Ladies, please help....having a case of LIW'its

[Jessie702]

Okay ladies, i have beena good LIW so far, but i am having my first case of LIWits. I was talking to my mother today about my cousin, and she confessed that my one cousin just got engaged and is getting married next year. Granted i am excited for my cousin, but she is a year younger than i, and been with her FI for about 2 years, maybe a little less. Is it unfair of me to be slightly envious. I guess what makes it bad is, i promised the SO i wouldnt bug him about getting engaged this year, since he already told me its gonna happen before the end of the year, espically if all is safe with work. I dont know what to do ladies, ive never had this happen to me.

 

[4ever]

Getting lapped sucks.

It's ok to feel that way, sure it's petty and stupid but screw it, they're your feelings and your entitled to them.


Deep breaths and meditate on the thought that your left hand will not be naked come New Years.

 

[beezygal]

I understand what you mean. We will be engaged within these 3 months. It will go by quickly. Don't bug him about it, even though it's hard not to. I don't want you to be like me before. My bugged my FI so much before he wanted to breakup. He said it was such a turn off because I sound desperate if I keep asking

Your mom told you cuz she wants you to get engaged?

 

[FuturePsyD]

As much as they SUCK, the initial feelings of envy that come with others passing us by and speeding off happily on the engagement train typically diminish with some time. For myself, I'm never envious of those that I don't know since they are simply not a part of my life and don't affect me. But the feelings are unfortunately there when its friends, cousins, etc especially if they are younger or have been with their BF for a shorter period of time.

But the bright side, at least in my experience, is that the envy definitely fades in a rather short period of time.

I kinda obsess over it in my head for a few days or so, but those strong feelings that are felt initially where I think "when will it be my time", "why her, not me" etc, fade! If it's in my face, perhaps it doesn't fade 100%, but enough to where I'm not thinking about it on a regular basis.

I think its ok to give yourself a few days to feel kinda annoyed/envious. IMO, it's only a natural reaction. But then just concentrate on the good news coming your way in the next several months. Then it will be someone else's turn to be envious of you!

 

[Jessie702]

Thank you Ladies, i know it stupid, but i cant stop thinking about it. Im about over the envious feeling, now im at the" cant it happen already" phase. I know ill be fine, just really needed a good vent. Thank you ladies for listening. I guess i just have to keep thinking" just a few more months....few more months"

 

[maebelle]

At least you have the consolation of it being only a couple more months. Seems like I'm being lapped by everyone!

Although they are all have 2 year long engagements, which I am not going to stand for, so maybe i'll "beat" them to the altar anyway.

 

[Indylady]

I'm feelin' it too.

Boo.

 

[Jessie702]

I'm feelin' it too.

Boo.

As bad as this sounds, im glad im not the only one.