Wedding How long did you have from engagement to wedding day?

[Blair138]

Not a BIW yet-but I am a HUGE planner and want to have the MAXIMUM time possible to plan a wedding so I don''t flip out. I live near Chicago and most people around here are engaged for a year and venues book FAST-(I know people who have been engaged for 2 years). My FF and I discussed engagement and it looks like I will have just about a year from when he proposes until when we get married (due to the fact that I am a teacher and will not get married during the school year)-just curious how long all of you were/will be engaged?

 

[Sabine]

I picked 2 years because you didn''t have an option for between 1.5 and 2. I''m a teacher too, and FI proposed right at the end of August, and so I waited a whole school year to start planning, did almost ALL my planning the following summer, and am getting married July of this year. We definitely could have gotten it done a lot sooner, but we also needed time to save money.

 

[brazen_irish_hussy]

It will be 4 days shy of 2 years when we marry. We hadn''t planned to have such a long engagement, but since we were in Europe at the time, everything was booked up by the time we got back.

 

[Sassee]

9 months. Engaged on 8 September last year and getting married 7 June 2008

 

[musey]

I didn't vote because ours will be 20 months, so 1.6 years, and between the last two categories you included.

FI proposed on 02/05/07, and we quickly decided that an autumn wedding would work best with our (and our important guests') schedules. When we started looking at venues at the end of March it became painfully obvious that planning a Southern California wedding within 8 months was just not feasible--everything would already be booked. Our venue was even already booked for the date we wanted (10/18/0 and our second choice (10/11/0 by the time we went to book (17 months ahead, 5/07) so we went for choice 3: 10/04/08.

I'm glad we didn't try to plan it in 8 months though, anyway... it would have been painfully stressful to try to find vendors who were still available and get it all ironed out in time.

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

my FI proposed when we were very young, i was only 18 and he was 19. we both knew that we had to finish school first and save money before we got married and now the big day is less than two months away! It will be just shy of a four year engagement when we do marry on our seven year anniversary!

 

[Blair138]

Thanks for all your replies-Sorry I didn''t include between 1.5 and 2 years-I''m new to PS and was trying not to mess up the poll

I have a feeling that when my FF does propose-I''m probably going to run out the next day and start planning

 

[sumbride]

A year and a half... we got engaged in August and got married in October of the following year. We got married in Texas and since it was an outside wedding we wanted to wait until it had cooled off. Lucky us... it was 95 degrees on our wedding day. Ah... global warming...

I got a little burned out with the long engagement. I had periods of doing absolutely nothing though, so that was nice, but I did all my planning in spurts because I live in MD and so I could only travel to the location a few times before the big day. My mom did most of the leg work for me.

 

[basil]

Almost exactly 2 years. We got engaged on 9/18/06 and we''re going to get married on 9/20/08. We knew it was going to be a long engagement when we got engaged, because we both have busy jobs and we''re living in separate cities. We knew we wanted to wait until after July 08 to have the wedding, because that''s when both of our schedules will start to be a little bit more "normal". Plus, planning from far away, it was nice to have a lot of time.

 

[zoebartlett]

We got engaged at the beginning of May last year and we're getting married in mid-July. So we will have been engaged for 14 months by the time we get married.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

We had 7 months. He booked the venue and I bought my dress at the 6 month mark, then we waited until 3 months beforehand to do anything else and it STILL felt like forever. If dresses didn't take so darned long to get in, I would have been happy with the wait time of about a month!

Engaged 2/2/07 (just a few days before Musey!) married 9/28/07

 

[Harleigh]

We are getting married 1 year and 11 days from the day my FI proposed...I''m all about numbers, and he proposed on the 11th of July and we are getting married on the 22nd of July, which is exactly 3 months from today...yikes!!! Something to do with all the 11''s and double digits...not sure where I got that freaky thing from!

 

[lucy.lucy.80]

our wedding is 9 months after the engagement (wedding 10/25/0...but I wish we could push up our wedding date b/c it feels like forever!!

 

[split_shank]

Date: 4/22/2008 8:20:35 PM
Author: Sassee
9 months. Engaged on 8 September last year and getting married 7 June 2008

have you noticed that you were engaged on 9-8-7 and getting married on 6-7-8?? I dont know why I notice random stuff like that

ETA: i guess I should answer the question: about 11 months? But we actually reserved the reception venue 3 months before we got engaged...is that bad??? It was filling fast and we knew it was going to happen sooner or later!

 

[anchor31]

2 years and 2 weeks (750 days). We waited longer for money and school reasons, mostly. It did allow us to book our reception venue 17 months in advance, and it was the last date available in August already!

 

[LauraSLP07]

It will be 10 months for me and FI!

We got engaged 9-9-07 and will be married 7-19-08! Less than 3 months to go!!!!

 

[mimzy]

i voted 6-12 months, but i jut realized it should have been 1-1.5 years because FI proposed december..umm..sometime in the beginning of december and we''ll be getting married this upcoming december 20th

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[Independent Gal]

We were engaged for about 9 months. Frankly, that was PLENTY. I really enjoyed our wedding(s) but I am SO GLAD IT''S OVER and I can get back to normal life.

You can do as much planning in 6 months as you can in a year, you just have to be more efficient about it.

And I think most of us would agree that the actual planning is often more stressful than it is fun.

 

[Sha]

2 months!!

