Hi everyone...I''m in some serious need of advice regarding my wedding dress.
I have been doubting my dress for awhile now. I posted pictures of it when it first came in(I had to take the pics down-my friend can''t have pictures of her up on the internet...law school?, i dont know I just agreed and had the mod take them down, no sense jeopardizing her future.) The dress is at least two sizes too big, and I was somewhat pressured into buying it....which I''ll try to explain. My mom was getting re-married, she announced it right after I got engaged and was married a month later. Her and her husband dated for 11 years before they decided to just up and marry. Needless to say, I had started planning my wedding prior to that, and asked my mom to go dress shopping with me. She went but said she wasn''t really going to be much of a help because she had her own wedding to plan, which was like a knife going through my heart...but wanted her to be there. We haven''t had the best of relationships, but she is still my mom.
We went shopping, went to 2 salons. The first salon the women were horrible so we left. We went to a second shop that most of the people we knew purchased their gowns from. I tried on about 10 dresses, came out in one and my mom loved it. I liked it, and I''ve never had a "that''s the one" moment with anything in my life... so I said we''ll think about it. She really loved the dress, the shop was having a 20% off sale and we put a deposit down...just to hold the price. I really regret doing it. I even went back, brought my aunt(mom was too busy every time I asked her to go with me) and my aunt liked it as well, i felt like i should just go ahead with the order because everyone liked it.
It came in three months later, and it looked horrible on me. I can''t tell if its because its too big, or if I was just pleasing everyone but myself and I was just excited to be marrying my best friend. I know its my own fault, but I try to keep a good relationship with my mom and I just wanted to make her happy, after all she paid for it.
My first fitting is in two weeks and I''m dreading it. What if it still looks horrible? What if I don''t like it? I feel like the dress isn''t "me". We''re in the process of buying a house and we''re paying for the wedding so I wouldn''t have any money to just buy myself a new dress...and my mom has already paid for half of the one I don''t like. I just feel like the dress makes me look very heavy set and is not flattering at all. I dont have any pictures of me in it by myself or i would post them....the dress is Alfred Angelo 1708 in all ivory if anyone wants to take a look.
I know this is normal and people go through this a lot, I''m just worried I''m going to hate my dress and not feel comfortable on my wedding day.
Also, I live 2 hours from my hometown, and I can''t even go and just try it on to give me piece of mind before the actual fitting. I called every shop in my area today and not a single one of them carry the dress. I''d have to drive an hour away to go and try on a sample...
I''m so frustrated and upset, and people say oh its just a dress, that''s why I turned here, the women on PS seem to understand.
I have been doubting my dress for awhile now. I posted pictures of it when it first came in(I had to take the pics down-my friend can''t have pictures of her up on the internet...law school?, i dont know I just agreed and had the mod take them down, no sense jeopardizing her future.) The dress is at least two sizes too big, and I was somewhat pressured into buying it....which I''ll try to explain. My mom was getting re-married, she announced it right after I got engaged and was married a month later. Her and her husband dated for 11 years before they decided to just up and marry. Needless to say, I had started planning my wedding prior to that, and asked my mom to go dress shopping with me. She went but said she wasn''t really going to be much of a help because she had her own wedding to plan, which was like a knife going through my heart...but wanted her to be there. We haven''t had the best of relationships, but she is still my mom.
We went shopping, went to 2 salons. The first salon the women were horrible so we left. We went to a second shop that most of the people we knew purchased their gowns from. I tried on about 10 dresses, came out in one and my mom loved it. I liked it, and I''ve never had a "that''s the one" moment with anything in my life... so I said we''ll think about it. She really loved the dress, the shop was having a 20% off sale and we put a deposit down...just to hold the price. I really regret doing it. I even went back, brought my aunt(mom was too busy every time I asked her to go with me) and my aunt liked it as well, i felt like i should just go ahead with the order because everyone liked it.
It came in three months later, and it looked horrible on me. I can''t tell if its because its too big, or if I was just pleasing everyone but myself and I was just excited to be marrying my best friend. I know its my own fault, but I try to keep a good relationship with my mom and I just wanted to make her happy, after all she paid for it.
My first fitting is in two weeks and I''m dreading it. What if it still looks horrible? What if I don''t like it? I feel like the dress isn''t "me". We''re in the process of buying a house and we''re paying for the wedding so I wouldn''t have any money to just buy myself a new dress...and my mom has already paid for half of the one I don''t like. I just feel like the dress makes me look very heavy set and is not flattering at all. I dont have any pictures of me in it by myself or i would post them....the dress is Alfred Angelo 1708 in all ivory if anyone wants to take a look.
I know this is normal and people go through this a lot, I''m just worried I''m going to hate my dress and not feel comfortable on my wedding day.
Also, I live 2 hours from my hometown, and I can''t even go and just try it on to give me piece of mind before the actual fitting. I called every shop in my area today and not a single one of them carry the dress. I''d have to drive an hour away to go and try on a sample...
I''m so frustrated and upset, and people say oh its just a dress, that''s why I turned here, the women on PS seem to understand.