Amber61202
Rough_Rock
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- Apr 11, 2006
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Caution: This is a long story!
I have been a member here for a while but this is my first post. I am so frustrated, I didn''t know what else to do and am hoping for some good advice.
For a little background info... I am 22 and graduating from college in May, my boyfriend is 23 and is also still in school. In March we will have our 5 year anniversary. Everything is great in our relationship... except when I bring up getting engaged. I am ready now and I don''t think he is. For the past 2 1/2 - 3 years I have had engagement fever, bad! It usually comes and goes as I get busy with other things, but for the past probably year and a half its the only thing I can think about. Almost all of my friends are either married or engaged and I feel like I am just surrounded by it.
I know that he wants to marry me, in fact he was the one who brought it up and scared me after only 6 months. This subject just really hurts me. He has known for the past couple of years that I really would like to get engaged while I was still in school (so I could share my excitement with my friends before we graduate and possibly lose touch, etc.), and like I said earlier, I graduate in 4 months. I just know it isn''t going to happen anytime soon; he doesn''t have any money saved and he never wants to talk about it. I know this is terrible to say but I honestly feel that if he wanted something that was this important to him, I would find a way to do it weather I had the money or not. If I suggest going to look at rings he is all for it, but doesn''t want me to get my hopes up and get upset about it, which is inevitable.
I certainly don''t want to force him to do something he doesn''t want to, that is definitely not the memories I want to go with my engagement, but why is he dragging his feet?? I KNOW that he loves me and wants to marry me, but why do I want to now and he doesn''t?(Is it the whole guys are more immature thing?) Any ideas? I know I am being selfish but I have been feeling this way for a while and have no one to vent to...Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
I have been a member here for a while but this is my first post. I am so frustrated, I didn''t know what else to do and am hoping for some good advice.
For a little background info... I am 22 and graduating from college in May, my boyfriend is 23 and is also still in school. In March we will have our 5 year anniversary. Everything is great in our relationship... except when I bring up getting engaged. I am ready now and I don''t think he is. For the past 2 1/2 - 3 years I have had engagement fever, bad! It usually comes and goes as I get busy with other things, but for the past probably year and a half its the only thing I can think about. Almost all of my friends are either married or engaged and I feel like I am just surrounded by it.
I know that he wants to marry me, in fact he was the one who brought it up and scared me after only 6 months. This subject just really hurts me. He has known for the past couple of years that I really would like to get engaged while I was still in school (so I could share my excitement with my friends before we graduate and possibly lose touch, etc.), and like I said earlier, I graduate in 4 months. I just know it isn''t going to happen anytime soon; he doesn''t have any money saved and he never wants to talk about it. I know this is terrible to say but I honestly feel that if he wanted something that was this important to him, I would find a way to do it weather I had the money or not. If I suggest going to look at rings he is all for it, but doesn''t want me to get my hopes up and get upset about it, which is inevitable.
I certainly don''t want to force him to do something he doesn''t want to, that is definitely not the memories I want to go with my engagement, but why is he dragging his feet?? I KNOW that he loves me and wants to marry me, but why do I want to now and he doesn''t?(Is it the whole guys are more immature thing?) Any ideas? I know I am being selfish but I have been feeling this way for a while and have no one to vent to...Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
