Is this ''passing gas'' etiquette?

[Samantha Red]

My husband and I definitely don''t have an issue with doing any gas passing in front of each other. I don''t mind passing water when he is in the bathroom but I will not have him in their when ''evacuating''. My worry would be if we were so concerned to not even pass gass, what would happen when we get so old and ill that the other might be looking after the other. I used to know someone who had a friend who would not go to the bathroom for a No 2 in the same house as the man she lived with - she used to ''save them up'' and visit her parents when she needed to go. How delightful for the parents!! Same as women not letting their SO see them without make up - they have to love you warts and all in my opinion

 

[steph72276]

Date: 7/2/2009 11:21:52 PM
Author: neatfreak
Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

Therefore-private is the way to go.

ditto!

 

[HollyS]

"I learned to hold all of that in, and I''m no worse for the wear." -- purrfectpear

Well, actually, it can cause considerable discomfort.

And we eat Mexican here in Texas. Lot ''o beans.

I won''t make any comments, suggestions, or imply that anyone who wouldn''t dream of ''letting go'' could maybe, possibly, jokingly be referred to as a tight a**.

No I wouldn''t ever say that.

 

[makemepretty]

I don''t do that in front of my husband(been married 18 years) and never will. He also has said he doesn''t think I poo because he''s never seen me do that either(and never will).

We went and saw The Proposal and at the end they are interviewing the ''couple'' and it shows her saying "NO, I have not farted in front of him and I NEVER will." Then it shows his interview with him saying "She farts in her sleep".

 

[atroop711]

Date: 7/3/2009 8:32:50 AM
Author: HollyS
''I learned to hold all of that in, and I''m no worse for the wear.'' -- purrfectpear


Well, actually, it can cause considerable discomfort.

And we eat Mexican here in Texas. Lot ''o beans.

I won''t make any comments, suggestions, or imply that anyone who wouldn''t dream of ''letting go'' could maybe, possibly, jokingly be referred to as a tight a**.

No I wouldn''t ever say that.

LOL Snort

 

[atroop711]

with my 3rd birth my husband saw and heard IT ALL during delivery. IF we would have had this mystery of not passing gas, ect btwn us...it would have all gone out the window that morning

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 7/3/2009 8:32:50 AM
Author: HollyS
''I learned to hold all of that in, and I''m no worse for the wear.'' -- purrfectpear

Well, actually, it can cause considerable discomfort.

And we eat Mexican here in Texas. Lot ''o beans.

I won''t make any comments, suggestions, or imply that anyone who wouldn''t dream of ''letting go'' could maybe, possibly, jokingly be referred to as a tight a**.

No I wouldn''t ever say that.

HA! Ditto!

 

[whitby_2773]

ok, i''ve had gut issues on and off over the years, so i''ve had multiple conversations with gastroenterologists. so here''s some interesting trivia...

the average person passes 2 litres of gas every day
holding gas, or bowel movements, in is about the worst thing you can do to your colon
about 80% of women defecate during childbirth (that stat came from an OB/GYN on oprah); if they DO, it''s a sign that they''re pushing CORRECTLY. most of that 80% have no idea that they have.
what goes in comes out; if you don''t eat smelly food and if you have a healthy gut, most farts don''t smell like much at all - they''re really just a little noise.
virtually everybody farts in their sleep

besides, sometimes intercourse makes little farty noises; what are you gonna do - give it up??

 

[phoenixgirl]

It''s best to try to go in private, but that isn''t always possible. I''m pregnant and I''m just glad my digestive system is working relatively well, and if I need a few farts and burps to keep it that way, I hope nobody minds!

DH and I did go through a low point when we lived in our sub-700 square feet condo with only one bathroom. It was hard enough to hold it when the other person was using the bathroom, so if the other person was showering, the toilet was fair game. Ick. I think that lowered our bodily function inhibitions around each other. Thank goodness for the 2.5 baths we have now!

 

[Lauren8211]

I think there''s a difference between refusing to poop/fart if your SO is anywhere NEAR you, and just being more discrete.

I definitely don''t fall into the category of pretending like I''m not a human in front of my SO. I go to the bathrooom (Although I will run the water

) when he is near the bathroom door. We share hotel rooms, and its not like those bathrooms are soundproof. I''ve gotten diarrhea and I''ve told him that when I''ve been running back and forth to the toilet. I''m not ashamed... I just prefer to not make him sit in the smell, and I prefer that he offers me the same courtesy.

I also will not pee with him in the room. I''m a privacy person in all areas of my life. That''s just the way I am... I''m not uncomfortable with farting/pooping/peeing.. I just like to keep it to myself if it''s possible.

