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on which vendor(s) to buy from? what specs to look for? color/clarity?
on which vendor(s) to buy from? what specs to look for? color/clarity?
<---- This. There are people who want some advice but aren't as discerning/demanding in what they're looking for and not everyone needs or wants a custom setting/super ideal combo.That’s why we need to make sure we present all options and not just biased ones.
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Yes, however, mostly with respect to cut.
I find that people who want high color or clarity for "cultural reasons" can't be convinced to go down a few grades in color or clarity, even if there is no visible difference, in order to get a better cut or bigger carat size.
I find it a bit silly, personally, to pay a premium for "upgrades" that you can't actually see but understand that for some people, being able to tell other people (and perhaps yourself) that you have a D color or IF clarity diamond is more important than having a bigger sized diamond.
Other PSers have certainly influenced my buying habits