Hi everyone. I am very sorry to stir up something so controversial. I hope to end it now.
We talked last night. It was good, actually. He wants me to have the diamond size I want, "no matter what it takes". I said lets wait on an upgrade for another few months (I am losing a lot of weight, already down 80 pounds and 1.5 ring sizes) and see how the ring looks when I get to goal. If it still looks too small for my finger then we can upgrade when we purchase our bands. He very much agreed.
As for the proposal, he admitted he is not happy with how he handled it, and he got very caught up in the excitement that he did this all on his own (we have been on our own together for 4 years with nothing but each other...no family assistance, no nothing,). I understood then, only men know how it feels to ask a woman to spend her life with him. We laughed about it, actually, because it was very typical of him to lose it all under pressure.
I don''t feel there are other issues in our relationship as other posters have asked. To give you a brief history, he has always treated me like a princess. He has been more than accepting and understanding of a serious weight gain I went through, and I am now (THANK GOODNESS) losing it. He surprises me with with little things all the time, he calls me without fail every morning as I get ready for work, he kisses me every morning as I sleep before he goes to work. He broke his leg at work and couldn''t drive his stick shift truck, so he paid a friend to drive him an hour to my office on Valentines day when he showed up with roses and a gift...so am I luck ABSOLUTELY. Now maybe you know why I felt so horrible about my thoughts. He has always wowed me in many different ways, and he didn''t wow me for our biggest moment, I became concerned.
The engagement ring, to me, is not a symbol of anything, it is a piece of jewelry that our society has made a requirement. I for one do not need one, but since I got one I want it to be something that I will be proud of and happy to wear for the rest of my life. The important ring, is the wedding band, because it is with this ring that we wed. Considering I will be wearing both for the rest of my life, and also considering they are the only rings I will wear, I want them to be 100%.
I love my ring, it is beautiful, it''s just the size of the center stone that I FEEL needs to be bigger to go along with my fat fingers. I don''t want to change the way the ring looks, I love my side baguettes with my princess center stone. It''s very classy looking.
Thank you for all of your opinions, I greatly appreciate them!
We talked last night. It was good, actually. He wants me to have the diamond size I want, "no matter what it takes". I said lets wait on an upgrade for another few months (I am losing a lot of weight, already down 80 pounds and 1.5 ring sizes) and see how the ring looks when I get to goal. If it still looks too small for my finger then we can upgrade when we purchase our bands. He very much agreed.
As for the proposal, he admitted he is not happy with how he handled it, and he got very caught up in the excitement that he did this all on his own (we have been on our own together for 4 years with nothing but each other...no family assistance, no nothing,). I understood then, only men know how it feels to ask a woman to spend her life with him. We laughed about it, actually, because it was very typical of him to lose it all under pressure.
I don''t feel there are other issues in our relationship as other posters have asked. To give you a brief history, he has always treated me like a princess. He has been more than accepting and understanding of a serious weight gain I went through, and I am now (THANK GOODNESS) losing it. He surprises me with with little things all the time, he calls me without fail every morning as I get ready for work, he kisses me every morning as I sleep before he goes to work. He broke his leg at work and couldn''t drive his stick shift truck, so he paid a friend to drive him an hour to my office on Valentines day when he showed up with roses and a gift...so am I luck ABSOLUTELY. Now maybe you know why I felt so horrible about my thoughts. He has always wowed me in many different ways, and he didn''t wow me for our biggest moment, I became concerned.
The engagement ring, to me, is not a symbol of anything, it is a piece of jewelry that our society has made a requirement. I for one do not need one, but since I got one I want it to be something that I will be proud of and happy to wear for the rest of my life. The important ring, is the wedding band, because it is with this ring that we wed. Considering I will be wearing both for the rest of my life, and also considering they are the only rings I will wear, I want them to be 100%.
I love my ring, it is beautiful, it''s just the size of the center stone that I FEEL needs to be bigger to go along with my fat fingers. I don''t want to change the way the ring looks, I love my side baguettes with my princess center stone. It''s very classy looking.
Thank you for all of your opinions, I greatly appreciate them!