I''ve already warned FI that once I''m preggers... the discreteness will likely end, and he will be witness to LOTS of gas.

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 7/3/2009 9:33:49 AM
Author: elledizzy5
I think there''s a difference between refusing to poop/fart if your SO is anywhere NEAR you, and just being more discrete.

Yes-well said.

 

[atroop711]

Date: 7/3/2009 9:17:32 AM
Author: whitby_2773
ok, i''ve had gut issues on and off over the years, so i''ve had multiple conversations with gastroenterologists. so here''s some interesting trivia...


the average person passes 2 litres of gas every day

holding gas, or bowel movements, in is about the worst thing you can do to your colon

about 80% of women defecate during childbirth (that stat came from an OB/GYN on oprah); if they DO, it''s a sign that they''re pushing CORRECTLY. most of that 80% have no idea that they have.

what goes in comes out; if you don''t eat smelly food and if you have a healthy gut, most farts don''t smell like much at all - they''re really just a little noise.

virtually everybody farts in their sleep


besides, sometimes intercourse makes little farty noises; what are you gonna do - give it up??

I love you more and more each day LOLOLOL

 

[atroop711]

Date: 7/3/2009 9:33:49 AM
Author: elledizzy5
I think there''s a difference between refusing to poop/fart if your SO is anywhere NEAR you, and just being more discrete.


I definitely don''t fall into the category of pretending like I''m not a human in front of my SO. I go to the bathrooom (Although I will run the water

) when he is near the bathroom door. We share hotel rooms, and its not like those bathrooms are soundproof. I''ve gotten diarrhea and I''ve told him that when I''ve been running back and forth to the toilet. I''m not ashamed... I just prefer to not make him sit in the smell, and I prefer that he offers me the same courtesy.


I also will not pee with him in the room. I''m a privacy person in all areas of my life. That''s just the way I am... I''m not uncomfortable with farting/pooping/peeing.. I just like to keep it to myself if it''s possible.


I''ve already warned FI that once I''m preggers... the discreteness will likely end, and he will be witness to LOTS of gas.

once your pregnant and delivering (if he''s at the delivery) he will be witness to lots more than gas

 

[LadyBlue]

Date: 7/3/2009 8:47:15 AM
Author: makemepretty
I don''t do that in front of my husband(been married 18 years) and never will. He also has said he doesn''t think I poo because he''s never seen me do that either(and never will).


We went and saw The Proposal and at the end they are interviewing the ''couple'' and it shows her saying ''NO, I have not farted in front of him and I NEVER will.'' Then it shows his interview with him saying ''She farts in her sleep''.

lol, this is me

, I don''t do it intentionally, but some accidents can happen while I''m sleeping

1 year married.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 7/3/2009 10:31:47 AM
Author: atroop711

Date: 7/3/2009 9:33:49 AM

Author: elledizzy5

I think there''s a difference between refusing to poop/fart if your SO is anywhere NEAR you, and just being more discrete.



I definitely don''t fall into the category of pretending like I''m not a human in front of my SO. I go to the bathrooom (Although I will run the water

) when he is near the bathroom door. We share hotel rooms, and its not like those bathrooms are soundproof. I''ve gotten diarrhea and I''ve told him that when I''ve been running back and forth to the toilet. I''m not ashamed... I just prefer to not make him sit in the smell, and I prefer that he offers me the same courtesy.



I also will not pee with him in the room. I''m a privacy person in all areas of my life. That''s just the way I am... I''m not uncomfortable with farting/pooping/peeing.. I just like to keep it to myself if it''s possible.



I''ve already warned FI that once I''m preggers... the discreteness will likely end, and he will be witness to LOTS of gas.

once your pregnant and delivering (if he''s at the delivery) he will be witness to lots more than gas

Haha. Yes, he''s been adequately warned. I practically read all of TGal''s worst pregnancy moments thread to him!

 

[GoingCrazy29]

Date: 7/3/2009 2:40:19 AM
Author: TravelingGal

Yes, I have manners. I don''t burp, fart, or chew with my mouth open in public. At home, I will fart and burp, although I still chew with my mouth closed.

Who farts at work or in public? I''m talking about in front of your spouse at home! And no, we don''t start it up at the dinner table. But in bed at night if I am gassy? Yup! I''m not going to keep running off to the loo in the middle of the night to pass gas. That''s ridiculous!

You took the words right out of my mouth. In public, I try to go to the restroom. At home, with my fiance, we are comfortable enough around each other to be human and humans have certain unpleasant bodily functions. We warn each other, and sometimes leave the room, but for the most part we just hope its not toooo stinky

.

