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LIW book recommedation

Jessie702

Jessie702

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okay Ladies, i love to read and found a book online to recommeded all LIW to read its called" his cold feet; a guide for the woman who wants to tie the knot with the guy who wants to talk about it later" by Andrea Passman Candell....Ladies, i gotta tell you, read this book. I recieved it yesturday , am half way through, and am looking at being a LIW a little differently...its helping me with my delusion of a engagement during the holidays, honestly ladies, get the book, grab another LIW you know, and some drinks and read the book together and talk about it....it wil lhelp
 
Thanks Jessie! Sounds like a great find!
 
It is a great find and i think you might be able to find it used....which is even better
 
I've read that book and it deffinately helped explain what "ready" feels like to a guy. The author has a website too, but her forum has kind of died off.
 
I did something impulsive.. which is totally OOC for me. I ordered it : ) Thanks!
 
I've never read a "self-help" type of book before, but I did something that I don't normally do and i ordered this book after reading a bit on amazon. It arrives TOMORROW. Only problem is I live with my SO, so I just have to figure out a way not to read it in front of him until I'm ready to talk about it.
 
Thanks so much for suggesting this book! I got the kindle version earlier this week and I'm almost done. Definitely worth the price and the read. I identified with this book so well.
 
This book has helped so much, if anymore Ladies can get it..please read it..i swear it will make you a little crazy.
 
mariewest- OMG, your comment reminded me about how my boyfriend found the book at my place last month. He was REALLY mad about it. It caused a BIG fight because he said that it seemed like I was reading the book to try to manipulate him into marrying me. I explained that I had read the book a long time about because I was trying to figure out why he hadn't been ready for marriage. Eventually, he believed that I wasn't trying to manipulate him, but you can save yourself the drama if you hide the book.
 
mochamamasita - unfortunately the book did not arrive until after SO got home from work and was there when it was delivered. So now he knows about it. He kinda gave me a hard time, I'm not sure what he's really thinking (besides that it's a stupid book), but now I just read it in front of him. Oh well.
 
mariewest said:
mochamamasita - unfortunately the book did not arrive until after SO got home from work and was there when it was delivered. So now he knows about it. He kinda gave me a hard time, I'm not sure what he's really thinking (besides that it's a stupid book), but now I just read it in front of him. Oh well.
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My SO saw "Why Men Marry Bitches" and got all like "You don't need to be a bitch! Thats the last thing you should do!" I told him it is more about mutual respect and that I felt like we already had that and so I didn't need to take the book too seriously. We have a great relationship and we both know it, he came across the book while vacuuming (it was under my side of the bed) and I admitted it had been recommended to me. No biggie :)
 
After finishing the book, I really feel calmer. Of course I would like the engagement to come sooner rather than later but he has his reasons for feeling the way he does and I have to give him some breathing room.
 
Anyone who has read both "Why men marry bitches" and "His cold feet" could you tell me if you found "his cold feet" to be a lot of encouraging us girls to play mind games? That how I read a lot of "Why men marry bitches" and so I was not really all that impressed with it.

Do you think I might feel the same about "His Cold Feet" or is it worth a read?

I really need something that will help me feel ok if the proposal doesnt happen while we are overseas at the end of the year, I am really setting my set up for disappointment if it doesnt happen, because at the moment, to me... it is going to happen... so if it doesnt, I dont know what I am going to do... or how I am going to feel (broken hearted I bet).

It sounds like "His cold feet" might be able to help with it, but I dont want to waste my money if its just going to be advice on playing mind games again.
 
I haven't read both but I definitely didn't feel like it advocated playing games. It even seemed to discourage giving an ultimatum. It basically said there are some common reasons men aren't ready, women tend to be ready first, here's a good strategy for bribing up the topic for discussion, deciding if it's time to break up (not as a way to force him to propose). You can read a preview of the first chapter or two on amazon. After I read the preview I was hooked.
 
I think that "His Cold Feet" actually discouraged mind-games. It's more about understanding why you are feeling the way you do, and gives an insight as to why your SO may be feeling the way he does. It promotes communication and understanding. I'm almost done with the book, and I think it does give me some insight that is helping me chill out (a little... it's still tough, but it helps.)
 
mariewest & PrincessNatalie- I'm glad that your bf's didn't get too upset when they found the books. :)

PrincessNatalie- His Cold Feet definitely wasn't about mind games. It's more about helping you understand how men and women see marriage differently and it explains the reasons why men are sometime reluctant to take a relationship to the marriage level. In regard to your trip oversees, the book even had a (short) section about how to cope when you want him to propose on a vacation and he doesn't. The book has helped me to get thorough about 3 years of waiting for a ring.
 
I wouldnt post a book recommedation for a book that was playing mind games. I hate women and people who play mind games. I have found that the book helped me understand a lot of why he might stalling. Its truly helpful and the end give you some insight on what to do if you choose to not stay around while he decides if marruage is right for him. Honestly, its one of the best books ive read and i am not into self-help books, but i loved it. I find when LIWist gets the best of me, if i read a chapter it helps.
 
I read the preview on amazon and I am going to get the book :)

It would be excellent if it were on AudioBook but I dont think it is (cant find it on Audible or iTunes).
 
I would be happy to post my copy of "Why men marry bitches" to anyone who might appreciate it more than I did btw.
 
Ps, i would love a copy of that book, i just wonder how it is...
 
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