ksprincess
Shiny_Rock
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I just need to vent a little, this may be a little long.
As background, I graduated from college in May and bf still goes to school which is about 2 hours away from where I live now. He is in his Senior year and plays football so every weekend since end of August I have been going down and visiting him b/c it was very important to him that I be at his home games and I went down after his away games too. Because of this I have not gone out much here in the City but I was willing to sacrifice for a time.
Now that football is over it is expected that he will come to the City to see me now for the next 2.5 months. He came last weekend but yesterday I get a call from him and he basically tells me he has to do things helping his friends friday night and saturday morning. That didn''t bother me as it was an emergency, but then he had the nerve to ask me if I would go down there so he could take me and all of his friends out to dinner! I became really upset at this because it seemed he did not recognize the sacrifice I made and wasn''t willing to make the sacrifice himself. On top of that he had told me last week he was taking me to Alvin Ailey (my favorite dance company in the world) this Saturday and instead he selfishly chose to do what he wanted.
I proceeded to tell him I wasn''t happy about any of this and that I was really hurt by his suggestion. He then launches in to how I''d be ok w/out him Saturday afternoon and asked if maybe I was too dependent on him. WHAT?!?
Because I''m upset that he won''t show me the courtesy of keeping his word I''m too dependent? He then admits that a certain friend has been telling him I''m dependent b/c I came down every weekend for so long.
(Thats where the dependent idea came from) and the reason he''s so adamant about dinner with his friends is because they were talking and they said they wanted to know me better (of course he decides this has to be done this weekend)
After a long discussion, he admitted he was wrong, that he was being selfish, that I had sacrificed a lot, and said he was embarrased that he had called me dependent. But he wouldn''t let go of me going to dinner w/ his friends. It was like he wasn''t listening to a word I said, not one word. So after all that I agreed to go down there on Saturday b/c it was obviously very important to him. But I''m still really hurt and disappointed in all of this. He usually is the sweetest, most thoughtful man, but he is so influenced by his friends.
Thanks for listening
As background, I graduated from college in May and bf still goes to school which is about 2 hours away from where I live now. He is in his Senior year and plays football so every weekend since end of August I have been going down and visiting him b/c it was very important to him that I be at his home games and I went down after his away games too. Because of this I have not gone out much here in the City but I was willing to sacrifice for a time.
Now that football is over it is expected that he will come to the City to see me now for the next 2.5 months. He came last weekend but yesterday I get a call from him and he basically tells me he has to do things helping his friends friday night and saturday morning. That didn''t bother me as it was an emergency, but then he had the nerve to ask me if I would go down there so he could take me and all of his friends out to dinner! I became really upset at this because it seemed he did not recognize the sacrifice I made and wasn''t willing to make the sacrifice himself. On top of that he had told me last week he was taking me to Alvin Ailey (my favorite dance company in the world) this Saturday and instead he selfishly chose to do what he wanted.
I proceeded to tell him I wasn''t happy about any of this and that I was really hurt by his suggestion. He then launches in to how I''d be ok w/out him Saturday afternoon and asked if maybe I was too dependent on him. WHAT?!?


After a long discussion, he admitted he was wrong, that he was being selfish, that I had sacrificed a lot, and said he was embarrased that he had called me dependent. But he wouldn''t let go of me going to dinner w/ his friends. It was like he wasn''t listening to a word I said, not one word. So after all that I agreed to go down there on Saturday b/c it was obviously very important to him. But I''m still really hurt and disappointed in all of this. He usually is the sweetest, most thoughtful man, but he is so influenced by his friends.
Thanks for listening