 

[Haven]

Date: 7/3/2009 8:32:50 AM
Author: HollyS
'I learned to hold all of that in, and I'm no worse for the wear.' -- purrfectpear

Well, actually, it can cause considerable discomfort.

And we eat Mexican here in Texas. Lot 'o beans.

I won't make any comments, suggestions, or imply that anyone who wouldn't dream of 'letting go' could maybe, possibly, jokingly be referred to as a tight a**.

No I wouldn't ever say that.

HA! Oh my gosh, Holly, this caused me one of the "pfrrt" inducing laughs, if ya know what I mean!

I definitely don't hold it in--my comfort is worth far more than anyone else's, in my opinion

--but I do remove myself from situations so as to be discreet, that's all. It's not that I don't want DH to think I'm human (trust me--he knows--the man almost had to put an adult diaper on me when I threw my back out and couldn't move) it's that I just don't want him to be able to smell that human part of me, and vice versa, really.

Besides, we learned about poots in a science class once, and all I have to say is I don't want to be anywhere near what is coming out. Ga-ross.

 

[jas]

I''m in a mixed marriage: DH thinks it''s a form of intimacy and loves that he feels comfortable enough to act as an entire percussion/woodwind/brass section (depending on the day) in front of me. I''m all for leaving some mystery in the relationship (with allowances for medical conditions, pregnancy, or Tex-Mex).

He''s seen enough of my humanity. I was raised in a house of 5 and never EVER did I hear any of my sibs or my parents toot. Which is admittedly not the norm, I''m sure. My mother has Ulcerative Colitis and I''ve still never heard her toot. She leaves the room.

I do not necessarily want to save my bestest gastro-intestinal behavior (or any best behavior) for complete strangers and not my husband. However, that is me, and I fully support the rest of you enjoying my husband in the intimacy camp. Not passing judgement. Not passing anything here. Too public.

 

[Tuckins1]

I don''t care about it. We both will do it around each other. If I can''t be totally comfortable around my husband, who can I be comfortable around?! I do try not to do it around any OTHER people though...

 

[whitby_2773]

Date: 7/3/2009 10:28:12 AM
Author: atroop711

Date: 7/3/2009 9:17:32 AM

Author: whitby_2773

ok, i''ve had gut issues on and off over the years, so i''ve had multiple conversations with gastroenterologists. so here''s some interesting trivia...



the average person passes 2 litres of gas every day


holding gas, or bowel movements, in is about the worst thing you can do to your colon


about 80% of women defecate during childbirth (that stat came from an OB/GYN on oprah); if they DO, it''s a sign that they''re pushing CORRECTLY. most of that 80% have no idea that they have.


what goes in comes out; if you don''t eat smelly food and if you have a healthy gut, most farts don''t smell like much at all - they''re really just a little noise.


virtually everybody farts in their sleep



besides, sometimes intercourse makes little farty noises; what are you gonna do - give it up??

I love you more and more each day LOLOLOL

*laughing a LOT!*

love you too!

and happy 4th of july weekend!

 

[trillionaire]

LOL, we certainly are no Puritans over here, the dog passes gas all the time, and we laugh and laugh and think it''s hysterical! We''d probably laugh at kids, babies and old people tooting too! However, we''d prefer that those that have the self control to be able to ''spare'' other people, do so. I went to an all girls high school, and I think I about OD''d on the number of belches and farts I experienced. I think it''s foul, and I was raised differently. I have girlfriends who are not at all discreet about their functions, and I love them in spite of it, but I think it''s uncouth, really. I have far more friends that practice discretion, which makes it all the more hilarious when one accidentally squeaks it''s way out, and I bury my head in embarassment as we both laugh until we can''t breathe! I would not enjoy being in a relationship with someone that is not like minded, so I am glad everyone seems to be ''evenly yoked'' on this thread with either pooters or non-pooters!

 

[DivaDiamond007]

Hahaha - this thread has me cracking up!

DH and I do toot in front of each other and it''s no big deal. My DH was diagnosed with IBS when he was 8 years old and often is gassy - and tooting is a way to help relieve the pain. In public we are both discreet and wouldn''t let one rip in the middle of dinner or a get together, but at home is different. We eat, so we poop, no big deal there either. I will pee if DH is in the bathroom with me, but not poop. We have three toilets in the house so neither is a problem.

+1 to WHITBY - when you vaginally deliver a baby you will probably poop on the table if you are pushing the right way. I did and I totally didn''t care.

 

[cellososweet]

Well, I''m pretty classy. In public.

