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Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice
I find most people don't answer my posts I can live with that.. but I mostly just comment on rings, things I really like.
I probably don't have anything of value to add here except: my love of all things diamond.
I don't think calling someone out as a troll is ganging up or being mean.. it appeared to me that this poster went beyond and was trying to play a game of sorts (as trolls do) so I said troll..... if I'd said what an ahole!, you loser etc.. that is bullying.. calling a person a troll is an opinion and the poster was looking for opinions. I am a woman, and I believe that women don't always have to be nurturing, a guy would just say "troll" and move on, but we as women (those of us who are)... we aren't all nurturers on an anonymous forum.
In all things.. Peace.
I find most people don't answer my posts I can live with that.. but I mostly just comment on rings, things I really like.
I probably don't have anything of value to add here except: my love of all things diamond.
I don't think calling someone out as a troll is ganging up or being mean.. it appeared to me that this poster went beyond and was trying to play a game of sorts (as trolls do) so I said troll..... if I'd said what an ahole!, you loser etc.. that is bullying.. calling a person a troll is an opinion and the poster was looking for opinions. I am a woman, and I believe that women don't always have to be nurturing, a guy would just say "troll" and move on, but we as women (those of us who are)... we aren't all nurturers on an anonymous forum.
In all things.. Peace.
Niel|1415970007|3783338 said:yasssss|1415966874|3783315 said:I'll reserve judgment on what I think of OP's situation, but on whether I think his story is real or not- it doesn't really matter, because in the off chance it is, you've all just run a person out of this forum. i felt like that a few months ago when I was being ridiculed to the point where someone started a thread mocking me. I think some posters were skeptical of my story too (which was about my eRing and what someone said about it). It was such an unexpected response and so totally took me by surprise- people find comfort in being able to unburden themselves in a tell-all , with the protection of anonymity, I did too, and I was shocked that people doubted my story. And felt personally hurt that I was being mocked, despite the fact that my anonymity protected me. it was a fleeting moment however, I posted again and still visit the forum. I like diamonds, and reading this forum is a fun break in my day, but I am kind of reluctant to post. I recently posted about my wedding band since my wedding is coming up and I'm excited about it, but I don't think that I'd post about any of my other diamonds or jewelry and I do feel like people get bullied in this forum. I'm no expert and probably don't have much value to contribute here, and won't be missed if I don't post again, but people do seek advice from this forum. many posters foray into PS is about diamonds, and if one of the purposes of this forum is to educate, you may want to uphold a space that is safe for everyone to participate in. Not saying that it has to be welcome hugs, pats on the back and smiley emojis galore, it should just be a space free of bullying. not too much to ask I dont think. I learned so much from PS and feel very grateful for its existence, I stuck around despite being in a thread that was turning sour. I would want others to benefit from it and from your vast treasure trove of knowledge and expertise as I did
I remember your situation and it was completely uncalled for. i myself had had situations where people from this forum post nasty things about me. I guess I'm some of that "new blood" some veterans don't appreciate
Its not fun. And its unnecessary.
However, I take exception to people coming here as trolls, as I suspect others do too. The concept of trolling is to get this forum riled up and to mock us-either on another forum or other platform.
And they get worse. The troll mentioned previously in this thread got to the point where he was trying to get peoples emails and meet up with them. I don't know what for, but that's dangerous.