janinegirly
Ideal_Rock
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i''m really frustrated with my sister. I''m in my 30''s and she''s in her early 20''s, so yes, she''s younger than me, but still an adult (and living with her bf, so obviously wants to live like an adult). She''s kind of clueless on MOH duties, so I sent her a couple of links, and give her advice along the way.
last week, i started my dress search, alone. She works in NY, so it would have been easy for her to join me, but she told me she would be too tired after work. This really really disappointed me. My dress search is a once in a lifetime (and I ended up taking a dress, so it''s over now), and she wasn''t able to step up. Days later, she never even dropped me a line to ask how it went. She did however find time to ask about BM dresses and if they would be flattering.
So fast forward to this week--I''m going home (to NJ) to help my mom with selecting photogs. My sister lives in NJ, about 10mns from my parents. It''s a trek for me from NY, but obviously I''m ok with it and need to help my mom. I asked that my sister join. She just told me she can''t because she has a "superbowl party" that she needs to help out with. Now I''m just p/o''d. Does she not get that this is once in a lifetime? If she was not my sister, I''d be more understanding. I''ve told my mom about this and said I''m so disappointed, and she just says oh "she''s young", as if she gets a permanent pass because she''s younger. As the older sister, I''ve done ALOT for my sister throughout the years--always looking out for her and protecting her, and now that I was hoping for her to step up ONCE, and she keeps coming up w/lame excuses, I''m really fed up.
Thoughts? Last week I felt great about all my progress, this week I feel very down. MY FI is getting tired of hearing about wedding stuff and I feel like I''m carrying all the weight with no where to vent but here! Hopefully next week will be better...thanks for listening..
last week, i started my dress search, alone. She works in NY, so it would have been easy for her to join me, but she told me she would be too tired after work. This really really disappointed me. My dress search is a once in a lifetime (and I ended up taking a dress, so it''s over now), and she wasn''t able to step up. Days later, she never even dropped me a line to ask how it went. She did however find time to ask about BM dresses and if they would be flattering.
So fast forward to this week--I''m going home (to NJ) to help my mom with selecting photogs. My sister lives in NJ, about 10mns from my parents. It''s a trek for me from NY, but obviously I''m ok with it and need to help my mom. I asked that my sister join. She just told me she can''t because she has a "superbowl party" that she needs to help out with. Now I''m just p/o''d. Does she not get that this is once in a lifetime? If she was not my sister, I''d be more understanding. I''ve told my mom about this and said I''m so disappointed, and she just says oh "she''s young", as if she gets a permanent pass because she''s younger. As the older sister, I''ve done ALOT for my sister throughout the years--always looking out for her and protecting her, and now that I was hoping for her to step up ONCE, and she keeps coming up w/lame excuses, I''m really fed up.
Thoughts? Last week I felt great about all my progress, this week I feel very down. MY FI is getting tired of hearing about wedding stuff and I feel like I''m carrying all the weight with no where to vent but here! Hopefully next week will be better...thanks for listening..