Is it really crazy to have your ering reset for a 3rd time in under 6 mos?

[js_diamond]

I just got my ring reset last month. I initally had a round solitaire and changed it to a six prong head with diamonds on the side but only halfway. Now my friend just reset hers to a full eternity band and I am coveting that now and considering changing it to that. I just like how even if the band moves on her finger there is always diamonds to see.

Is that crazy? I may call my jeweler today to see if she will let me trade in my setting for the new one (not even sure if she''ll do that, though).

I attached a pic of my current setting.

 

[neatfreak]

It''s a bit indecisive. It sounds like there might be something else bothering you besides the setting. I personally would wait awhile and spend some time really thinking about whether it is the setting that is bothering you or something else. If you determine that your setting is really still bothering you, then you should take some time to decide what YOU really want, then make the switch.

But that is just my opinion!

 

[js_diamond]

I am the queen of indecisiveness! But I do love this setting, I just really loved her setting if that makes sense.

 

[purrfectpear]

Eternity bands can be high maintenance for daily wear.

 

[geckodani]

Date: 8/13/2008 11:55:57 AM
Author: neatfreak
It''s a bit indecisive. It sounds like there might be something else bothering you besides the setting. I personally would wait awhile and spend some time really thinking about whether it is the setting that is bothering you or something else. If you determine that your setting is really still bothering you, then you should take some time to decide what YOU really want, then make the switch.

But that is just my opinion!

I''m with neatfreak.

 

[vita*dolce]

maybe not crazy... probably kind of expensive, though. to me it seems like a bit of a "slippery slope" situation, where does it end? there will always be something you like better, i tend to agree with neatfreak and wonder if there''s not something else at the root of the problem??

 

[decodelighted]

The way you describe it ... it sounds like a whim. Like a passing fancy. "Oh my friend has full eternity and now I want it too" What''s next? Are you going to remake your e-ring every time someone new around you gets engaged? Where does it end?

Also - there''s risk to the stone every time you re-set. Is it worth the risk of damage to your stone? Do you have insurance?

Personally I think 1/2 or 3/4 eternity bands are much more practical anyway. Especially if you plan to have children. A good friend of mine had to have her e-ring and wedding band cut off.

 

[Bliss]

It is normal to have buyer's remorse.

I would wait 6 months and see if it still bothers you. Methinks it will, so if you both can afford to keep changing settings, I don't see why it would be a problem. Hey, some girls change their haircolor every month! Why not? Sometimes it takes a while to find the right one.

But this time, I'd wait a little so you can get ALL the characteristics you want in the next setting.

ETA: Deco's post is very wise. You do risk chipping every time you set your stone. And I vote for 3/4 eternity.

 

[geckodani]

Date: 8/13/2008 12:04:37 PM
Author: Bliss
It is normal to have buyer''s remorse.

I would wait 6 months and see if it still bothers you. Methinks it will, so if you both can afford to keep changing settings, I don''t see why it would be a problem. Hey, some girls change their haircolor every month! Why not? Sometimes it takes a while to find the right one.

But this time, I''d wait a little so you can get ALL the characteristics you want in the next setting.

Guilty.

 

[Bliss]

Date: 8/13/2008 12:05:37 PM
Author: geckodani

Date: 8/13/2008 12:04:37 PM
Author: Bliss
It is normal to have buyer''s remorse.

I would wait 6 months and see if it still bothers you. Methinks it will, so if you both can afford to keep changing settings, I don''t see why it would be a problem. Hey, some girls change their haircolor every month! Why not? Sometimes it takes a while to find the right one.

But this time, I''d wait a little so you can get ALL the characteristics you want in the next setting.

Guilty.

You go, girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[js_diamond]

Thanks! I needed to hear some sense. I am leaving my setting alone. I do love it, I do! I just loved hers too and thought maybe, but it''s silly. I will just focus on my wedding band now.

