merbear1215
Rough_Rock
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- Apr 14, 2010
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Happy Monday All! I am looking for a little guidance here.....any advice is much appreciated.
Several months ago I emailed my Fiance's mom asking her how many people she would be inviting to the wedding. I told her I did not need addresses just yet, but a number so that we know how many invites, budget, etc. She emailed me back with four family members and two family friends. I emailed her back saying that seemed so few and was she certain. In addition, we had a conversation at length about this same matter, and she explained the family is not very close, she has some friends but they don't even really know SO, etc. So, with that number of 6 in mind, we created the guest list, ordered the invitiations (which have arrived), estimated the budget.
Last week I emailed her for the actual addresses as we are getting ready to send the invitiations. This morning, I received an email from her with the information I needed.....for 30 people. Naturally, I was completely thrown by this. At no point had she mentioned that she was thinking of inviting more people. In addition, they haven't contributed one cent to the wedding (my parents are paying for most, we are doing the rehearsal dinner and some other things).
I feel like I am between a rock and a hard place. Even with her 30, the list is mostly my side family/friends so I am not sure I can ask her to cut her list. However, we can't simply add 30 more people without taking people off. But, I don't feel like my side should have to cut considering they are paying for everything and have been far more supportive and kind to us through out our entire relationship. Then there is the logistics of everything...I am not sure we have enough invitiations now, this would put us way over budget, the room can't hold that many people (I realize people won't all come, but I feel like you have to plan as though they might). Part of me thinks, well if you had told me this number from the get go, that is one thing, but now throwing it at me....not so much.
What do you girls think I should do? And, is there anyway to handle this without offending people?
Thanks!!
Several months ago I emailed my Fiance's mom asking her how many people she would be inviting to the wedding. I told her I did not need addresses just yet, but a number so that we know how many invites, budget, etc. She emailed me back with four family members and two family friends. I emailed her back saying that seemed so few and was she certain. In addition, we had a conversation at length about this same matter, and she explained the family is not very close, she has some friends but they don't even really know SO, etc. So, with that number of 6 in mind, we created the guest list, ordered the invitiations (which have arrived), estimated the budget.
Last week I emailed her for the actual addresses as we are getting ready to send the invitiations. This morning, I received an email from her with the information I needed.....for 30 people. Naturally, I was completely thrown by this. At no point had she mentioned that she was thinking of inviting more people. In addition, they haven't contributed one cent to the wedding (my parents are paying for most, we are doing the rehearsal dinner and some other things).
I feel like I am between a rock and a hard place. Even with her 30, the list is mostly my side family/friends so I am not sure I can ask her to cut her list. However, we can't simply add 30 more people without taking people off. But, I don't feel like my side should have to cut considering they are paying for everything and have been far more supportive and kind to us through out our entire relationship. Then there is the logistics of everything...I am not sure we have enough invitiations now, this would put us way over budget, the room can't hold that many people (I realize people won't all come, but I feel like you have to plan as though they might). Part of me thinks, well if you had told me this number from the get go, that is one thing, but now throwing it at me....not so much.
What do you girls think I should do? And, is there anyway to handle this without offending people?
Thanks!!