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Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Sep 21, 2009
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Wow! So, I''m new here. Hello 
I found this place after (for the first time ever) getting curious and looking at jewelry and rings and engagement stories and the like. You see, my story is a bit different, and I''ve been feeling so confused the past few months, that I feel like I''ve got to vent somewhere! Hopefully you gals lend a helpful ear This might get long - so i apologize for the novel ahead of time!
So, my BF and I have been dating for over 4 1/2 years now. We met at a mutual friend''s birthday party. I was 18 at the time and he was 22. So young! haha.
Anyway, I''m 23 now, he''s 27, and we''ve had our ups and downs just like any other relationship, and we had a big blow out last year because of his mother (who was extremely clingy, going so far as to say he ''divorced'' her when he chose my relationship with him over her). Prior to that blow out, he was always saying that he thought of himself as the type to never get married, that he never saw himself loving just one woman for the rest of his life, that he was a sailor at heart. To be fair, when we first moved in together after a year of dating, it was the first time he lived in a house. He had grown up and lived on a sailboat his whole life, traveling the world. However, after the big spat, and that mini break where he begged to see me again, it''s like he''s a completely different guy. We are more in love every day and he has been the most wonderful person I could have asked for.
A year and a half ago, I decided to go back to college to finish my BFA. He supported me 100%, like he always has in everything, and before I left, went so far as not letting me pay any bills or any rent, telling me to save up as much money as possible to help pay for schooling. This year and a half has been a rough one, because we hardly see each other other than summer and winter breaks and little weekends in between, but it''s coming to the home stretch, as I graduate in May and I''ll be home for good.
Now here''s where the confusing/juicy/interesting part of the story comes in.
As I said before, he always told me he never thought of himself as a marriage type of guy, but after the storybook-like breakup and repair, he has been dropping subtle hints, always kind of in a joking manner. Things like, when I''m in the kitchen cooking dinner, says "You''re turning into my little housewife yet!". Or when going fishing, him teaching me to back the boat onto the ramp and driving the boat, says "You''ve gotta learn how to do this so when I''m a decrepit 70 year old man, you can boat me around". And when I told him, even though I''m skinny, I want to be fit and work out again, he''ll say "Awesome! I''d love to have a trophy wife when I''m older!". He makes little joking comments like this all the time, and always tells me how invested in me he is. He''s also started making baby comments. And as May and Graduation gets closer, the comments are less joking and more matter of fact. Such as... once we were sitting on the couches with the two dogs and cat romping all over the place, I made a comment like "My gosh, could you imagine the insanity if this was 3 kids instead of 3 pets?" and he replied just "Yes". And just last week, outright asked me how I felt about kids and if I could have them (I have a bunch of medical issues, so the "can I have them" question is something on my mind now). He also does silly little things like forward me images of custom built hotrods (we''re both into cars and fast things), and I''ll tell him which one I like the most, and he replied with "Good, I like that one too, but didn''t want to tell you, I wanted to see if we had the same tastes"
We agreed a long time ago that if there was going to be any marriage/baby talk, it would be strictly after I graduated when I wouldn''t have any stress on my head. Truthfully, up to this point, we''ve both been the kind of people that don''t care much for marriage or the "piece of paper" or the pomp and circumstance of a wedding. Friends of mine and friends of his say we act like an old married couple anyway, and not in a bad sense, but that we''re just so "comfortable" in the relationship. But the subtle comments haven''t been so subtle lately, and it''s kind of freaking me out! I mean, I don''t know what to think of it all really. It''s never been a reality to me before. I''ve had a boyfriend who didn''t want marriage, and then for the past year, it''s all gung-ho. The kids thing has especially been a surprising thing as well. Not that I don''t want marriage or kids, but I guess I finally am walking into the brick wall. It was never real before, and now all his comments have me looking at things like engagement info and jewelry, lol. I am so not a jewelry person normally, but somewhere in the corner of my mind, it would be nice to have a diamond ring, but I am so not materialistic... yeah. This is all so much for one brain to handle!