When I''m at home I don''t even wear pants half the time. Ok, so almost 100% of the time. DH and I have known each other since high school, so maybe that''s why we have no problem being human in front of each other. He''s lactose intolerant and eats dairy like no one''s business, so there goes the mystery. Haha.

My motto is: If you can''t relax completely at home, what''s the point of living?

 

[HollyS]

I think we all practice basic manners, not just out in public, but at home. Most of us don''t deliberately subject our SO to our wind, no matter if it is a northern or southern breeze, if you get my drift. (Pun intended. I thought it was quite clever actually, thanks for thinking so too.

)

Have we thoroughly exhausted this subject, or what?

Y''all will have to start telling your embarrassing tales, like I did, to keep this thread alive much longer. Go ahead; I''m willing to laugh at. . . er . . .with you.

 

[drk]

DH will sit on the toilet and pee in front of me. I refuse to have him in the bathroom when I''m on the can, though he has come in to hold back my hair and rub my back when I was vomiting from the gastro in Cuba. I can''t say I''ve done the same for him - I may be a doctor, and blood and guts are ok, but there''s just something about vomiting that I can''t take. He always complains that I won''t let him in while I pee. Tough luck buddy, there has to be some mystery in our relationship. When we first started dating, I tried to pee silently, but I''ve given that one up.
DH and I both try to leave the room when we know a big stinker is coming. We also warn each other when we think the bathroom smells and know that the other one is also dying for a trip to the toilet.
Belching doesn''t get held back in the privacy of our own home. And I have to admit that we don''t restrain ourselves from tooting when out walking around on the streets - if there''s enough wind out there to dissipate the smell, or we know we''ll escape from the scene of the crime and won''t be caught, that''s good enough for us.
Nighttime tooting''s ok under the bedclothes, as long as it''s not a giant smelly one (have to leave the room for that), but there''s no forcing the other person''s head under the covers to "enjoy" the results.

Funny topic!

 

[packrat]

Date: 7/3/2009 7:28:52 AM
Author: Maisie
Farts are in abundance in my house. I am a farter extraordinaire. I am the unbeaten champion. I guess I have no class. I can live with that.

I only got this far in the replies but I just had to guffaw at this. I was raised this way, so it''s like a big game in our house.

 

[packrat]

Date: 7/3/2009 2:37:53 PM
Author: HollyS
I think we all practice basic manners, not just out in public, but at home. Most of us don''t deliberately subject our SO to our wind, no matter if it is a northern or southern breeze, if you get my drift. (Pun intended. I thought it was quite clever actually, thanks for thinking so too.

)


Have we thoroughly exhausted this subject, or what?

Y''all will have to start telling your embarrassing tales, like I did, to keep this thread alive much longer. Go ahead; I''m willing to laugh at. . . er . . .with you.

Um..we''re guilty of purposely subjecting each other to it. And my dad buys fart spray. We''re a barrel of monkeys, here.

 

[Elegant]

Date: 7/3/2009 5:18:01 AM
Author: heraanderson
I'm not sure I'm seeing the connection between diamond size and passing gas.....

This thread is awesome! You guys rock!

I do try to be discreet when possible, and will occasionally step out of the room to do it. I do get a bit embarrassed but not really. I really don't go out of my way. Maybe I am just lazy. BF - let's them rip with all he's got. Is it class?

I wonder if there is a correlation...

Does gas passing = size of diamond?

I'll set the bar -

No diamond on my finger and I occasionally pass some gas in front of BF.

 

[HollyS]

I'll tell a story on my sister, who is not here to defend herself, but who would probably laugh the loudest anyway:

When we were kids, we had a school assembly in the gym, with about 100 kids and a dozen teachers, etc. We were all standing for some reason. This god-awful stench (not smell, stench) came wafting through the air where I was standing, and we all turned up our noses, said "Phew!", and then we moved en mass over to one side away from the "Thing That Smelled So Bad". And then, here it came again. Same reaction, same shift back to the opposite side of the room. We did this about twice more. No one ever identified The Stinker. Until I got home. At some point in the evening, my sis left a 'silent, but deadly' poot in her wake, and I knew then. . . she was The Stinker. "It was YOU!!", I shrieked. She admitted that she was indeed the mystery farter.

People still talk about that day and how bad it was. I kid you not. And of course, it has become a family joke to add to our collection of Sister's Fart Antics, for which she is legendary. Like the time her 5yr old outed her in the grocery store aisle with "Momma, did you poot?"

 

[Tuckins1]

Date: 7/3/2009 7:28:52 AM
Author: Maisie
Farts are in abundance in my house. I am a farter extraordinaire. I am the unbeaten champion. I guess I have no class. I can live with that.

LOL!!! Ditto!