throughthemist
Rough_Rock
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I kinda need to vent. Maybe?
I recently purchased a vintage diamond ring for myself, which I wear as my right hand ring. I had a major career milestone so it was a gift to myself from me.
It is a multiple-row cluster band. I was deciding between this band and a solitaire ring (priced at a similar price point), but ultimately decided on the cluster band since the solitaire ring felt too much like an e-ring. The quality of the diamonds in the band isn't that great, but I got an amazing deal on it at a pawn shop. There are noticeable inclusions when you look at it with a loupe, but they are eye clean (for the most part) and overall, it is the symbolic meaning of the ring that means the most to me. My birthstone is also a diamond so it's even more special to me.
Ever since I got it, the ring comes up frequently in conversations. People will later tell me that they noticed it as soon as they saw me (even though they don't bring it up right away) and the FIRST question that I'm asked is "so it's real then?" or "is it real?" or some variation of it. Even my boyfriend asked me if it was real.
The questions don't really offend me as I just attribute it to genuine curiosity. Plus the ring is a bit unique looking due to the vintage style (and the double rows make a statement IMO), so I just explain that yes, it's real. I purchased it as a gift for myself as a career milestone & I got a great deal on it at a pawn shop, etc, etc. I also throw in a few recommendations for pawn shops that have a great selection on used jewelry. Usually people will just congratulate me on my milestone and/or mention they want to check out those places for themselves too.
It really doesn't offend or bother me that people ask if it's real. I think it's just curiosity. However, recently a friend told me that it was really offensive for someone to ask that and that if she were me, she would be very offended if someone asked if her jewelry was real.
I am a bit thick skin, so I guess I'm wondering if I supposed to be getting offended for people asking? If so, why exactly is it offensive? I can understand why someone would be offended if someone asked if a small stone were real, but since this ring is a unique looking, statement ring, I can see why people would wonder?
I recently purchased a vintage diamond ring for myself, which I wear as my right hand ring. I had a major career milestone so it was a gift to myself from me.
It is a multiple-row cluster band. I was deciding between this band and a solitaire ring (priced at a similar price point), but ultimately decided on the cluster band since the solitaire ring felt too much like an e-ring. The quality of the diamonds in the band isn't that great, but I got an amazing deal on it at a pawn shop. There are noticeable inclusions when you look at it with a loupe, but they are eye clean (for the most part) and overall, it is the symbolic meaning of the ring that means the most to me. My birthstone is also a diamond so it's even more special to me.
Ever since I got it, the ring comes up frequently in conversations. People will later tell me that they noticed it as soon as they saw me (even though they don't bring it up right away) and the FIRST question that I'm asked is "so it's real then?" or "is it real?" or some variation of it. Even my boyfriend asked me if it was real.
The questions don't really offend me as I just attribute it to genuine curiosity. Plus the ring is a bit unique looking due to the vintage style (and the double rows make a statement IMO), so I just explain that yes, it's real. I purchased it as a gift for myself as a career milestone & I got a great deal on it at a pawn shop, etc, etc. I also throw in a few recommendations for pawn shops that have a great selection on used jewelry. Usually people will just congratulate me on my milestone and/or mention they want to check out those places for themselves too.
It really doesn't offend or bother me that people ask if it's real. I think it's just curiosity. However, recently a friend told me that it was really offensive for someone to ask that and that if she were me, she would be very offended if someone asked if her jewelry was real.
I am a bit thick skin, so I guess I'm wondering if I supposed to be getting offended for people asking? If so, why exactly is it offensive? I can understand why someone would be offended if someone asked if a small stone were real, but since this ring is a unique looking, statement ring, I can see why people would wonder?
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