Harleigh
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Hi Ladies,
Sorry to have been MIA for so long...I think I am finally over my bout with Shingles again and am feeling so much better this week! I have been trying to catch up on everyone''s happenings here on PS, but I also needed about some of my own things, as well.
Many of you are aware that we are going to Maui to be married in July (3 months from tomorrow, I can hardly believe it!) and with all of the airline foreclosures, it has affected everyone in our bridal party. Everyone has had to try to reschedule their flights and have encountered increased costs at a few to several hundred dollars per person, which were already high to begin with.
We were initially saving money to be able to give each of our attendants two new $100 dollar bills with "Mad Money" written across them along with their gift in Maui at the Welcome Dinner. In light of all of the struggles our attendants are having, we have decided to send them a check to help them cover some of their travel costs.
FI wants to send them $500 each, which I think is very generous, but I am afraid our bridal party will not take it in the manner it is intended. I don''t know why I feel that way, but I think they would feel it is a bit over the top. I know that as a bridal party attendant, I would certainly appreciate the unexpected gesture, but I''m also not sure I could actually cash that check!
So, I wanted to try to make a compromise with my FI and suggested settling on sending each of them a check for $400 and then plan to still give each of them a new $100 bill to use as "Mad Money" along with their gift at the Welcome Dinner, which is the DBTY sterling and cz necklace and bracelet sets (and hopefully matching earrings) for the girls and whatever FI comes up with for the guys.
Does this sound reasonable? We had originally budgeted about $200 cash per person, but we know what a hardship it is for them to be making this trek and want to try to help them out without offending them.
I already started to draft a letter explaining that it was our intention to treat them to a gift of $ upon their arrival in Maui, but that in light of the air fares rapidly increasing in price, we thought the gift would come in handy sooner rather than later to help them with their travel expenses. I would include this with the check and hope they can accept it with our best intentions.
What do you think? Is this reasonable or too over the top? Should we just give them all the full $500 now and be done with it or do something different? Since so many of them are struggling right now, we want to make a decision and get the checks out to them in the mail this week.
Thanks in advance for any of your thoughts or advice!
Sorry to have been MIA for so long...I think I am finally over my bout with Shingles again and am feeling so much better this week! I have been trying to catch up on everyone''s happenings here on PS, but I also needed about some of my own things, as well.
Many of you are aware that we are going to Maui to be married in July (3 months from tomorrow, I can hardly believe it!) and with all of the airline foreclosures, it has affected everyone in our bridal party. Everyone has had to try to reschedule their flights and have encountered increased costs at a few to several hundred dollars per person, which were already high to begin with.
We were initially saving money to be able to give each of our attendants two new $100 dollar bills with "Mad Money" written across them along with their gift in Maui at the Welcome Dinner. In light of all of the struggles our attendants are having, we have decided to send them a check to help them cover some of their travel costs.
FI wants to send them $500 each, which I think is very generous, but I am afraid our bridal party will not take it in the manner it is intended. I don''t know why I feel that way, but I think they would feel it is a bit over the top. I know that as a bridal party attendant, I would certainly appreciate the unexpected gesture, but I''m also not sure I could actually cash that check!
So, I wanted to try to make a compromise with my FI and suggested settling on sending each of them a check for $400 and then plan to still give each of them a new $100 bill to use as "Mad Money" along with their gift at the Welcome Dinner, which is the DBTY sterling and cz necklace and bracelet sets (and hopefully matching earrings) for the girls and whatever FI comes up with for the guys.
Does this sound reasonable? We had originally budgeted about $200 cash per person, but we know what a hardship it is for them to be making this trek and want to try to help them out without offending them.
I already started to draft a letter explaining that it was our intention to treat them to a gift of $ upon their arrival in Maui, but that in light of the air fares rapidly increasing in price, we thought the gift would come in handy sooner rather than later to help them with their travel expenses. I would include this with the check and hope they can accept it with our best intentions.
What do you think? Is this reasonable or too over the top? Should we just give them all the full $500 now and be done with it or do something different? Since so many of them are struggling right now, we want to make a decision and get the checks out to them in the mail this week.
Thanks in advance for any of your thoughts or advice!