Wedding Is this FUN???

[swingirl]

Oh dear. It doesn''t sound like fun but that doesn''t matter. What matters is it doesn''t sound like your kind of fun. It sounds like her kind of silliness. Girls going to a club and pretending to be something they are not. You are engaged and getting married--why should it be fun to act like tramp?

The spa idea sounds so much nicer. And it''s supposed to be for you. Tell her you''ve reconsidered and you don''t think it''d be fun or appropriate.

 

[Gypsy]

OK. You guys have helped me out a TON. I will resume plotting and planning a spa day and dinner. That really is what I want most to do. And I AM the bride (LOL) so, I guess I should get what I want.

 

[Maisie]

You should absolutely have what you want! Its all about you!

 

[Sabine]

I think you should definitely do the spa day if that''s what you want, but maybe compromise a bit and try to go out too, maybe dinner and dancing of a classy nature. Although maybe since your friend is still a student, offering to help with costs might help?

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 4/11/2008 5:41:00 PM
Author: Sabine
I think you should definitely do the spa day if that's what you want, but maybe compromise a bit and try to go out too, maybe dinner and dancing of a classy nature. Although maybe since your friend is still a student, offering to help with costs might help?

I am helping her with costs. I'm helping her with dress costs. Paying for her makeup and hair the day of, and the spa where we would be going allows you to stay all day and enjoy the facilities with just one treatment, and they have a broad range of treatments. I offered to help MOH with spa costs. Plus, unless my friend who just had a baby come to the wedding MOH and her fiance will be staying with us, so they don't have to worry about accomodations. She didn't nix the spa costs though. Actually she said, AFTER THE SPA, we can go to Marshalls and TJ maxx... and get outfits...

SO it would be MORE expensive that way. And while she's a student RIGHT NOW, she just got her first job, and is moving to an M-state to start it in June.

 

[Sabine]

Wow, you are being more than reasonable with the cost then!

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 4/11/2008 5:57:06 PM
Author: Sabine
Wow, you are being more than reasonable with the cost then!

LOL. I thought so. I''m trying to be, anyway. It''s good to have it confirmed though. Thanks Sabine.

 

[miraclesrule]

Darn, I was so looking forward to the pictures of your chest all full of individually wrapped lifesavers taped to it with a big sign saying "A Buck a Suck".

Okay, I didn''t make that up...I actually saw that two weeks ago at karaoke night at a local steakhouse. It wasn''t pretty...although I did offer a dollar just to make it a funny photo op.

Girrrl, I wouldn''t be backpedaling, I would have that car in reverse with pedal to the metal and tires screeching over bodies...besides it would be job security for me.

I just love personal injury defense...NOT.

And the cha-cha outfits? I can''t believe you wouldn''t pass up the opportunity to go out and strut your stuff while doing those classless shots with your hands tied behind your back.

Why do they do this?

I just think you should do whatever you want to do. It''s your wedding for gods sake, or god sakes, whichever is proper. Massage is like heaven on earth. Sounds perfect to me.

 

[FrekeChild]

Is it bad that I kine of like those blue shoes you posted...

And speaking of stripper shoes...I *ahem* own a pair. For fun, I ordered these: link I've never worn them...but it's kind of fun to be able to say that I own them. And it's fun to be eye level with BF without being on some stairs. (5'2 vs. 5'9)

And should the need arise (for my own bachelorette party) I already have them. LMAO.

ETA: I would probably not wear a dress or anything. Those shoes would probably go with a pair of pants (not pleather or vinyl or any other crazy material) and a not so skanky top.

I just love shoes. It's like an illness.

 

[Gypsy]

LOL, the heels weren''t the problem, it was the pairing the dress is the issue.

OKAY. I backpedalled. She called today to help me figure out what size dress size to get and I mentioned my discomfort with the plans we''d made, especially so close to the wedding. And stressed that what I wanted was some laid back activities, spa day, some dinner and some quality time bonding with the ladies. She sounded disappointed, but accepting. So, I think it''s going to be okay. WHEW!

