I think I might need a... *gulp*... intervention!

[mellowyellowgirl]

Have you gone through

From a psychological viewpoint I wonder if due to your recent stresses (losing your job and starting a new career direction) is causing you to feel unsettled and you are seeking comfort and security in material possessions. This is quite a common type of self medication. I know, I indulge in it!

So true for me but hard to resist the impulse. My beloved dog passed away late last year and I pretty much bought something every month. I know it's a temporary bandaid, a "shot" of happiness that is induced whenever I undertake a new project or open a box with a trinket to make up for the pain of never seeing him again.

They were some solid purchases but I am all too aware of why I keep spending.

I'm trying to make it through 6 months without buying as I think I am slowly (very slowly) coming to terms with not seeing him ever again.

 

[Calliecake]

Your collection is beautiful @ohsomethingshiny

NEVER, NEVER add up what you spent. This should be a Pricescope rule.

I’m so sorry you lost your fur baby @mellowyellowgirl .

 

[pearaffair]

Just pick up another hobby that keeps you off Pricescope for a while and let the emotions and addiction cool off a little. You just need a little reminder that there is a lot more going on in life other than jewelry. It’s all good. Most of us have been there.

But where else can I find such nice people??? Seriously.

I use my jeweler box real estate to keep the hoardin under control. No new projects until I sell some things to make room. I often sell at a bit of a loss, but most of those items are colored stone projects so it’s not a huge amount of money and it’s worth the fun of the project and the enjoyment I got for the time I own them. Sort of like I rented those pieces for 50 cents a day.

Ok, step one, I need to get a smaller jewellery box. LOL!

I also really like your theory of “sort of like I rented those pieces for 50 cents a day”. What I do is just thank my lucky stars that I’m not a foodie. Expensive food consumed can’t make me back my money! Jewellery sold at a loss is preferable.

@Babyblue033 oh wow, I am in the same boat! But my baby is 13 months old and didn’t sleep through the night for the first YEAR. It was brutal. At 12 months I sleep-trained her because I couldn’t take it anymore. Worked by day 3. Wish I had done it sooner.

Anyways I’ve bought a sh*t ton of jewellery.

I think this is me too. Only I am acquiring beauty products instead of jewlery. My little one is 7 months old, and seems to be going through some sleep regression. I get up 5 times a night to put her back to sleep and I just rock her back to sleep with one hand and browse my phone with the other (for up to 3 hours a night). It is super hard not to just binge buy stuff, or stress out about how tired I will be at work the following day. I am especially bad when everyone else is sleeping and I am there by myself. I feel like I need a support group for my first world problems .

I can so relate.

Your collection is beautiful @ohsomethingshiny

NEVER, NEVER add up what you spent. This should be a Pricescope rule.

I’m so sorry you lost your fur baby @mellowyellowgirl .

So my excel spreadsheet that details what I’ve paid for things... bad idea?


@ohsomethingshiny - what a wonderful and brave post. Thank you for sharing! I love your rings, by the way. Where are the black boxes from? Where is Celeste from? Wow wow wow. And that watch? It looks exquisite. I wouldn’t mind additional info on the watch...

I can relate to your post. When does a passion turn into an addiction? I am not sure.

Anyways I am going to follow this thread with interest. When I was getting carried away with clothing purchases I went cold turkey. It has now been 9.5 months and I’m aiming for 12! Woot! Perhaps next year I will give up jewellery buying.

 

[HappyNewLife]

Oops. I did it again. Waiting for a 1ct platinum eternity band from Blu Nile (ebay)

 

[ohsomethingshiny]

@ohsomethingshiny - what a wonderful and brave post. Thank you for sharing! I love your rings, by the way. Where are the black boxes from? Where is Celeste from? Wow wow wow. And that watch? It looks exquisite. I wouldn’t mind additional info on the watch...

I can relate to your post. When does a passion turn into an addiction? I am not sure.

Anyways I am going to follow this thread with interest. When I was getting carried away with clothing purchases I went cold turkey. It has now been 9.5 months and I’m aiming for 12! Woot! Perhaps next year I will give up jewellery buying.

The black boxes came from a local jeweler and from CvB. It worked out well for me that they were larger so I could fit both ring and band in each.

As for Celeste, I found her on www.victorbarbone.com (one of my favorite preloved sites). I fell in love with her at first click. My experience with Audria (owner) was great, even including the process of getting the ring sized and brought back into round (as it was a little off due to wear and the thinness of the band).

