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Rough_Rock
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- Feb 26, 2009
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I really need to vent to someone and I''m hoping that the lovely people on PS (who I have been reading about for a while now) will listen without judgment.
A couple of years ago my now fiance and I decided to get engaged. There was no surprise ring. I organized all the meetings with prospective vendors and tried on different rings with him being present. I wanted to try all different types but he was insistent that I choose something he also liked. So he choose a tiffany style solitaire.
He also wouldn''t let me get anything bigger than 3/4 of a carat. He wanted to set a budget, although he could really afford me anything I really desired. He sees it just as a cost.
So anyway. We saw this diamond with 3/4 of a carat. He checked it with the loupe and the certificate (mind you we are total newbies at this) and was happy with it.
When it was ready to be picked up I saw him after work he let me put it on and that was that. No proposal. No nothing. I even asked him about proposing to me and nothing really came of it.
We told his parents that we were engaged. It was very procedural like.
No engagement dinner, nothing. (I wasn''t too worried about this and still am not)
I was asked by work colleagues how he proposed and felt like I was missing something because NOTHING happened.
I hate wearing the ring. It''s not what I really wanted and I always associate it with sitting in the car wearing the ring out of the box and never receiving a proposal.
My fiance tells me I should get over it and move on.
I can see the bigger picture but it has been bugging me for so long now. I''m not even sure I should be organizing a wedding anymore.
Thanks for listening
A couple of years ago my now fiance and I decided to get engaged. There was no surprise ring. I organized all the meetings with prospective vendors and tried on different rings with him being present. I wanted to try all different types but he was insistent that I choose something he also liked. So he choose a tiffany style solitaire.
He also wouldn''t let me get anything bigger than 3/4 of a carat. He wanted to set a budget, although he could really afford me anything I really desired. He sees it just as a cost.
So anyway. We saw this diamond with 3/4 of a carat. He checked it with the loupe and the certificate (mind you we are total newbies at this) and was happy with it.
When it was ready to be picked up I saw him after work he let me put it on and that was that. No proposal. No nothing. I even asked him about proposing to me and nothing really came of it.
We told his parents that we were engaged. It was very procedural like.
No engagement dinner, nothing. (I wasn''t too worried about this and still am not)
I was asked by work colleagues how he proposed and felt like I was missing something because NOTHING happened.
I hate wearing the ring. It''s not what I really wanted and I always associate it with sitting in the car wearing the ring out of the box and never receiving a proposal.
My fiance tells me I should get over it and move on.
I can see the bigger picture but it has been bugging me for so long now. I''m not even sure I should be organizing a wedding anymore.
Thanks for listening