How many kids do you have?

[NewEnglandLady]

YT, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to talk about it here--keeping all of those emotions internal has to be very difficult. You can always talk freely here as many have been in your shoes.

We have a 10 month old daughter. We'll try for #2 at some point this year, I'm constantly wavering on the timing of our second. In my gut I feel like two is likely it for us. If money were no option, we might go for three. As it is, I think two would provide the most balance in our lives. I'd like to continue to work and we'd like to travel with our kids in the coming years. I think three might make those things very difficult, but who knows.

And, of course, our two dogs are considered our first "kids". In many ways, coordinating travel and care for the pups is more difficult, but they are a big part of our family.

 

[jaysonsmom]

YT: So sorry for what you are going through. Have faith, if you want something hard enough, it'll happen, maybe not in the way you expected.

I have 2 kids...10 year old son and 8 year old daughter. We are happy with 2 kids, but could easily be persuaded to have 2 more if we weren't already 40! Now that we are both 40, and doing well in our careers, we can afford to have 2 more, and we also have the space in our house for 2 more....but we don't have the energy and courage to start again, especially now that both of my olders ones are self-sufficient and really good kids, we don't want to take our chances..."quality over quantity" is the motto dh uses to disuade me from fantisizing about 2 more!

 

[Ally T]

YT, sorry to hear what you are going through. And to others too who maybe in the same situation

I have never wanted to have children, despite being 1 of 4 myself & having had a very happy childhood & a wonderful family. They irritate me, I am impatient & my life has been run via spreadsheet for years. But when I met my husband, I knew instantly we would be together forever. It was a whirlwind relationship, and he made it clear from the start he wanted to have children. I also have a blood clotting disease & had to undergo tests prior to trying for my first child. We have now been married for almost 5 years & have 2 beautiful daughters aged almost 2 & almost 4. They are my life & despite the chaos, mess, squeals & bodily fluid mopping up, I wouldn't change a thing

It's funny how what you thought would be the case, doesn't quite turn out to be. My high flying career became irrelevant to me, I am a stay at home mum & very grateful for my healthy girls, regardless of their blood bath, slasher-type movie, death defying C-sections!!