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[radiantquest]

My sister is 12 years younger than I am. We are not close, but only because we have nothing in common. We do not fight when we are together because even though we are very different her with the dyed black hair, midnight eyes and ripped looking tshirts and me with my pink nails, high heels and bracelets not made from jelly we like each other. When I was 13 and she was about a year I really lost out on things. I had to babysit almost every evening through my teens because my mother worked and my stepdad didnt have a clue.

Now I am in the same situation. I have a 13 yo stepdaughter and my husband and I have only been married a year. We have talked about children, but think that we are better of not doing it. Not that we are too old, but since he had her so young we are almost out of the woods and then we can enjoy our 40s and on without worrying about kids and teenagers and college. I mean she will be in college in 5 years and I am not even 30. I don''t feel the need for a baby so it works for us. I remember when it was my mom she didnt have anything left from when I was a baby and really did have to start over again.

I think that if you want to have a baby later in life with siblings having an age gap you should do it. One of the nice things about the siblings having the gap is that a younger child might not be as "you dont know what you are talking about" with an older sibling as they would a parent.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 2/5/2010 10:04:52 PM
Author:hawaiianorangetree
and i am not sure i am ready to close that door on that part of my life just yet.

If you''re not ready to close the door on having another child, then don''t. Keep it open until you decide what feels right for you!

My thought is that if you''re thinking about this *that* much, you probably will feel "complete" if you do have another baby.

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

I just wanted to say a huge thank you to everyone for your insightful and thoughtful responses! It has definately given me alot to think about. It is not a decision that either of us will take lightly, bringing a baby into this world. It is wonderful to know that the age gap can work and in some cases be a positive on sibling relationships. My daughter always used to ask for a brother or sister, but i just never felt inclined to have another child. We wont rush into this decision, luckily we do have time on our side and i am really looking forward to enjoying the wedding and the honeymoon and being married for a while before we decide if we will go down that path. Yes, our lives would be easier if we chose not to have a child (i think someone used the term ''out of the woods'' which is how we feel) and i guess that is something that we will have to weigh up with all the other pros and cons.

But once again thank you thank you THANK YOU all for your wonderful responses! Pricescope really is a unique and wonderful place.

 

[bee*]

There''s 10 years between me and my youngest sister (there is another sister in between who''s 3 years younger than me). Growing up, myself and my middle sister used to kill each other but we both adored the youngest. I was delighted playing 2nd mammy to her and now I get to take her out for a dinner and be the older sister. I adore it.

 

[Rachel9]

I''d go for it! My parents had 5 children, I''m the 4th between boys. My oldest sister is 15 years older than me and my best friend, I have to admit, she is a modern version of our mother LOL