FireGoddess
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We just found out my mom has it. At best, it's stage 3. We don't know if it has spread yet. Those tests are scheduled for next week. Needless to say, we're totally freaked out and very scared.
At this day and age, with the woman having gone every year to get mammograms for the last 20 years, I am IRATE that she could be diagnosed at (best case scenario) a stage 3. Her mammograms have looked the same for the last 20 years. Spotless. To quote the doctor, "they are virtually superimposable." Even 3 weeks ago she was given a *clean bill of health* because her mammogram was clear. She complained that something has been bothering her. She has complained about it for years and they have waved her off. She finally demanded an ultrasound which they did so that 'she could put her mind at ease.' Turns out the ultrasound wasn't conclusive but warranted further investigation. They did an MRI, which showed a region of concern. This is how the ball got rolling. Another localized ultrasound. A biopsy was done and breast cancer is confirmed. The sheer size of the lesion indicates it's minimally at stage 3. It's big. Note she was given a clean bill of health 3 weeks ago from her mammogram.
I am usually private about these things but I'm sharing this for two reasons. The first is to tell you women out there that MAMMOGRAMS DO NOT DETECT ALL TYPES OF BREAST CANCER. It is imperative that you get regular ultrasounds as well. I want to get in touch with Komen to talk about getting the word out. My mom's doctor is starting to advise his patients of this as well. Why don't we hear about this?!
The second reason is to get advice from those that have gone through it, know others who have gone through it, whatever. Advice on what she can expect to feel, what things helped them cope, live through it, deal with it, beat it, whatever. What my dad can do for her...what I can do for my dad, having to deal with this... As well, I am 3000 miles away - and it's really hard not being near there. Things I can do, important things to physically be there for, etc. Thanks in advance.
At this day and age, with the woman having gone every year to get mammograms for the last 20 years, I am IRATE that she could be diagnosed at (best case scenario) a stage 3. Her mammograms have looked the same for the last 20 years. Spotless. To quote the doctor, "they are virtually superimposable." Even 3 weeks ago she was given a *clean bill of health* because her mammogram was clear. She complained that something has been bothering her. She has complained about it for years and they have waved her off. She finally demanded an ultrasound which they did so that 'she could put her mind at ease.' Turns out the ultrasound wasn't conclusive but warranted further investigation. They did an MRI, which showed a region of concern. This is how the ball got rolling. Another localized ultrasound. A biopsy was done and breast cancer is confirmed. The sheer size of the lesion indicates it's minimally at stage 3. It's big. Note she was given a clean bill of health 3 weeks ago from her mammogram.
I am usually private about these things but I'm sharing this for two reasons. The first is to tell you women out there that MAMMOGRAMS DO NOT DETECT ALL TYPES OF BREAST CANCER. It is imperative that you get regular ultrasounds as well. I want to get in touch with Komen to talk about getting the word out. My mom's doctor is starting to advise his patients of this as well. Why don't we hear about this?!
The second reason is to get advice from those that have gone through it, know others who have gone through it, whatever. Advice on what she can expect to feel, what things helped them cope, live through it, deal with it, beat it, whatever. What my dad can do for her...what I can do for my dad, having to deal with this... As well, I am 3000 miles away - and it's really hard not being near there. Things I can do, important things to physically be there for, etc. Thanks in advance.