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Date: 3/25/2009 5:22:18 PM
Author: AmberGretchen
Not dead, but certainly rare...
Agreed. My hubby always opens doors for women and has taught my 4 year old son to do the same. My little one and I were going to eat at Panera Bread the other day and he opened the door and said to the lady in front of us "ladies first"! But I must say, it is rare...like when I was 6 months pregnant on a train going to the airport terminal and no one offered a seat and I had to stand up...that is so rude. I'm not a man, and I always offer my seat to pregnant or elderly people and I always hold doors open for people right behind me. Some people just don't have manners anymore.Date: 3/25/2009 5:22:18 PM
Author: AmberGretchen
Not dead, but certainly rare...
Yeah - it is becoming more and more rare... sad to say. Good thing we''ve married and are raising some good ones!Date: 3/25/2009 5:25:11 PM
Author: steph72276
Agreed. My hubby always opens doors for women and has taught my 4 year old son to do the same. My little one and I were going to eat at Panera Bread the other day and he opened the door and said to the lady in front of us ''ladies first''! But I must say, it is rare...like when I was 6 months pregnant on a train going to the airport terminal and no one offered a seat and I had to stand up...that is so rude. I''m not a man, and I always offer my seat to pregnant or elderly people and I always hold doors open for people right behind me. Some people just don''t have manners anymore.Date: 3/25/2009 5:22:18 PM
Author: AmberGretchen
Not dead, but certainly rare...
That''s great Steph! I''m not sure if chivalry is dead. I think it''s polite to hold doors open for the person behind you and as you mentioned, offer your seat to someone else in need, no matter if you''re a woman or a man.Date: 3/25/2009 5:25:11 PM
Author: steph72276
Agreed. My hubby always opens doors for women and has taught my 4 year old son to do the same. My little one and I were going to eat at Panera Bread the other day and he opened the door and said to the lady in front of us ''ladies first''! But I must say, it is rare...like when I was 6 months pregnant on a train going to the airport terminal and no one offered a seat and I had to stand up...that is so rude. I''m not a man, and I always offer my seat to pregnant or elderly people and I always hold doors open for people right behind me. Some people just don''t have manners anymore.Date: 3/25/2009 5:22:18 PM
Author: AmberGretchen
Not dead, but certainly rare...
Agreed. I was telling my friends that a man that treats a woman well will see very quickly what type of woman she is. The type that appreciates kindnesses and reciprocates, or the kind that constantly demands more, more, more!Date: 3/25/2009 6:42:51 PM
Author: mayachel
The problem is that it is one of those, 'the good deed is its own reward' actions. If men only knew the rewards women are willing to heap on them for doing so though...
Date: 3/25/2009 5:53:27 PM
Author: Pandora II
It's certainly still here - I've been offered a seat on the bus or tube everytime I've taken either for the last 5 months (ie since I've 'looked' pregnant), and have often been offered them in the past just for being female.
Most men I know will open doors for me, walk on the road-side of the pavement, wait till I'm inside my front door if they give me a lift home, carry my suitcases and generally treat me in a gentlemanly manner.
I definitely expect men to be chivalrous.
You're in the UK if my memory serves me right?
Date: 3/25/2009 7:31:04 PM
Author: Lill_The_Thrill
Date: 3/25/2009 5:53:27 PM
Author: Pandora II
It''s certainly still here - I''ve been offered a seat on the bus or tube everytime I''ve taken either for the last 5 months (ie since I''ve ''looked'' pregnant), and have often been offered them in the past just for being female.
Most men I know will open doors for me, walk on the road-side of the pavement, wait till I''m inside my front door if they give me a lift home, carry my suitcases and generally treat me in a gentlemanly manner.
I definitely expect men to be chivalrous.
You''re in the UK if my memory serves me right?
....You ladies in the UK are spoiled
....It''s realllyy *very* different there, compared to other places I''ve been. Chivalry is very much alive in the UK (in my opinion). I was visiting there for 5 days, men would open doors, give me their seat on the bus, etc, and I''ve *never* ever experienced that in Sweden (where I am), not one single person has opened a door for me here in Sweden, itäs just not common here, at ALL...Men get on the bus or train and run for the empty seat.![]()
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I remember being shocked by how nice people esp men in London were, opening doors, helping us with our suitcases on the tube, etc, and the second we got back to Sweden, and were trying to get on the train with our suitcases, people would literally push us, to get on the train before us.Talk about reality check.![]()
Date: 3/26/2009 2:00:08 AM
Author: FrekeChild
FI is chivalrous. Don''t know anyone else that is though...
SO true. People in general have just become more rude. I love it when I come in contact with the exceptions.Date: 3/25/2009 6:19:34 PM
Author: HollyS
If you are talking manners, it is not dead but definitely limping. (And the average woman doesn''t behave any better.)
If you are talking true chivalry, where a man will protect women and children, even at his own peril, it is probably on life support.
But I don''t think either will ever be completely dead. There will always be ''real men'', even if they are a minority.
That''s so good to hear about the young guy - there IS hope!Date: 3/25/2009 7:08:47 PM
Author: strmrdr
nope because I practice it.
Except on occasion when I''m not paying attention while thinking about something else.
But its pretty much automatic to check to see if someone is behind me when going out a door and for someone else entering when going in so that isn''t often.
I hold the door for pretty much anyone guy gal young or old pretty much every time I''m out and about.
Thankfully the 5 year phase where ladies of a certain age would get snarky if you opened the door for them is past.
The other day I was at the bank and a elderly lady came in with a walker and I let her in front of me which was jumping 5 or 6 people.
One young punk made a nasty remark about it and another guy in line asked him how he would like his leg broken so he would know how it felt for it to be hard to get around. I said you break one and I will break the other for him.
The jerk shut up.
The guy who spoke up was around 20ish the same age as the jerk so there is hope yet.