Allisonfaye
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I have a sitter that works 20 hours a week. I have a 2.5 year old and an 8 month old. This sitter has been with me since Sept, when I was pregnant. After my baby was born, we had her for about 45 hours a week but now we cut back her hours to 20. She is a sweet person but not very ambitious and not a very hard worker. I have asked her over and over to do stuff and finally put together a list on what I need done while she is here and most of the time, she doesn''t do the stuff. She has a history of depression and seems kind of ''out to lunch'' sometimes. I don''t think she has ever sought help for her depression.
She loves my kids. But she isn''t helping me much. My husband thinks our kids safety could be at risk. I can''t get anything done while she is here because I am constantly monitoring her too.
She is moving out of state anyway in November.
I thought it might take a while to find someone so I started looking. I found someone pretty quickly so I hired her. She came one day to meet my husband and I told her if she hung around, I would pay her. She is great! Hard worker, intelligent, ambitious and she can work my crazy schedule. My current nanny bolts out the door as soon as she can. I am constantly rushing home to relieve her. She does have another job but even on days that she isn''t working or working much, much later, she says she can''t stay.
She makes me mad but part of me really cares about her. I just don''t want to hurt her feelings. She got fired from her last nanny position just after she started working for me. She said the lady took total advantage of her good nature and never told her what time she was going to be able to leave and kept her way long and didn''t pay her for all the hours. When she mentioned it to the lady, she kicked her out right then and there. The woman had a new nanny almost immediately, so I suspect she had already had someone else for whatever reason, I don''t know.
So, I am trying to decide how I want to tell her that I no longer need her.
I could a) tell her we are no longer going to use a nanny or b) tell her that I was talking to a neighbor and mentioned that we were losing our nanny in Nov and she knew someone that would be interested and able to work our schedule (which is not easy to find) and that I can''t pass up the opportunity.
Part of me wants her to know that she is getting fired but part of me doesn''t. The reason I mentioned the other lady firing her is because my nanny still sees her kids outside from time to time and it tears her up because she misses them so much. I want her to be able to come and visit my kids if she wants, but if she knows she is fired, she might feel she can''t. Should I spare her feelings and tell her story b? Or would that spare her feelings? If I tell her we are no longer using a nanny, she could probably find out pretty easily that we are. The car will be out front or my two year old might mention her name.
Is there another way that I haven''t thought of? What do you guys think I should do?
She loves my kids. But she isn''t helping me much. My husband thinks our kids safety could be at risk. I can''t get anything done while she is here because I am constantly monitoring her too.
She is moving out of state anyway in November.
I thought it might take a while to find someone so I started looking. I found someone pretty quickly so I hired her. She came one day to meet my husband and I told her if she hung around, I would pay her. She is great! Hard worker, intelligent, ambitious and she can work my crazy schedule. My current nanny bolts out the door as soon as she can. I am constantly rushing home to relieve her. She does have another job but even on days that she isn''t working or working much, much later, she says she can''t stay.
She makes me mad but part of me really cares about her. I just don''t want to hurt her feelings. She got fired from her last nanny position just after she started working for me. She said the lady took total advantage of her good nature and never told her what time she was going to be able to leave and kept her way long and didn''t pay her for all the hours. When she mentioned it to the lady, she kicked her out right then and there. The woman had a new nanny almost immediately, so I suspect she had already had someone else for whatever reason, I don''t know.
So, I am trying to decide how I want to tell her that I no longer need her.
I could a) tell her we are no longer going to use a nanny or b) tell her that I was talking to a neighbor and mentioned that we were losing our nanny in Nov and she knew someone that would be interested and able to work our schedule (which is not easy to find) and that I can''t pass up the opportunity.
Part of me wants her to know that she is getting fired but part of me doesn''t. The reason I mentioned the other lady firing her is because my nanny still sees her kids outside from time to time and it tears her up because she misses them so much. I want her to be able to come and visit my kids if she wants, but if she knows she is fired, she might feel she can''t. Should I spare her feelings and tell her story b? Or would that spare her feelings? If I tell her we are no longer using a nanny, she could probably find out pretty easily that we are. The car will be out front or my two year old might mention her name.
Is there another way that I haven''t thought of? What do you guys think I should do?