Julie, does he make comments about his own body? If he talks about wanting to get leaner, then yes, I'd say it's ok to suggest working out together or trying out a new activity. If he seems perfectly content with his body, then no, I wouldn't go there.Date: 3/20/2009 6:53:13 AM
Author: JulieN
he's not a slob.
it's just hard because food is how I show love. Now, my food isn't particularly fattening or unhealthy, but he and I have different habits. He eats all day while he works, while I eat lightly during the day, and take in more calories at dinner.
I like cooking, so if I make something (most days) I want him to come home and eat it! But he likes to go to the gym after work. But if he does plan to go to the gym, he'll usually eat dinner before coming home.
Complicated? Maybe if we can split gym nights and dinner nights.
Some ladies are saying that their hubbies USED to have great bodies... you know, when they fell in love with him. Mine hasn't had a hot body for a few years (before I met him) and I think part of that is why I am not as attracted to him as I think I could be.
Date: 3/20/2009 7:46:44 AM
Author: makemepretty
No. I think that''s mean. As you age, your body changes and eventually...he''ll be old and won''t look at all like he did when you met him. That''s why it''s important to love the person, not the package.
Date: 3/20/2009 6:53:13 AM
Author: JulieN
I like cooking, so if I make something (most days) I want him to come home and eat it! But he likes to go to the gym after work. But if he does plan to go to the gym, he''ll usually eat dinner before coming home.
That made me laugh so hard. It reminded me of those late night commercials with the girls asking you to call theDate: 3/20/2009 5:57:31 AM
Author:JulieN
who doesn''t like a hard body?
Date: 3/20/2009 6:43:20 AM
Author: atroop711
If my dh became so unhealthy then I would say something (since we have 3 kids) but not before. I''m not into the ''perfect'' body...just into him
So, I feel like I should get this off my chest. I didn''t want to break up because I didn''t love you. You''re amazing, I loved ya. I had talked with my friend Justin, and he was telling me about how his wife had really let herself go after they got married. Quit wanting to work, sat around the house, gained a bunch of weight, and he was just miserable. I kept telling myself that wouldn''t be us, but I guess I really psyched myself out. I loved you too much to tell you I noticed you had gained weight when i saw you (I know I had too), so rather than talk about that fear I just kept it inside. Everytime I talked to Justin, he sounded so miserable. I guess I got scared about that, and I didn''t know how to talk to you about it. It''s really such a shallow topic, you were about to be my wife, the last thing I wanted to say is baby please don''t get fat or lose your motivation.
Ohhh... my goodness.Date: 3/20/2009 10:36:02 AM
Author: Thomperchik
This is a very sensitive issue for me. I don''t think it is ever a good idea to ask your significant other to loose weight/get toned unless they brign it up!
For men it might be different, but it is never, ever a good idea to ask a woman to lose weight!
I don''t want to thread-jack, but I received this email from my ex last week, and this is one of the reasons why I don''t think it''s a good idea to ever bring weight up, unless your SO does it first...
-----Original Message-----
From: Jerk
Sent: Friday, March 13, 2009 7:31 AM
To: Thomperchik
Subject: hey
So, I feel like I should get this off my chest. I didn''t want to break up because I didn''t love you. You''re amazing, I loved ya. I had talked with my friend Justin, and he was telling me about how his wife had really let herself go after they got married. Quit wanting to work, sat around the house, gained a bunch of weight, and he was just miserable. I kept telling myself that wouldn''t be us, but I guess I really psyched myself out. I loved you too much to tell you I noticed you had gained weight when i saw you (I know I had too), so rather than talk about that fear I just kept it inside. Everytime I talked to Justin, he sounded so miserable. I guess I got scared about that, and I didn''t know how to talk to you about it. It''s really such a shallow topic, you were about to be my wife, the last thing I wanted to say is baby please don''t get fat or lose your motivation.
Anyways, I am sorry for texting you last night, I just really miss you sometimes. I hope you are doin alright, if you ever have time to write and let me know what''s goin on with you I would love to hear
Well said, I agree. I can''t imagine ever saying anything based on how attracted I am/might be to him; I think that would be potentially much more hurtful than helpful.Date: 3/20/2009 8:59:46 AM
Author: Deelight
The only time I would ever say anything is if it were an issue of health because I care about him and I love hi, and then I would tread lightly and make it something we both did.
Date: 3/20/2009 10:36:02 AM
Author: Thomperchik
This is a very sensitive issue for me. I don''t think it is ever a good idea to ask your significant other to loose weight/get toned unless they brign it up!
For men it might be different, but it is never, ever a good idea to ask a woman to lose weight!
I don''t want to thread-jack, but I received this email from my ex last week, and this is one of the reasons why I don''t think it''s a good idea to ever bring weight up, unless your SO does it first...
-----Original Message-----
From: Jerk
Sent: Friday, March 13, 2009 7:31 AM
To: Thomperchik
Subject: hey
So, I feel like I should get this off my chest. I didn''t want to break up because I didn''t love you. You''re amazing, I loved ya. I had talked with my friend Justin, and he was telling me about how his wife had really let herself go after they got married. Quit wanting to work, sat around the house, gained a bunch of weight, and he was just miserable. I kept telling myself that wouldn''t be us, but I guess I really psyched myself out. I loved you too much to tell you I noticed you had gained weight when i saw you (I know I had too), so rather than talk about that fear I just kept it inside. Everytime I talked to Justin, he sounded so miserable. I guess I got scared about that, and I didn''t know how to talk to you about it. It''s really such a shallow topic, you were about to be my wife, the last thing I wanted to say is baby please don''t get fat or lose your motivation.
Anyways, I am sorry for texting you last night, I just really miss you sometimes. I hope you are doin alright, if you ever have time to write and let me know what''s goin on with you I would love to hear
Date: 3/20/2009 10:51:56 AM
Author: Italiahaircolor
Thomperchick, you dodged a huge bullet. Thank your lucky stars and block his e-mail from busting through...you don''t need to listen to that bulls***.
Just stopping in to say I had to read this.
Also...better re-start working out.