 

[geckodani]

Date: 8/13/2008 12:06:08 PM
Author: Bliss

Date: 8/13/2008 12:05:37 PM
Author: geckodani

Date: 8/13/2008 12:04:37 PM
Author: Bliss
It is normal to have buyer''s remorse.

I would wait 6 months and see if it still bothers you. Methinks it will, so if you both can afford to keep changing settings, I don''t see why it would be a problem. Hey, some girls change their haircolor every month! Why not? Sometimes it takes a while to find the right one.

But this time, I''d wait a little so you can get ALL the characteristics you want in the next setting.

Guilty.

You go, girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LOL! It''s been red, brown, blonde, orange, pink, black, purple..... yes, purple. That was in college though. It''s been holding steady at some variation on red/blonde this summer.

js - I think focusing on your wedding band is a wonderful idea, and a way to get creative as well.

 

[Maisie]

Date: 8/13/2008 11:55:57 AM
Author: neatfreak
It's a bit indecisive. It sounds like there might be something else bothering you besides the setting. I personally would wait awhile and spend some time really thinking about whether it is the setting that is bothering you or something else. If you determine that your setting is really still bothering you, then you should take some time to decide what YOU really want, then make the switch.

But that is just my opinion!

Someone said this to me too. I am curious to hear what you think may be bothering her.

 

[Mediterranean]

Coming to the party a bit late, but...yeah. I would personally fear that any more re-sets would fracture or scrape up the center stone (but, then again, I live in mortal fear of the dreaded "chipping" because I have a princess, which is notorious for having structural weakness at the "points"). Also, wow, girl! You have some PATIENCE! I had a hard time letting go of my ring for SIZING, let alone 3 re-sets! I think I''d start to have separation anxiety if i were parted from my ring for any longer than absolutely necessary, LOL

 

[MMT]

I think your ring is beautiful I would give it a little longer and see how you feel.

 

[miraclesrule]

I agree, eternity bands can get pretty banged up and your ring is beautiful.

Unless you flash a peace sign all day (like I do), I wouldn't worry about it . And that only works if your ring is on your middle finger, like the one I want made.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

You''ll always see rings you love, but that doesn''t mean you should be changing your ring to have each and every look! Three times is "crazy." lol

 

[marcy]

Your ring is gorgeous. I agree let it go for a few months and see if you still want to change it.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 8/13/2008 8:32:08 PM
Author: MC
You''ll always see rings you love, but that doesn''t mean you should be changing your ring to have each and every look!

This is what I was going to say.

Seriously, I see rings on here all the time that I really love, but, I love mine most, because it''s ME, and that''s why I don''t feel any need to change it. All you need to do is think about what setting says "you". If it''s what you have, great, you''re done. If you realize it''s something else (but no cheating

), then change it, after you''ve sat on it a bit. Not literally though.

 

[LaurenThePartier]

You always have a right hand?

I say leave your poor diamond alone for a while - I''m also one that fears chipping/scratches so much that I requested a bezel setting. This thing is never getting reset.

 

[westjenn]

Date: 8/13/2008 9:04:37 PM
Author: LaurenThePartier
You always have a right hand?

I say leave your poor diamond alone for a while - I'm also one that fears chipping/scratches so much that I requested a bezel setting. This thing is never getting reset.

Ditto what Lauren said. A RHR just might satisfy that need for change, or what about an full eternity band to go with your engagement ring?

My diamond is also bezel set for exact same reasons Lauren explained above. I found a setting that I adore and luckily I am certain that this is the last home for my diamond!

 

[diamondfan]

You can wait and see, it is a nice setting that you have now, but of course full diamonds around looks so different if it spins.

I think you might be fine to wait and see if you still want to do it...

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Um....I think it''s fine. Do what you gotta do. I don''t see anyone complaining about Maisies several upgrades and setting changes. Everyone is totally entitled to have exactly what they desire.

