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How will you be paying for your wedding?

Parents, yourselves, other family members? Savings, credit, etc?
 
Great question. I'm thinking all of the above. We'll know more once we get engaged.

My parents have mentioned chipping in for most of the reception (depending on # of guests). His parents will take care of the rehearsal and help out a little with the flowers/centerpieces. The rest we plan on saving up for and hope to tap into friends/talents as resources- his dad's band for the reception, friends for the Mass music, his cousin with the photography, a co-worker makes programs. The ceremony doesn't cost much at all so we'll have a priest and deacon friend presiding as a gift to us.
 
savings.. we''re trying to stay as far away from credit as possible. SO''s mom and my aunt/uncle might pay for the engagement or rehearsal dinner but thats as much as we''ll allow them to contribute
 
I think my parents will probably pay for most of it; the rest we''ll supplement with our savings.
 
good question cause i''ve been thinking about this lately!
will probably know more after we actually get engaged though! I''m thinkin we will contribute a pretty big portion and my parents will help as well. his parents probably not so much..
I would hate to go into any kind of debt over a wedding so we''ll try to avoid credit as much as possible!
 
I''ve been thinking about this too!

My parent''s paid for my sister''s wedding (so I would hope that would pay for mine too). Me & my sister are 6 years apart, though, and I don''t know if my parents were expecting to have 6 years between weddings to "recover" (b/c I don''t think I can wait that long). I would feel bad putting them in a financial pinch.

I''ll have to wait and talk to them when engagment comes. I would consider taking about a loan to pay for my last year of school (if they would pay for my wedding).

If nothing works out, I don''t think it''s worth going into debt over. If we can''t scrape up the money, we''ll just have to wait, I guess.
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My fiance and I are eloping and I/we are paying.

My parents, though, are throwing us a casual reception on their dime. Totally unnecessary but very much appreciated.
 
All of the above? Parents, us, family.. donations (well, getting free tix to stuff from having connections
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) and savings.. AND hopefully not too much of the plastic cards :D
 
my mom and his parents. If my dad wants an invite he has to offer to pay for part of the wedding. I know that sounds awful, but he has been MIA for the last few years as he walked out on my family in order to be with his "second" family that he had also been living with since before I was born so it is complicated.
 
if i do it my way, i would pay.

if i bend to the expectations of others just to save feelings, then they can pay.
 
Technically we paid for our wedding with credit cards where we could, who can say no to a few thousand dollars worth of points??? But we paid it off right away using a combo of our own money and money from both of our parents.
 
I will be paying with a combo of all of the above, and it''s totally up in the air in terms of parents'' helping - we won''t really find out until we''re engaged. B''s mom has said they will take care of the rehearsal and honeymoon (huge relief) and my mom has already committed to the dress. This is one nerve-wracking part about getting engaged...the money issue becomes so real, and I don''t want there to be any money tension with family members.
 
I just want to say as a 40-year old, that I''m very impressed with all of you that replied to this! My (1st) wedding cost a grand total of 2700.00 but my parents paid for all of it. I had no savings, no credit cards (which is a good thing), and no money. THey were happy to do it, but it''s not like they were rich and they struggled to pay for THREE girls'' wedding. So kudos to you all for being so independent and thinking of your parents. And kudos to my parents too, now that I think of it.
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Date: 1/26/2009 7:31:00 AM
Author: neatfreak
Technically we paid for our wedding with credit cards where we could, who can say no to a few thousand dollars worth of points??? But we paid it off right away using a combo of our own money and money from both of our parents.
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That is probably what we''re going to do....I''m a big points collector!!! But we would pay off the cards right away with money from our savings. I''ve never left money on my credit card to collect interest and I would sacrifice my dream wedding to ever have to do that. There''s a new tax-free savings account being implemented in Canada at the beginning of February which we are planning to take full advantage of in order to save up and pay for big expenses in the future (wedding and house!).
 
I won''t ask my parents to pay as they are trying to save their money. They will probably pay for something though, but I believe I will be paying for MOST of it myself.

So on that note, I''m saving a lot of money so I will be fine in paying for it myself...
 
FF and I will be having a very small wedding, because my parents have generously offered to give us money for either a wedding or a house. I''m a practical kind of girl, so I can''t fathom putting such a huge sum of money into a wedding when it could be used more responsibly.

With that said, my parents will help with the downpayment on the house, and we''ll probably pay for our small wedding. By small, I mean, parents and siblings. So less than 10 people.
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My parents paid for my wedding, in cash.

I wouldn''t have gone in debt over it...no way.
 
