Let it all hangout -- The Grumpies, whinies, complainies Get It Off Your Chest Thread....

[TooPatient]

I am tired and my back aches. Supposed to be on super careful restrictions until it settles, but I truly hate just sitting. I am behind on getting the last of my veggies planted. My meal planning and prepping is a joke (thanks record breaking heat!), my necklace is still missing, I have more calls to make to insurance companies, my mom and aunt are back to hardly bothering to speak to me, my grandmother is declining, my grandfather may be (or may just be irritated that his daughter moved back in with her two kids and her boyfriend and none of them can manage to keep a job and are actively trying to clear out the stuff he collected over his life and glaring at him all day), and I just really need a few days to sleep. Can't do that. Have to get time critical stuff done. Then I can sleep. Of course I said that weeks ago. And weeks before that. Oh, I might be too overweight to have periods or I might be going into menopause. Can't say. Multiple negative pregnancy tests. Other than that, who knows.

 

[GoldenTouch]

I am tired and my back aches. Supposed to be on super careful restrictions until it settles, but I truly hate just sitting. I am behind on getting the last of my veggies planted. My meal planning and prepping is a joke (thanks record breaking heat!), my necklace is still missing, I have more calls to make to insurance companies, my mom and aunt are back to hardly bothering to speak to me, my grandmother is declining, my grandfather may be (or may just be irritated that his daughter moved back in with her two kids and her boyfriend and none of them can manage to keep a job and are actively trying to clear out the stuff he collected over his life and glaring at him all day), and I just really need a few days to sleep. Can't do that. Have to get time critical stuff done. Then I can sleep. Of course I said that weeks ago. And weeks before that. Oh, I might be too overweight to have periods or I might be going into menopause. Can't say. Multiple negative pregnancy tests. Other than that, who knows.

Hugs to you!! The bit about your Grandfather makes me particularly sad… no one needs that…. xx

 

[TooPatient]

Hugs to you!! The bit about your Grandfather makes me particularly sad… no one needs that…. xx

Thanks. Yes, that part leaves me fuming often. The rest of my family sees him as impatient and angry for no reason. He has very good reason from what I see and is handling it with more patience than I could manage! I pointed out to my cousin that it was HIS house and HIS life and if he wanted to do maintenance on something, he didn't have to get their permission or wait until it was convenient for them to move their stuff out of the way.

 

[YadaYadaYada]

Our cat is limping, started last night and I confined her to a dog crate overnight.

Two weeks ago we put $5300 into our dog to save her life and now there is something up with the cat.

I also got a subpoena this week to appear at an attorney’s office for a deposition. This has me all upset, super anxious that I will more than likely have to appear in court, can’t sleep, trying not to stress eat. This probably sounds extreme but it has just sent my anxiety soaring.

 

[stracci2000]

Our cat is limping, started last night and I confined her to a dog crate overnight.

Two weeks ago we put $5300 into our dog to save her life and now there is something up with the cat.

I also got a subpoena this week to appear at an attorney’s office for a deposition. This has me all upset, super anxious that I will more than likely have to appear in court, can’t sleep, trying not to stress eat. This probably sounds extreme but it has just sent my anxiety soaring.

Oh no.
Maybe the cat jumped from a high place and is bruised.
It could be temporary. Don't panic yet!
About the deposition......just tell it like it is. It's all you can do. I hope it all turns out for the best.

 

[YadaYadaYada]

Oh no.
Maybe the cat jumped from a high place and is bruised.
It could be temporary. Don't panic yet!
About the deposition......just tell it like it is. It's all you can do. I hope it all turns out for the best.

Isn’t this just the way? She won’t put any weight on her front left paw. Since we are up against a holiday weekend, I made an appointment for her for tomorrow at 8:30 (soonest they could see her). With our luck she won’t get better and we would have to bring her to the emergency vet over the weekend. So I’m trying to head off emergency vet charges by getting her seen sooner than later, maybe it is just a sprain and they can give her some pain meds.

 

[Matata]

Since we are up against a holiday weekend, I made an appointment for her for tomorrow at 8:30 (soonest they could see her). With our luck she won’t get better and we would have to bring her to the emergency vet over the weekend.

Every time a holiday comes around one of my cats has a health emergency. Every time, the night before we're scheduled to leave on vacation, one of the cats has a health emergency. Every.darn.time. During the pandemic, two of them had frequent need of emergency vet visits to the tune of $30,000+ in 2019. Their timing is impeccable, sigh.

I hope your fur kid is ok. Deep breath about the deposition -- you'll be ok.

 

[YadaYadaYada]

Omg @Matata, after reading that I feel like I have nothing to complain about! When our dog had surgery a couple weeks ago it was the worst possible timing because it was a weekend and at night so the fees are higher of course for the specialists. This time around I’m being much more proactive about taking care of this before the regular vets close for the holiday.