For me, I am attached to my FI''s choice although it is not what I would have picked....then again I am not running full speed to change it. *sets down glass of wine*....

just my opinion dearee''s, sorry if I offend.

 

[february2003bride]

I believe Woobug and I are the rest queens here on PS so if I call you crazy then I''m calling myself crazy too

It''s not crazy BUT it is expensive, time consuming and could damage your stone. Take this advice from someone who is done resetting for a while (and reset a few times in like 6 months, alot of which I never mentioned here on PS): Think about what you REALLY want long term. Once you decide then then think about how it fits to your lifestyle and how it fits with YOU (not others!). Then go for it *if* you haven''t changed your mind again.

Also, don''t copy your friend''s ring! There have been a few posts on PS over the years about someone having their e-ring or wedding set copied by a friend or relative and it never goes down well.

If I were you, I''d keep the ring you have a get a full or 3/4 eternity wedding band. Something classic, like shared prong rounds or channel set. You get the bling and there is a high chance it''ll go with a different setting, should you change again someday.

 

[LaraOnline]

Is it really crazy? Yes! lol
you have entered the dark side of jewellery appreciation, methinks
Hold your fire!

 

[js_diamond]

Thanks for all the opinions! I am leaving my ring alone, I love it. I will think about getting an eternity ring for my wedding band.

And actually my friend copied or shall I say was inspired by my reset and reset hers but just got an eternity band instead of a half moon like I have.

 

[HollyS]

You have a beautiful ring. I think you need to live with it awhile (longer than the few months you''ve had it) before you change anything else. You may ''fall in love'' with yours, and not desire any other changes. Give it time.


I know this is Pricescope; home of the diamond lovers. But I''m getting concerned with the sheer number of posts about dissatisfaction with e-rings after just a few months. It''s happening with people who chose their own rings! Ladies, we can love diamonds; but the engagement is not about the ring. Where is the sentimentality in constant upgrades or changes? Upgrading for an anniversary, for instance, allows a couple to maintain the romance and significance of the milestone . . . not the jewelry itself. (And of course, I''m not talking about people who had to make minor/major adjustments to the setting to maintain the integrity of the stone, or prevent damage to it.)

 

[decodelighted]

Oh I feel a slight hijacksies coming on ...

Date: 8/13/2008 10:33:18 PM
Author: iwannaprettyone
I am attached to my FI's choice although it is not what I would have picked....

As am I. I'm like a ring stalker of your ring & a few others around here! (WestJenn's ring is very close to my first e-ring love.)

So, out of idle bleary-eyed work-avoiding curiosity ... what *would* you have chosen yourself? Sigh. I can't think of anything more lovely ... excepting perhaps a certain Deco-ish e-ring of which I'm quite fond myself.

ETA: Of course its natural to crush on other people's rings & new styles as you discover them. Practically though there are just countless things in life that we can love & want & are "so us" but not enough time & $$$ to actually OWN most of them.

 

[krisvrn]

Date: 8/13/2008 12:12:52 PM
Author: Maisie

Date: 8/13/2008 11:55:57 AM

Author: neatfreak

It''s a bit indecisive. It sounds like there might be something else bothering you besides the setting. I personally would wait awhile and spend some time really thinking about whether it is the setting that is bothering you or something else. If you determine that your setting is really still bothering you, then you should take some time to decide what YOU really want, then make the switch.


But that is just my opinion!

Someone said this to me too. I am curious to hear what you think may be bothering her.

i think she may not be happy with her diamond and so she continues to change the band because that is easier to change, less expensive and she would not have to "convince" her SO to let her change setting. i am sure if she asked to change the diamond her SO may not allow her this so she is putting her efforts towards the band....

 

[S&M]

I did mine 3 times. First had a bulky diamond band with an assher, then I reset it to a solitaire, Now I just received the third one which is a cushion. I suppose if you are not being a pain to your FI about it then do it. But their in his mind he may be unhappy that he did not get the one you liked the first OR SECOND time.