Since it''s my parents want the "huge party" they will pay for the wedding. My dad has been looking forward to my wedding day FOREVER. We will most-likely pay for little things like honeymoon, wedding favors, rings, accessories, etc. We will also count on family/friend connections - music from friends, photography from family friend, flowers, gift from family friend. If it were up to me, we''d elope and come back and have a reception. In my family the wedding is not for the couple, it''s for the family.
 
My parents had set aside a certain amount for my wedding when I was around 10 or so, and gave that to us as a gift to use for the wedding or otherwise. We tried to fit our wedding budget to that, and paid for the rest ourselves.
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Date: 1/26/2009 7:31:00 AM
Author: neatfreak
Technically we paid for our wedding with credit cards where we could, who can say no to a few thousand dollars worth of points??? But we paid it off right away using a combo of our own money and money from both of our parents.
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We did the same, yeah - got lots of cashback bonus from that one!!
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Since we are going through this right now I will tell you how we are doing it.

First...we are paying for 99% of our wedding ourselves.

Second...We alligned our budget based on what we wanted to spend out of our savings. Keep in mind that we purchased (own) our apartment (NYC) almost two years ago. A lot of our savings went into that. However, we have slowly built that back up and we are spending a good chunk on the wedding.

Thirdly...I opened two no intrest for a year credit cards when we got engaged. That way I can collect points and pay for deposits on the card and pay them off right away. We have no debt right now.

It is extreamly hard. We are constantly saving our pennies, not doing the things we enjoy (going out to eat, enjoying nyc), to give ourselves the party we have always wanted. I''m not complaining becasue this is what we wanted but it is really hard.

On another note, we have friends that did put themselves into a little bit of debt to have the wedding that they wanted. They are very happy and think it was worth every penny that they spent to make their day what they wanted. I think they realize now just how long that little bit of debt will take to pay off with the high interest rates. I don''t know...I feel like if you know what you are getting yourselves into then do what you want.
 
We''re planning on paying for it ourselves (not on credit cards), but both families have mentioned wanting to chip in. It''s something we''ll figure out when the time comes, but I know I''d feel more secure knowing that we at least could pay for all of it on our own.
 
My parents don''t have a lot of money so we will pay for most of the wedding ourselves. My mum and dad have said they want to buy my dress though. We definitely won''t use credit cards as my SO would have a heart attack if we got into any sort of debt!!
 
I want to elope. If SO agrees, we will pay.

If my parents force us to have a wedding that ''we'' don''t want, then they can pay for ''their'' wedding.

If SO wants a wedding, then we will pay, and both parents will contribute.
 
We''ll be paying for the majority of the wedding ourselves. SO''s family will be covering the rehearsal dinner and my mom is planning to contribute in some way (probably buying my dress for me). We''re trying to walk that fine line of a nice wedding that has all of the components that are important to us but keeping in mind that it is only one day and we''d like to buy a house in the not-to-distant future.
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I never realized weddings were so expensive! With both SO and my law school student loans to pay off, we can''t rack up any additional debt!!
 
We''ll be paying for it ourselves, with cash as much as possible.. money is the only factor why the engagement/wedding is taking so friggin'' long, unfortunately, lol.
 
We''re paying for it on our own. A lot of DIY (growing our own flowers, making our own invitations, iPod dj, etc.) so we can spend more on the food
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We''re using our tax returns and a bit of savings. My parents offered to pitch in, but I turned them down. They put me through college, and my mom has been so much help with the planning. Plus, she''s doing the alterations to my dress!
 
We are paying paying for most of everything ourselves. We sat down before we got engaged to discuss what items were important for us.

FI was married at the JP when he was married previously and for him it was very important to have a "wedding" and not just a marriage license. For me, I really wanted to have my immediate family there and I wanted to have a wedding in a great place where I could really unwind and relax. So we decided that instead of paying $25k for a hometown wedding where we were going to have to invite people we wouldn''t have cared less about, we decided to take that money and pay for the people that we knew we wanted at the wedding and go away.

Honestly, FI makes significantly more than I do, but my biggest contribution is to really pay close attention to the budget. I bought my dress on ebay for $150, I currently have a bid on a veil for $25 and I bought my crinoline for $19, so I can splurge on my shoes and not feel guilty. I really wanted amazing photos and I got our package for a photographer, DJ and invitations for $2000, etc.

I pay for smaller things that come up (like our engagement session will be $75, I am paying for our wedding rings-plain platinum bands, etc.) and I will be paying for all BM related expenses because I am paying for all my attendants'' clothing and jewelry.
 
We paid for one wedding and the honeymoon. Since my parents wanted the second wedding (turned out I did too, just didn't realise it until afterward) they put money towards it.

We used some savings and some credit cards, which we paid off as the bills came in.
 
Savings and gifts, hopefully no credit. Gifts would probably be mostly from guests since we feel uncomfortable taking money from our parents - they really need it themselves!!
 
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