Do normal ladies feel like this?! haha
-B
I found this place after (for the first time ever) getting curious and looking at jewelry and rings and engagement stories and the like. You see, my story is a bit different, and I''ve been feeling so confused the past few months, that I feel like I''ve got to vent somewhere! Hopefully you gals lend a helpful ear This might get long - so i apologize for the novel ahead of time!So, my BF and I have been dating for over 4 1/2 years now. We met at a mutual friend''s birthday party. I was 18 at the time and he was 22. So young! haha.
Anyway, I''m 23 now, he''s 27, and we''ve had our ups and downs just like any other relationship, and we had a big blow out last year because of his mother (who was extremely clingy, going so far as to say he ''divorced'' her when he chose my relationship with him over her). Prior to that blow out, he was always saying that he thought of himself as the type to never get married, that he never saw himself loving just one woman for the rest of his life, that he was a sailor at heart. To be fair, when we first moved in together after a year of dating, it was the first time he lived in a house. He had grown up and lived on a sailboat his whole life, traveling the world. However, after the big spat, and that mini break where he begged to see me again, it''s like he''s a completely different guy. We are more in love every day and he has been the most wonderful person I could have asked for.
A year and a half ago, I decided to go back to college to finish my BFA. He supported me 100%, like he always has in everything, and before I left, went so far as not letting me pay any bills or any rent, telling me to save up as much money as possible to help pay for schooling. This year and a half has been a rough one, because we hardly see each other other than summer and winter breaks and little weekends in between, but it''s coming to the home stretch, as I graduate in May and I''ll be home for good.
Now here''s where the confusing/juicy/interesting part of the story comes in.
As I said before, he always told me he never thought of himself as a marriage type of guy, but after the storybook-like breakup and repair, he has been dropping subtle hints, always kind of in a joking manner. Things like, when I''m in the kitchen cooking dinner, says "You''re turning into my little housewife yet!". Or when going fishing, him teaching me to back the boat onto the ramp and driving the boat, says "You''ve gotta learn how to do this so when I''m a decrepit 70 year old man, you can boat me around". And when I told him, even though I''m skinny, I want to be fit and work out again, he''ll say "Awesome! I''d love to have a trophy wife when I''m older!". He makes little joking comments like this all the time, and always tells me how invested in me he is. He''s also started making baby comments. And as May and Graduation gets closer, the comments are less joking and more matter of fact. Such as... once we were sitting on the couches with the two dogs and cat romping all over the place, I made a comment like "My gosh, could you imagine the insanity if this was 3 kids instead of 3 pets?" and he replied just "Yes". And just last week, outright asked me how I felt about kids and if I could have them (I have a bunch of medical issues, so the "can I have them" question is something on my mind now). He also does silly little things like forward me images of custom built hotrods (we''re both into cars and fast things), and I''ll tell him which one I like the most, and he replied with "Good, I like that one too, but didn''t want to tell you, I wanted to see if we had the same tastes
"We agreed a long time ago that if there was going to be any marriage/baby talk, it would be strictly after I graduated when I wouldn''t have any stress on my head. Truthfully, up to this point, we''ve both been the kind of people that don''t care much for marriage or the "piece of paper" or the pomp and circumstance of a wedding. Friends of mine and friends of his say we act like an old married couple anyway, and not in a bad sense, but that we''re just so "comfortable" in the relationship. But the subtle comments haven''t been so subtle lately, and it''s kind of freaking me out! I mean, I don''t know what to think of it all really. It''s never been a reality to me before. I''ve had a boyfriend who didn''t want marriage, and then for the past year, it''s all gung-ho. The kids thing has especially been a surprising thing as well. Not that I don''t want marriage or kids, but I guess I finally am walking into the brick wall. It was never real before, and now all his comments have me looking at things like engagement info and jewelry, lol. I am so not a jewelry person normally, but somewhere in the corner of my mind, it would be nice to have a diamond ring, but I am so not materialistic... yeah. This is all so much for one brain to handle!
Do normal ladies feel like this?! haha
-B
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