 

[ladyciel]

Good to hear, Gypsy! I could NOT imagine doing the skanky clothes thing. It sounds like some fraternity house''s self-serving party theme. And as uncomfortable as it would make ME, my FI would have an absolute cow. He generally dislikes the entire concept of bachelor/ette parties, because he thinks it''s disrespectful to the couple''s commitment. And, it''s so true that half the time it''s the scheming friends who want to do the crazy party things, not the actual bride and groom (your case is a prime example). I''m completely with you on the spa day and dinner/drinks/dancing at a classy, upscale location. I want to spend the night laughing with my girlfriends and enjoying tasty food/drinks, great conversation, and real music. What night, really, is a better excuse to don your finest attire and jewelry and pay $15 per amazingly cool-looking cocktail??

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 4/12/2008 4:29:29 PM
Author: Gypsy
LOL, the heels weren''t the problem, it was the pairing the dress is the issue.


OKAY. I backpedalled. She called today to help me figure out what size dress size to get and I mentioned my discomfort with the plans we''d made, especially so close to the wedding. And stressed that what I wanted was some laid back activities, spa day, some dinner and some quality time bonding with the ladies. She sounded disappointed, but accepting. So, I think it''s going to be okay. WHEW!

Excellent! It''s YOUR party, so you get to do what you want! Simple as.

 

[tberube]

"Clearly she''s craftier than I gave her credit for."

OMG Gypsy you crack me up!! But you know, I can see how these things can get out of hand. Right now I have three people who swear they''re going to plan my bachelorette party and that it''s going to be the most fun that I have ever had. One has me in NYC, the other in P-Town, and my MOH - I think she''s got me in some nasty underground dance club with a bunch of sweaty 22 year old club dudes in tight rayon shirts. EEK.

 

[miraclesrule]

Ewww....tberube....that was quite a visual.

And I agree, I have to remind myself not to read a Gypsy post while I am drinking liquids, or I risk snouting the fluid out my nose. She cracks me up.

 

[Harleigh]

Oh my, Gypsy! I go away for a little while and next thing I know you''re going to be off tramping it up in SF! I don''t think so! That just doesn''t sound like the Gypsy we all know and love!

I am glad that it sounds like you might have regained control of the situation again, and I will keep my fingers crossed for a relaxing spa day for you.

I am trying to work that out with my girls myself while they''re here for the shower in June, but it seems they may have other ideas. Must.get.control.of.that.situation.

I will now go to bed with the image of you in that dress and those shoes and thank you for the best chuckle I''ve had all day!

Hang in there...it will all work out!

 

[Gypsy]

TO BE FAIR, my MOH would never put me, or even ASK me to put an outfit like that one on. It was more for comic effect... and exageration. But admit it: it made you smile.

Lady C... my fiance didn''t say a thing. He knew I was going to backpedal. But if push came to shove he would only have been concerned with my safety. Now, MOH''s FI would have had cow TRIPLETS. And she KNOWS it. I think that friends want to live vicariously. Still and all I like my idea of a relazing day better. Fuddy duddy or not.

Will do Gwen!

Tberube--

. Happy to make you smile. She''s very clearly gotten very tricksy. Must keep eye on her. I''m sorry your three friends are all determined to give you "the time of your life"... I would tell them that "the time of your life" is going to be YOUR WEDDING DAY, and you''d like to be clearheaded, relaxed and rested for it. Especially as you are spending a small fortune.

Miracles.

Harleigh... HONEY HOW ARE YOU!!!! Are you OKAY!!! Has the shingles (PAIN PAIN PAIN, you poor thing) subsided??? Put your foot down babe. Get control of it. FOR THE MOMENT I have the illusion of control over this shindig, and I LIKE IT. Who me? A control freak???

... Is it bad that I still want to by MOH that outfit.