Is that the shortest enagement on PS or what?

 

[dogmama]

I''m a teacher too so I can''t get married and honeymoon during the school year. I got engaged at the beginning of this April and we''re hoping for next August 2009. I''m using this extra 4 months and the summer to 1. earn some extra money and 2. plan the wedding. So it''s a year and 4 months. Close enough to 1.5 years.

 

[Harleigh]

Wow...lots of us teachers here who have to make use of our summer-time wisely to get married!

 

[Sassee]

Date: 4/22/2008 8:54:20 PM
Author: split_shank

Date: 4/22/2008 8:20:35 PM
Author: Sassee
9 months. Engaged on 8 September last year and getting married 7 June 2008

have you noticed that you were engaged on 9-8-7 and getting married on 6-7-8?? I dont know why I notice random stuff like that

ETA: i guess I should answer the question: about 11 months? But we actually reserved the reception venue 3 months before we got engaged...is that bad??? It was filling fast and we knew it was going to happen sooner or later!

Ha ha - that''s kind of cool! No I hadn''t noticed, but then. I''m from Australia where we say dd-mm-yy, not mm-dd-yy so I''d say it as 8-9-7 and 7-6-8!!

 

[Haven]

We''ll be engaged for just under 10 months when we marry.

Engaged: September 8, 2007 (I think!)
We''ll marry: July 4, 2008

I have to say that ten months is LONG ENOUGH. I can''t imagine what you''d need two years for, the actual booking of vendors and decision-making doesn''t take much time, it''s deciding what you want.

 

[julabean]

We were just about 8 1/2 months. DH proposed on 7/21/07 and we got married 4/5/08. My sister surprised the whole family by getting engaged a few weeks before I did and picked her date (in July) right away. It was either get married in just 8 1/2 months or wait until the springtime of 2009. Since we wanted to sell our house by the end of this year and wanted to be married before we found our new house, 8 1/2 months it was!

 

[Sparkalicious]

FI just proposed in March and we will be married September 09.

We have already booked our venue & church etc b/c we were fearful that anything we wanted would be booked if we waited too long.

 

[musey]

Date: 4/22/2008 10:39:05 PM
Author: Haven

I have to say that ten months is LONG ENOUGH. I can't imagine what you'd need two years for, the actual booking of vendors and decision-making doesn't take much time, it's deciding what you want.

Date: 4/22/2008 9:56:39 PM
Author: Independent Gal

You can do as much planning in 6 months as you can in a year, you just have to be more efficient about it.

Sure, provided that area vendors wouldn't be already booked up 6 months in advance. The long engagement, at least for us, wasn't about having extra time for the actual planning, it was just to account for the lead time necessary to book vendors.

I had trouble finding a good photographer even 12 months out--about 80% of those I contacted at that time were already booked. Same with officiants. I also thought 6 months ahead was a good time to start looking at bakers--apparently I'm also 'behind' on that. In addition, most of the vendors I've met with have asked how long our engagement will be, and when I say a year and a half they always say "A short one!" I think a long engagement is something of a necessity around here.

I think a destination or small-town wedding can be easily planned in less than 6 months, but in a metro area you're facing slim pickings with anything under a year.

 

[nomissjane]

Our engagement was 3.5 months, which I guess was pretty quick.... but then it was only 10.5 months from the day we met till the day we were married!

Celebrated our first wedding anniversary in Feb and life is blissful.

 

[bling addict]

2 yrs 11 months. Engaged January 2005, Married, December 2007. It would have been longer if we hadn''t decided last September to elope (turn first planned holiday in years with wedding/honeymoon), otherwise I had been thinking I would start planning this year, for an April/May 2009 wedding.

 

[bee*]

Our engagement will be 20 months in total. I''m a student so we have to wait until the summer also, so we got engaged last October and will get married June of next year.

 

[violet02]

Date: 4/23/2008 2:02:52 AM
Author: musey

Date: 4/22/2008 10:39:05 PM
Author: Haven

I have to say that ten months is LONG ENOUGH. I can''t imagine what you''d need two years for, the actual booking of vendors and decision-making doesn''t take much time, it''s deciding what you want.

Date: 4/22/2008 9:56:39 PM
Author: Independent Gal

You can do as much planning in 6 months as you can in a year, you just have to be more efficient about it.

Sure, provided that area vendors wouldn''t be already booked up 6 months in advance. The long engagement, at least for us, wasn''t about having extra time for the actual planning, it was just to account for the lead time necessary to book vendors.

I had trouble finding a good photographer even 12 months out--about 80% of those I contacted at that time were already booked. Same with officiants. I also thought 6 months ahead was a good time to start looking at bakers--apparently I''m also ''behind'' on that. In addition, most of the vendors I''ve met with have asked how long our engagement will be, and when I say a year and a half they always say ''A short one!'' I think a long engagement is something of a necessity around here.

I think a destination or small-town wedding can be easily planned in less than 6 months, but in a metro area you''re facing slim pickings with anything under a year.

We had this problem! We got engaged on 12/21/07 but we knew we were going to get married last September so we''d already started looking around for venues. I wasn''t able to book anything until we were officially engaged though (my FI wanted to wait until we were official) so we pretty much lost every venue I could find. The only thing available were fridays, maybe sundays, saturday AM and offpeak months. We were lucky our wedding planner found us a fabulous house to rent. We''re getting married on October 4th this year.