Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reaction?

[inflorescence]

My boyfriend has been making several hints for the past 3 months that he "wants to spend forever with me, when we have children, when we get married..." I overheard him saying over six months ago that he has been waiting to travel Europe because he wanted to do it with the women of his dreams...(One of the only places in the world he hasn't been) So a few months ago he asked me to join him in a six month adventure to Europe.... hmmm interesting eh? We have been talking about getting married, and we both know its what we want... but I still don't get my hopes up too much, because who knows how long he is going to make me wait.... but I went to my girlfriends wedding a few weeks ago and he came.... I caught the flowers... his response "I can't wait to tell my parents"... He is constantly making hints towards proposal and marriage, but then sometimes say getting married is awhile away.

TODAY, he said "you look incredible in that white sweater, I REALLY like you in white...." I tilted by head, 'huh?" Him, "That was a little obvious..."

So our flights are booked for Europe, we will be in London for Christmas this year, and then Paris for New Years (his request) and has said he has made the plans for our entire day.... I am thinking he might, but I may be getting way ahead of myself?

What do you think? He's 27... I'm 24... we have been dating for a year and a half and have lived together for six months. He is very romantic, so he might just be planning a romantic New Years. I don't want to get myself all worked up thinking he is proposing and then him not that night and me lose out on the romantic evening... cause I will get myself all hyped up, well who wouldnt?!?!?! I'm going to PARIS for New Years.. lol.... So anxious.. I can't stop thinking about it..lol...

Thoughts?

Thank You

 

[mochamamasita]

Re: Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reactio

I think that the comments that he's making sound VERY promising. Good luck .

 

[Amys Bling]

Re: Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reactio

it does sound promising. Even if it doesnt happen then, london and paris for the holidays!!!! that is amazing in itself


BUt I do think NY in paris sounds promising!

 

[PrincessNatalie]

Re: Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reactio

Honestly and I dont know if guys actually think the same way we do, but if I were a boy I dont think I would be able to take my lovely, "dream girl" to Paris for New Years and NOT propose, lol. It would be kind of passing on one of the most romantic proposal opportunities ever.

I have a goood feeling

But also either way, your going to have a blast!

 

[inflorescence]

Re: Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reactio

.... but if I were a boy I dont think I would be able to take my lovely, "dream girl" to Paris for New Years and NOT propose, lol. It would be kind of passing on one of the most romantic proposal opportunities ever.

EXACTLY!! Almost makes me want to pop the question to him.. lol..... it's official... I have a case of the LIW itis...

 

[AdanaEsq]

Re: Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reactio

I agree that it sounds very promising but don't get your hopes up too much. Enjoy the trip. I absolutely adore London. Didn't like Paris much but had a very Carrie SATC type day there years ago. They are such amazing cities. Have a wonderful time and if he does propose then that's the icing on the cake.

 

[SweetPea-<3]

Re: Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reactio

With comments like "he wanted to do it with the women of his dreams" and "getting married is awhile away", it makes me worry that he's too immature to get married right now. I wouldn't get my hopes up for New Years. Just enjoy the trip for what it is. Sorry, hun. Hope I'm wrong.

 

[inflorescence]

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Ok, so I have decided to stop getting myself all worked up and just take the trip for what it is, an incredible opportunity.


But we had one of our mutual best friends over for a bit and he said,
Friend: "Im really going to miss you guys"
BF: "You'll see us at the wedding.... you're going to be the best man''...
Me:

Friend: "We'll have to put me in a dress too as a bridesmaid"

They continued the conversation on who he would have as groom.....with me right there.....

Maybe I am reading WAY too much into this, and this is typical stuff boys talk about, or just wanted to see my reaction?!

Since then, I have been on this site in the "In Private" viewing feature, in case he comes in I can close the window and he has no idea what I have been looking at.... today he came home to me on the couch reading the proposal section so I closed it super quick and gave the "I swear Im not doing anything bad look...".... he in his cute way asked me what i was doing... "nothing....I was looking at a forum".... he tried to pry a little more but I wasnt giving, telling him I was embarressed.... so at dinner he says, "what kind of forum were you on, one about proposals in europe?".....

I picked up my napkin and laughed into it....

I said "sort of..."...


he said something along the lines of "well we are in a serious relationship, and are at a stage that people would propose... but Im going to stop this conversation here......"


.....ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...... now I have no clue.

 

[AdanaEsq]

Re: Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reactio

Honestly with those comments and everything leading up to the trip, if he didn't propose it would seem cruel. I hope he's not the type that's saying these things to rile you up.

 

[PrincessNatalie]

Re: Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reactio

Lol, its all very exciting but I am not sure I would be putting up with my BF playing mind games like the above, does he want you to enjoy the trip or be worrying about him proposing the whole time?

 

[w.a.n.d]

Re: Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reactio

Seriously, if he didn't after all of that, I would be a little surprised (and miffed if I were you). By what you have said, he seems like a pretty sensitive guy, so surely he would know that saying all of those things right before you go away might lead you to believe an engagement was pending. Anyone in their right mind would think that!

I hope it does happen! What a wonderful opportunity to have a memorable engagement. Otherwise, you'll spend the entire trip thinking about it even if you are trying not to. Good luck!

 

[4ever]

Re: Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reactio

EEEEEEEKKK! I'm very excited for you!



However, I think you should do your best to forget about it now and just focus on the trip. If you build it up too much and he dosn't do it then I think it would be really heart breaking (been there, done that, not fun). So tell yourself (often) that the propsal will happen Feburary next year but this trip will be really awesome anyway

 

[inflorescence]

Re: Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reactio

First of all, thank you for everyones input... it's helping me stay together! haha I'm really glad I found this site.

I would be shocked if he doesnt too w.a.n.d!

You're right AdanaEsq it would be very very very cruel of him, and he is not the cruel type at all.... And I agree with you PrincessNatalie about not wanting to put up with mind games- He knows I hate games, I almost want to tell him to stop playing games/hinting/whatever he's doing unless he is going to do it, I want to let him know im onto his antics! Haha Or is it bad to know you're figured them out?!!? That can give them the chance to make you wait longer

ahhhh I can hardly contain my excitement.... AHHHHH!
*deep breath in*
.....*sigh*....
ok.

Great idea for me to change my mindset 4ever, I have been trying very hard...but he keeps making more and more comments... but I will try and pretend that it won't be until after we come back to Canada ... I think I can handle this, but his comments are not helping my sanity!

Do men realize this drives us up the wall? I really don't like he has the power, I would have asked him months ago if it was up to me.... lol.......

Thanks again ladies, if anything else happens Ill be sure to fill you in!!

 

[DuckLovingVegan]

Re: Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reactio

It does sound like it's possible. I'm jealous you get to spend six months in Europe and with you SO to boot. I could never take that much time off. Enjoy your trip and especially Paris for new years. Let us know how it all turns out. ******DUST*******

 

[Winks_Elf]

Re: Is he about to? Or just testing the waters for a reactio

Lol...he sounds like a little boy who can't wait until Christmas morning for mommy to open up the little craft present he made for her in school (I have one of those...two, actually). If he IS going to propose, he's at risk of doing it before you even get off the plane!

I just hope the whole snow thing in London gets resolved before you have to fly there. Have a great time, and take a deep breath!