I think she has arthritis and I hope they can give her something so she isn’t in pain. She is a beefy girl so that plus being an older cat probably doesn’t help.

Thanks for the good wishes!

 

[Matata]

When our dog had surgery a couple weeks ago it was the worst possible timing because it was a weekend and at night so the fees are higher of course for the specialists.

I feel ya. After 2019, I panic every time one of them sneezes on a Friday, lol. Our emergency speciality clinic is the only one within a 500 mile radius so people have to drive here from long distances with a critically ill animal. When the staff at the clinic started coming down with covid, they started turning animals away for about a month and I would have had a 3 hr drive to the next clinic if the next one was taking patients. And then the damn fires hit in September and the clinic had to evacuate 3 times in one day with half the number of staff due to covid. This is why I always have a full bottle of vodka in the freezer, lol.

Sorry to vent when you're facing your own issues. I'm obviously still affected by the anxiety of the past year and feeling a bit too empathic about your fur kids.

 

[YadaYadaYada]

@Matata, vent on, it always helps to hear other’s experiences because it helps to keep things in perspective. I will come back and update after her appointment tomorrow. I’m sure they will want to do bloodwork and X-rays so hoping for some answers.

 

[TooPatient]

Cats and dogs always get sick at the worst times! Not that there is a good time, but after hours or on a holiday are the usual. One of our dogs hadn't seen his regular vet in nearly two years. They asked if we had a new vet for him. Nope! He saw the same emergency vet 5-6 times during those two years with all the blood work, x-rays, and whatever else done that could have been. No need to go infor a checkup if he had just had a full check the month before. (Side note... I love the emergency vet we use. They do a full exam every single time. Like dental check and everything.)

 

[TooPatient]

I remember why we don't invite people over. Having my grandparents over on the 4th to bbq hamburgers and (weather and conditions safely permitting) fire grandpa's little cannon. Great. Maybe this or that person would have fun too Grandpa says. Fine. Sounds good! So I mention to them all. Where I stand now for lunch on Sunday:

Us plus 2? Plus 4? Plus 5? Plus 6? Plus 7? Plus 8?

So DH says what about neighbors....
Okay....
Plus 2? Plus 6? Plus 8? Plus 15?

So.... I am buying food to cook for somewhere between 2 and 25. Brilliant.

 

[YadaYadaYada]

I know this is the venting thread but just wanted to come back with an update on Carly. She has a sprained shoulder and arthritis. The vet gave her some medication and a supplement to help with the pain. She will be okay

 

[missy]

I know this is the venting thread but just wanted to come back with an update on Carly. She has a sprained shoulder and arthritis. The vet gave her some medication and a supplement to help with the pain. She will be okay

Yay! I am glad you were proactive and that Carly will be A OK.
We had a similar situation when Oliver was a baby and had an eye ulcer and RW. He also got a sprained ankle and that necessitated an emergency visit and lots of $$$ for X-rays. I won't even say how much we spent on RW gate in 2019. Suffice to say it could have bought a lovely (and not small) diamond. Oh what we do for our furry babies.

 

[YadaYadaYada]

Eye ulcer….that sounds so painful @missy, he is lucky you rescued him and got him in tip top shape, even if it did cost a small fortune. I am just so glad this wasn’t more serious, after what we went through with the dog, I would have seriously lost it!

 

[stracci2000]

I know this is the venting thread but just wanted to come back with an update on Carly. She has a sprained shoulder and arthritis. The vet gave her some medication and a supplement to help with the pain. She will be okay

Gosh, I am so happy to hear this. Give her a squeeze for me!

 

[monarch64]

Idk why I'm back here...but I am. Yes, I do know why. I miss the community and the people, same reason I stayed for years and years even though I wasn't spending money on jewelry, was "just" an enthusiast. I had ONE person say something snarky to me like why was I even here and that has stuck in my craw ever since...like I don't belong here. That's a me problem, nothing to do with her, so I'm back casually because I like 99% of the posters here. But damn it! That bothered me, what she said, and it has for years. Yes, at one point I had lots of money and beautiful jewelry. I haven't had those things for quite some time. Does that make me unworthy of participating here? I guess it really stuck with me more than I thought. Thanks for listening.
And yes, to update from my last post here, $ is still yuckily tight, but what are you gonna do? We make do. It never killed anyone to go without a few things as long as they're fed, clothed, and have a roof over their head, yeah?
Missed you guys.

 

[YadaYadaYada]

@Matata, are we allowed to address something someone posts on this thread? I didn’t want to respond to a post if it is not allowed.

ETA: Actually, I changed my mind, please disregard.

