prettylnpink419
Shiny_Rock
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...how often do you spend at his place and how often at your place? My SO and I have been "disagreeing" on this topic lately so I''d really like to hear about how you wonderful ladies split your time.
I''m also open to any advice for my specific situation. I currently have my own condo. SO rents a room in a townhouse that his cousin owns and lives in. His place is about 30 mins from me. SO has no pets. I have 2 cats and a dog. One of my cats has a thyroid disorder and needs medication twice a day. I work full-time and am also a full-time student. (I take classes 2-3 nights a week and a few weekends a semester). SO is currently unemployed and is a part-time student. SO says I do not spend enough time at his place. I will be the first to admit that I do not spend as much time at his place as he does at mine. To me, his place is more of a bachelor pad and mine is more our home. He has suggested we alternate our weekends, one weekend I''m at his place the entire weekend (which means a lot of back and forth for me b/c of my cats...I''d bring my dog with me but we can''t leave her alone at his place...she''d get really anxious and probably have messes) and the other weekend he''s at my place all weekend. I am a child of divorce and have done the every other weekend thing the majority of my life...at least the first 18 years. It is exhausting! I don''t feel very comfortable or welcome at his cousin''s place so it definitely is not relaxing. The weekends are really my only chance for down time and I''m pretty much on the go every other night of the weekend so the last thing I want to do is run back and forth all weekend or be at his place all weekend to come back to my place on Sunday night and be unrelaxed and exhausted. For the majority of our two years together we''ve spent the majority of our time together at my place so I guess I''ve gotten kind of spoiled. I''ve just gotten so used to having him here and wish he''d just move in. We''ve talked about it but he''s afraid of "mooching" off me while he is unemployed. We are going to revisit the moving in together discussion in January. For the first year and a half, our only alternative was his parents house before he moved in with his cousin. Help me! Help me come up with a compromise that will make us both happy or help me see that I''m just being a spoiled brat and I need to get over it and spend more time at his place.
I''m also open to any advice for my specific situation. I currently have my own condo. SO rents a room in a townhouse that his cousin owns and lives in. His place is about 30 mins from me. SO has no pets. I have 2 cats and a dog. One of my cats has a thyroid disorder and needs medication twice a day. I work full-time and am also a full-time student. (I take classes 2-3 nights a week and a few weekends a semester). SO is currently unemployed and is a part-time student. SO says I do not spend enough time at his place. I will be the first to admit that I do not spend as much time at his place as he does at mine. To me, his place is more of a bachelor pad and mine is more our home. He has suggested we alternate our weekends, one weekend I''m at his place the entire weekend (which means a lot of back and forth for me b/c of my cats...I''d bring my dog with me but we can''t leave her alone at his place...she''d get really anxious and probably have messes) and the other weekend he''s at my place all weekend. I am a child of divorce and have done the every other weekend thing the majority of my life...at least the first 18 years. It is exhausting! I don''t feel very comfortable or welcome at his cousin''s place so it definitely is not relaxing. The weekends are really my only chance for down time and I''m pretty much on the go every other night of the weekend so the last thing I want to do is run back and forth all weekend or be at his place all weekend to come back to my place on Sunday night and be unrelaxed and exhausted. For the majority of our two years together we''ve spent the majority of our time together at my place so I guess I''ve gotten kind of spoiled. I''ve just gotten so used to having him here and wish he''d just move in. We''ve talked about it but he''s afraid of "mooching" off me while he is unemployed. We are going to revisit the moving in together discussion in January. For the first year and a half, our only alternative was his parents house before he moved in with his cousin. Help me! Help me come up with a compromise that will make us both happy or help me see that I''m just being a spoiled brat and I need to get over it and spend more time at his place.