 

[Harleigh]

Harleigh... HONEY HOW ARE YOU!!!! Are you OKAY!!! Has the shingles (PAIN PAIN PAIN, you poor thing) subsided??? Put your foot down babe. Get control of it. FOR THE MOMENT I have the illusion of control over this shindig, and I LIKE IT. Who me? A control freak???

... Is it bad that I still want to by MOH that outfit.

Hi Hun! Gosh, I''ve misssed you! I am feeling a lot better, thank you! My face looks a LOT better and I am actually able to smile without pain any longer, which I am very thankful for.

I guess it was late when I read what you had posted last night...all I had was the visual picture posted, your measurements and my deepest sympathy if you had to wear that get-up!

I am currently working hard at getting control over everything wedding-wise and am feeling a bit better about my health, work and the wedding each and every day, but I am still trying to just take things one day at a time and not stress too much. (Good luck with that one, Harleigh!

)

Thanks so much for thinking of me...I''m hoping to get back to being more active here on PS in the next week or so. Things are coming together all around and I''d love to start sharing with all my favorite gals again.

 

[Gypsy]

I''m so happy to hear that you are feeling better. I was thinking about you! Please, please please take care of yourself.

Don''t try to over control the wedding honey. One day at a time is good. Shingles is stress activated, which I''m sure you know... so let''s defiinitely try to keep your stress down to a minimum. (Stays the control freak

) I''m looking forward more posts from you.

(((HUGS FOR HARLEIGH!!!!)))

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 4/16/2008 1:34:21 AM
Author: Gypsy
I''m so happy to hear that you are feeling better. I was thinking about you! Please, please please take care of yourself.

Don''t try to over control the wedding honey. One day at a time is good. Shingles is stress activated, which I''m sure you know... so let''s defiinitely try to keep your stress down to a minimum. (Stays the control freak

) I''m looking forward more posts from you.

(((HUGS FOR HARLEIGH!!!!)))

Hi there, Gypsy! You are so sweet! I am feeling better this week than last, so let''s hope it keeps up! Tutoring got cancelled today due to my tutee (is that a word???) being sick, I found out I was staff member of the week (how I pulled THAT one off I have NO idea!) and I am home the earliest I''ve been in weeks...it feels good!

Nothing new planned for the wedding, unfortunately, but I am trying really hard not to let it get to me. I''m going to enjoy my afternoon off and catch up on as many posts as I can.

Thanks for the hugs...right back at ya!

 

[Harriet]

No, it isn''t. I''m sorry. Tell her what you want.

 

[cara]

Hah hah, this is a riot.

I think its good you backpedaled (since spa/dinner sounds awesome to me and bachelorette appropriate) but maybe you could throw them a bone by suggesting tapas/salsa dancing for dinner and after? if you would enjoy it, they could have some fun arranging the more lively evening entertainment...

plus, I have been to some attempts at ranchy bachelorettes in SF, and they did involve some pain for me as a mere regular guest. Thank god I wasn''t subjected to too much humiliation when it was my turn for the spotlight...

Have Fun!

 

[FrekeChild]

I just wanted to come by and say hi Gypsy and tell you that there is a bunch of PS dust floating from NM to CA in hopes that things calm down for you.

Hugs lady!

 

[Gypsy]

Harleigh honey, I''m still waiting for new posts from you.

I did Harriet.

Cara- I am glad I backpedalled. I have no idea what we are going to do, but it should be fun. I''m glad you had a non-humiliating bachelorette party.

Freke, honey. Right back at you. I could you definitely use the dust... thank you very much.

 

[Harleigh]

Ahh ha ha ha! I have been a posting fiend tonight!! You''re going to get tired of me soon, I''m sure!

It feels so good to be back on PS...I''ve missed all of you and your chuckles, your insights and commiseration when the going gets tough.

Now get going so you can keep up on my posts tonight!

 

[Gypsy]

YAY! It''s good to have you back. I haven''t been on that much, except in spurts. I''m happy to see Harleigh posts again.