 

[TooPatient]

Idk why I'm back here...but I am. Yes, I do know why. I miss the community and the people, same reason I stayed for years and years even though I wasn't spending money on jewelry, was "just" an enthusiast. I had ONE person say something snarky to me like why was I even here and that has stuck in my craw ever since...like I don't belong here. That's a me problem, nothing to do with her, so I'm back casually because I like 99% of the posters here. But damn it! That bothered me, what she said, and it has for years. Yes, at one point I had lots of money and beautiful jewelry. I haven't had those things for quite some time. Does that make me unworthy of participating here? I guess it really stuck with me more than I thought. Thanks for listening.
And yes, to update from my last post here, $ is still yuckily tight, but what are you gonna do? We make do. It never killed anyone to go without a few things as long as they're fed, clothed, and have a roof over their head, yeah?
Missed you guys.

Glad to see you around. I think a lot of people are not buying recently either because of $$$, having gotten all the pieces they wanted, other life taking time away, or new hobbies. There is also nothing wrong with "just" being an enthusiast any time!

 

[Matata]

@Matata, are we allowed to address something someone posts on this thread? I

Sure. I appreciate it when people respond within the parameters of the rules in my OP but I'm not the boss of anyone here and don't want to stifle people. I just don't want this thread to become overwhelmed with trite, cliched expressions of we shall overcome as some other threads have done. Sometimes people just need to vent without feedback.

 

[TooPatient]

How did I get myself into hosting a bbq today?! I am happiest snuggling my dogs and cats while watching John Adams for the day. Instead, I am running around preparing hamburger patties, slicing strawberries, making the 1st floor walker accessible, looking at all the NOT childproof stuff around, and stressing over where the heck we might have more chairs for outside.
Yes... I know it will be enjoyable once it happens and no one will be scandalized that we are still unpacking and I will be glad to have done it once it is over. I just hate the getting ready and waiting.

 

[ringo865]

I’ve been working from home since St. Patrick’s day 2020. Highers up thought it would be for a couple of weeks. Then we all got giant monitors and laptops (instead of chrome books) to make our WFH life easier. Monthly speculation about us coming back to the office trickled down to “not until at least the end of 2020” then to “at least thru June 30, and we’ll give you plenty of notice. Our firm went on to have “one of its most successful years ever.” So, on July 1, we were informed that we will be mandatory required to return to the office one day per week during the month of July and starting August 2 (plenty of notice) we will be required to work in the office three days per week. Days to be assigned by our manager, not allowed to be swapped. Rotate days every three months.

I’m an introvert, grew into my solitude of having no distractions, not having to make fake chitchat (where highers up would “tell” on us for talking). I may have gone off a little during the staff meeting zoom call during which we were informed of this new change. I live 50 miles away from my office. Drive half way to a park-n-ride and take a bus the other half. Total of 2.5-3 hour commute per day, which makes my workday 10-10.5 hours long, but being paid for only 7.5 hours. Busses are not even running back to full schedule. Had a private phone conversation with manager that my tone on the meeting was disrespectful to her and borderline insubordinate and would not be tolerated. I don’t even remember specifically what I said that would qualify for all of that, but I did apologize to her and started crying and told her that my mind hadn’t even digested the information before my mouth started speaking and my filter has gone away because I haven’t worked with people for over a year. Before this announcement, during the speculation period, I told my husband that if they make us go back i would probably look for another job.

Except for the excellent pay and the additional 10% they put into my 401K … I’m really upset, frustrated and mad right now. My first office day is next Thursday.

 

[TooPatient]

Kids say the darndest things. They really do. Had a couple of kids over at a family 4th of July thing. One of the kids (about 4 years old) asked me a question that stung. I answered with a smile and a 4 year old appropriate answer to the question. (No problem up to here.) Then they said that their mom says people only get big stomachs if they overeat. Her dad distracted her and all were smiles. I would never let on to a kid that age that any question was wrong and I would never say that their mom was wrong. It just stung a bit and left me thinking about how many things in the world are more complex than a little kid can get and how difficult it is to find the balance in explaining the world I'm age appropriate ways. (A 4 year old isn't going to understand that sometimes eating too little makes you gain weight or forgetting meals or metabolism or any of that.)
So, just a grumble. No fix and I do have sympathy for her parents trying to teach her everything a young mind wants to know. Just always hard when anyone makes an assumption and oversimplifies things.

 

[Lisa Loves Shiny]

I lost two friends to death in the last 10 days. Unexpected. These are the friends who were more family than my blood family. Trying to be supportive without being overbearing. Feeling kind of lost.

Financially helping a blood relative who honestly doesn't have it in them to love me or anyone else. But they are elderly and I feel responsible because they have alienated everyone else and if not me- then who?

Nothing makes me feel better right now. I hope to achieve some balance in the future.

