to be brutally honest and those who have already been through this process, how did you get through it?
I''m feeling guilty for wanting the things that I want and I''m not quite sure how to deal with my feelings. My BF listens and is great and tells me that I deserve everything I want and we''ll work together to come up with a plan for how we can achieve everything we want. I just feel frustraed with myself. WHY is that ring I''ve fallen in love with so important? When do I want a honeymoon and a beautiful white dress? I feel so materialistic and I hate this feeling.
Any advice? Feel free to be brutally honest and those who have already been through this process, how did you get through it?