- Joined
- Jul 12, 2015
- Messages
- 2,290
Hi everyone 
Let me start by owning the fact that I am obsessing ridiculously over my choice of my potential center stone. OB-SESS-ING. I mean, it is on my mind day and night because I'm so worried and nervous about if we'll find anything we like when we go to NY next weekend, how bad I'll feel if we spend all of that money for the trip and walk away "stoneless", etc. And the silly thing is this trip was initially planned as just a fun getaway and looking at diamonds came in as a convenient afterthought and is just a small part of our time there, so it's not like the trip won't be memorable otherwise! And my boyfriend has already said it's no big deal if we strike out and need to go back again (love this man!). So it's totally just pressure I'm putting on myself to Get It Right and Not Waste Money and Be Totally Prepared.
Sigh.
Anyway, we have given GOG and IDJ the information on what we're looking for and they're supposed to be pulling in stones for us to see. In the meantime, the great news is that I found one listed on IDJ's website that hit all of our checkboxes and Yekutiel will be bringing it in for us to see, assuming it hasn't been sold yet; we inquired about it a few days ago but the vendor is away for all of Passover and won't be back in the store until next Wednesday... talk about torture and adding to my angst!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean, if this stone is everything that it appears to be online... *swoon*. So much more than I thought we'd end up with! I can't bring myself to share the video/cert of the stone (yet) out of fear of jinxing myself, but I will say that I love the corners, the size of the steps, it's the exact parameters of color/clarity we wanted, ALL inclusions are off to the side, and it's about 3/4ct larger than we had initially planned on going. And (be still my heart) it has fluorescence


But I digress...
I'm worried that, because it's an 8+mm stone, once we put it in the setting we're planning on it will be too "blingy" for my comfort level; I honestly think I'd rather choose a smaller stone instead of a different setting so I need to get this figured out. I really would love to see some shots of hands sporting 11-12mm rings (either close up or perspective) and get your input in to if you knock it in to things with any regularity. Oh, please tell me your finger size too (I'm a 6.75 knuckle and 5.75 base).
For my setting, our plan is to do a modified version of a Sebastien Barier design that I fell in love with years ago; if you're familiar with AsscherGirl's ring, it's that setting. It has a halo on it, so it would take the 8+mm stone and add another 3 or so mm to the top view (if I'm thinking correctly). I'm just not sure if that will be too big.
I swear I'm driving myself crazy trying to picture all of this
Thanks for letting me ramble, and hopefully some of you will have photos you could share that will help me!

Let me start by owning the fact that I am obsessing ridiculously over my choice of my potential center stone. OB-SESS-ING. I mean, it is on my mind day and night because I'm so worried and nervous about if we'll find anything we like when we go to NY next weekend, how bad I'll feel if we spend all of that money for the trip and walk away "stoneless", etc. And the silly thing is this trip was initially planned as just a fun getaway and looking at diamonds came in as a convenient afterthought and is just a small part of our time there, so it's not like the trip won't be memorable otherwise! And my boyfriend has already said it's no big deal if we strike out and need to go back again (love this man!). So it's totally just pressure I'm putting on myself to Get It Right and Not Waste Money and Be Totally Prepared.
Sigh.
Anyway, we have given GOG and IDJ the information on what we're looking for and they're supposed to be pulling in stones for us to see. In the meantime, the great news is that I found one listed on IDJ's website that hit all of our checkboxes and Yekutiel will be bringing it in for us to see, assuming it hasn't been sold yet; we inquired about it a few days ago but the vendor is away for all of Passover and won't be back in the store until next Wednesday... talk about torture and adding to my angst!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean, if this stone is everything that it appears to be online... *swoon*. So much more than I thought we'd end up with! I can't bring myself to share the video/cert of the stone (yet) out of fear of jinxing myself, but I will say that I love the corners, the size of the steps, it's the exact parameters of color/clarity we wanted, ALL inclusions are off to the side, and it's about 3/4ct larger than we had initially planned on going. And (be still my heart) it has fluorescence



But I digress...
I'm worried that, because it's an 8+mm stone, once we put it in the setting we're planning on it will be too "blingy" for my comfort level; I honestly think I'd rather choose a smaller stone instead of a different setting so I need to get this figured out. I really would love to see some shots of hands sporting 11-12mm rings (either close up or perspective) and get your input in to if you knock it in to things with any regularity. Oh, please tell me your finger size too (I'm a 6.75 knuckle and 5.75 base).
For my setting, our plan is to do a modified version of a Sebastien Barier design that I fell in love with years ago; if you're familiar with AsscherGirl's ring, it's that setting. It has a halo on it, so it would take the 8+mm stone and add another 3 or so mm to the top view (if I'm thinking correctly). I'm just not sure if that will be too big.
I swear I'm driving myself crazy trying to picture all of this

Thanks for letting me ramble, and hopefully some of you will have photos you could share that will help me!
Last edited: