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Rough_Rock
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I know that even asking this question makes either scenario seem less romantic BUT I am really torn, so I am soliciting advice.
I have the option of (1) spending a lot of money on a very elaborate proposal or (2) saving that money and putting it towards the purchase of a nicer ring.
Option 1: she is taking a vacation with her mother in 2 months to Europe and thinks I am not going to be able to make it because of work. I could fly there (coordinating with her mother of course) at the end of their trip and extend it with a proposal in a place I know she loves and finds romantic in southern Germany.
Option 2: devise a romantic proposal here in the states and spend the extra money (probably on the order of a few thousand) to put into a nicer ring that she would have and could enjoy every day of her life.
A few things to simplify the decision:
1) I know she is going to say yes, because she is an uber-planner (e.g., she has tentative names for our children) and we have been together for over 2 years and are very much in love. She claims that if I don''t propose by the end of next year, she might have to . . . etc.
2) She says she cares more about other things than rings, but I notice how much attention she pays to other friends'' rings and I kind of think I know her better (than she does herself) on this issue.
A few things to complicate the decision:
1) Coordinating a proposal in Europe is tough. I have looked into it tentatively and it is going to require a lot of confiding in people to keep quiet, help, etc. It is also going to be tricky with both of our jobs to have the adequate amount of time to do things properly. Option 1 is thus riskier, but this fragility might add to the romance.
2) There are plenty of romantic places between us here in the midwestern U.S. and Southern Germany. There will be other opportunities to surprise her, but none quite as elaborate.
3) While she loves surprises (option 1), she also loves simplicity and practicality (option 2).
4) If I do choose (option 1) I do not want it to be this big story we have to tell people. In other words, I don''t want it to become *about* how romantic the proposal was, I just want it to be romantic and quiet - if that makes sense.
Okay, hoping to hear any advice from all of you practical romantics . . .
I have the option of (1) spending a lot of money on a very elaborate proposal or (2) saving that money and putting it towards the purchase of a nicer ring.
Option 1: she is taking a vacation with her mother in 2 months to Europe and thinks I am not going to be able to make it because of work. I could fly there (coordinating with her mother of course) at the end of their trip and extend it with a proposal in a place I know she loves and finds romantic in southern Germany.
Option 2: devise a romantic proposal here in the states and spend the extra money (probably on the order of a few thousand) to put into a nicer ring that she would have and could enjoy every day of her life.
A few things to simplify the decision:
1) I know she is going to say yes, because she is an uber-planner (e.g., she has tentative names for our children) and we have been together for over 2 years and are very much in love. She claims that if I don''t propose by the end of next year, she might have to . . . etc.
2) She says she cares more about other things than rings, but I notice how much attention she pays to other friends'' rings and I kind of think I know her better (than she does herself) on this issue.
A few things to complicate the decision:
1) Coordinating a proposal in Europe is tough. I have looked into it tentatively and it is going to require a lot of confiding in people to keep quiet, help, etc. It is also going to be tricky with both of our jobs to have the adequate amount of time to do things properly. Option 1 is thus riskier, but this fragility might add to the romance.
2) There are plenty of romantic places between us here in the midwestern U.S. and Southern Germany. There will be other opportunities to surprise her, but none quite as elaborate.
3) While she loves surprises (option 1), she also loves simplicity and practicality (option 2).
4) If I do choose (option 1) I do not want it to be this big story we have to tell people. In other words, I don''t want it to become *about* how romantic the proposal was, I just want it to be romantic and quiet - if that makes sense.
Okay, hoping to hear any advice from all of you practical romantics . . .
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