 

[missy]

I’ve been working from home since St. Patrick’s day 2020. Highers up thought it would be for a couple of weeks. Then we all got giant monitors and laptops (instead of chrome books) to make our WFH life easier. Monthly speculation about us coming back to the office trickled down to “not until at least the end of 2020” then to “at least thru June 30, and we’ll give you plenty of notice. Our firm went on to have “one of its most successful years ever.” So, on July 1, we were informed that we will be mandatory required to return to the office one day per week during the month of July and starting August 2 (plenty of notice) we will be required to work in the office three days per week. Days to be assigned by our manager, not allowed to be swapped. Rotate days every three months.

I’m an introvert, grew into my solitude of having no distractions, not having to make fake chitchat (where highers up would “tell” on us for talking). I may have gone off a little during the staff meeting zoom call during which we were informed of this new change. I live 50 miles away from my office. Drive half way to a park-n-ride and take a bus the other half. Total of 2.5-3 hour commute per day, which makes my workday 10-10.5 hours long, but being paid for only 7.5 hours. Busses are not even running back to full schedule. Had a private phone conversation with manager that my tone on the meeting was disrespectful to her and borderline insubordinate and would not be tolerated. I don’t even remember specifically what I said that would qualify for all of that, but I did apologize to her and started crying and told her that my mind hadn’t even digested the information before my mouth started speaking and my filter has gone away because I haven’t worked with people for over a year. Before this announcement, during the speculation period, I told my husband that if they make us go back i would probably look for another job.

Except for the excellent pay and the additional 10% they put into my 401K … I’m really upset, frustrated and mad right now. My first office day is next Thursday.

Ugh, all I want to say is I am sorry and (((((hugs)))))). I know we aren't supposed to offer advice and I know you didn't ask for advice but if it is OK (and if not just skip what I am about to say) I would like to say there are many jobs where you can work from home and perhaps your quality of life is more important than the excellent pay. Or even better yet perhaps you can find another high paying job where you can continue WFH. Sending you lots of good wishes and best of luck.


Edited to add many companies who are taking a softer approach to WFH vs mandating being in the office are looking for skilled and talented people. It's a very interesting dynamic and I think things are on the side of the workers/employees right now so you might have more opportunities that you think at the moment.

 

[missy]

I lost two friends to death in the last 10 days. Unexpected. These are the friends who were more family than my blood family. Trying to be supportive without being overbearing. Feeling kind of lost.

Financially helping a blood relative who honestly doesn't have it in them to love me or anyone else. But they are elderly and I feel responsible because they have alienated everyone else and if not me- then who?

Nothing makes me feel better right now. I hope to achieve some balance in the future.

I am so sorry for your losses @Lisa Loves Shiny.
Your relative is lucky to have you.

 

[missy]

Kids say the darndest things. They really do. Had a couple of kids over at a family 4th of July thing. One of the kids (about 4 years old) asked me a question that stung. I answered with a smile and a 4 year old appropriate answer to the question. (No problem up to here.) Then they said that their mom says people only get big stomachs if they overeat. Her dad distracted her and all were smiles. I would never let on to a kid that age that any question was wrong and I would never say that their mom was wrong. It just stung a bit and left me thinking about how many things in the world are more complex than a little kid can get and how difficult it is to find the balance in explaining the world I'm age appropriate ways. (A 4 year old isn't going to understand that sometimes eating too little makes you gain weight or forgetting meals or metabolism or any of that.)
So, just a grumble. No fix and I do have sympathy for her parents trying to teach her everything a young mind wants to know. Just always hard when anyone makes an assumption and oversimplifies things.

Grrr. There is no fix for stupid. And unfortunately that kid is being raised by stupid people. :/
Sorry @TooPatient and ((((hugs)))).

 

[missy]

@Matata I am sorry if I broke your rules. I tried not to add trite cliched sayings or stifle anyone. Just wanted to add support and also a bit of advice to one poster. Back to being silent in this thread.

Sure. I appreciate it when people respond within the parameters of the rules in my OP but I'm not the boss of anyone here and don't want to stifle people. I just don't want this thread to become overwhelmed with trite, cliched expressions of we shall overcome as some other threads have done. Sometimes people just need to vent without feedback.

 

[ZestfullyBling]

I just need to get this off my chest…I lost my mom mid June when I was nine and my dad past away when I was 18 july 5. june and july are rough months for me. Im trying not to fall too deep into depression. Been on meds and have seen many psychologist over the years. it’s a daily mental and emotional struggle I am just learning to live with But never get used to living with the loss. It’s funny how Grey’s Anatomy, is helping me with my grief, making me cry when I need too and laugh when I need to.

 

[TooPatient]

Grumblegrumblegrumble
The mice have destroyed our engine cover. It is not just for show. This is a heat insulation thing. $300 to replace and I am sure they will do it again within weeks. Time to really focus on getting the garage cleaned out (still full of stuff we haven't moved into the house yet) so we can park in there with relatively few mice.