Finally, my watch is the Tag Heuer Link Ladies with diamonds. I love this watch! It is just substantial enough. And the selling point for me was that they made the face in my "happy blue", which is just a particular shade of blue (with a soft grey undertone) that I find very soothing and calming.

I have been doing really good... until yesterday. I broke. I was thinking about the pear I have on consignment and started looking at how I would set it *IF* I chose not to continue with the consignment. And then I found HER. My inspiration in a 1910 antique setting! She is nothing like I have ever seen before. Took my breath away. I shared her with Caysie and she exclaimed that she had seen the setting before awhile back and that she also was very drawn to it. So now I am having her create a very similar setting for my pear, although there will be some changes to personalize it. It is going to be a showstopper because it is such a unique design. It will give me my halo, my elongated cut, and my Rosies all in one ring!

 

[ohsomethingshiny]

Oops. I did it again. Waiting for a 1ct platinum eternity band from Blu Nile (ebay)

I shouldn't "like" your post just on the basis of this thread being about intervention. But.... congrats on your new band!

 

[MamaBee]

Oops. I did it again. Waiting for a 1ct platinum eternity band from Blu Nile (ebay)

I did the same thing! We’re probably bidding against each other!

 

[MamaBee]

A jewelry buying intervention that is!

Since March, I have reset Abigail (MRB) into a RHR setting, purchased Lucy (vintage OEC), was given Ricky (formerly a diamond watchband), bought my Tag watch, adopted Eleanor (AVC), found Celeste (vintage toi et moi), bought a Roberto Coin necklace and pendant, and also added two diamond bands and a gold chain to what I now consider my "collection" of jewelry. And to top it off, I am hoping that Millie (my wedding band from CvB) will be joining in next week. I have acquired more jewelry in the last six months than I have in the last decade (or longer)!

Despite all of that, I still find myself "shopping" (but not buying right now). I don't want to be a "hoarder", but I just keep feeling like I want something else. Not like from a place of greed, but from a design and aesthetic place. For example, I have been looking for a "cigar band" ring for my middle finger. I have ring finger rings and never before wanted to wear rings on any other fingers (with the exception of Ricky on occasion), so why do I have such a strong desire now?

I don't want to go down the rabbit hole. But all the pretty shiny things in there seem to be calling me. I find myself getting closer and closer to the edge and the ground is starting to give way. Anyway, I am posting this in an effort to try to hold myself accountable to love what I have acquired without feeding the desire for "one more piece". (At least for the foreseeable future. Not just for me. My bank account could use a break too. LOL!)

Thanks for "listening".

I have the same problem! It’s killing me to wait until after the holidays for the more expensive bling..but I keep going on eBay and sneakily buying preloved bands for stacking! I figure there are worse addictions. My list keeps growing though for the new year. I want so many different things! It’s not possible to do that so trying to narrow down the list!

 

[OboeGal]

As for Celeste, I found her on www.victorbarbone.com (one of my favorite preloved sites). I fell in love with her at first click. My experience with Audria (owner) was great, even including the process of getting the ring sized and brought back into round (as it was a little off due to wear and the thinness of the band).

Why, oh why, did I have to click on that link? Now I'm in trouble......

 

[MamaBee]

Why, oh why, did I have to click on that link? Now I'm in trouble......

So..It’s a ripple effect..I clicked on it because you clicked on it @OboeGal and saw a gorgeous diamond flower cluster ring but for $22k!

 

[ohsomethingshiny]

Why, oh why, did I have to click on that link? Now I'm in trouble......

So..It’s a ripple effect..I clicked on it because you clicked on it @OboeGal and saw a gorgeous diamond flower cluster ring but for $22k!

Her site is addicting!!! I found the inspiration for my pear’s new setting there.

 

[Stone Hunter]

I calculated what I spent and That was a real eye opener!

Here’s a pic of everything (minus Millie who is still in production with CvB and excluding my husband’s new Tag watch he got when I got mine).



And here are some of the bigger purchases:

Abigail (reset) and band


Celeste


Lucy


And my e-ring, Eleanor

I think your collection is just LOVELY and well balanced. Sometimes I get sidetracked and make small but unneeded purchases...I try not to add those up. I have a long term wish list and have tried to focus on that this year. Whenever I want something I put off the purchase for a few months to see if it's a real want. Then I think about how well it works with my current collection. @mrs-b has a very detailed collection expansion plan. Check out her threads for ideas.