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@YadaYadaYada

this situation is troubling and teetering on the edge inappropriate! im wondering if an administrator should be notified and measures can be taken to protect your privacy
 
@Big Fat Facets, I agree, there are some things about this girl I haven’t shared here as it would breach her medical confidentiality, so there is a layer of complexity due to that. At least he is distance learning so they don’t see each other at all in person and the phone communication will be easy to deal with.
 
YadaYadaYada said:
@Big Fat Facets, I agree, there are some things about this girl I haven’t shared here as it would breach her medical confidentiality, so there is a layer of complexity due to that. At least he is distance learning so they don’t see each other at all in person and the phone communication will be easy to deal with.
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Next time she calls, tell her your son has had his phone privileges taken away for a week. Perhaps that will give her time to focus on someone else and their family. Pay it forward :lol:
 
@YadaYadaYada I remember this came up before (my daughter has some of the same 'intensity' issues). I would try talking to the mum, if someone came to me and told me what was happening I'd want to resolve it for you/that person but I'd also be using it as a way of teaching appropriate behaviour. I hope it gets resolved.
 
@YadaYadaYada I’m sorry about this! How - bizzare. And for her mother to enable it - even more bizarre :confused::???:

I went through my old posts and asked PS admins to delete a huge number of threads and posts earlier this year, as I had some privacy concerns as well. They very generously did, I’m sure it took a while to get through those hundred or so “report concern” notifications!

All your threads and your posts are visible when I’m signed out, but only under this username. It does also say what state you’re from - might remove that?

Another thing to do - google both your current username and your old, and see what comes up. I found your name change thread and two PS blogs that tie your two names together right away - mods can delete/change those for you.
 
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@yssie that is a little concerning that the old threads can be searched/found while logged out. I confirmed this. However, when logged in, I can’t see @YadaYadaYada ’s threads.... :think: So non-members (or non logged in members) can easily find our threads and posts.:snooty:
 
Here is an update, son told me this morning that he is going to talk to her, because he felt her behavior last night was weird and because he feels weird that she thinks of him as more than a friend. This is all his idea, obviously he could see how upset I was but I didn’t encourage or prompt him to talk to her.

He is worried about how she is going to react, I told him it’s better for him to be honest with his feelings now and maybe she will be over it by the time he sees her in person at school.
 
I agree that this situation is quite troubling. I remember being an idiotic 13yo with a gigantic crush (on a neighbor kid) but even when I was being a moron over this kid the worst I did was hang out on the street near his place so I could “bump” into him accidentally on purpose. I couldn’t even have imagined stalking his family and def couldnt have imagined telling him about it!!

As far as the conversation about internet privacy in general goes, I agree that it’s extremely difficult to have any semblance of real privacy once you start posting pics or telling really identifiable stories. I’ve had a bad experience over on a different forum which has turned me into an extremely paranoid person as far as forum participation goes (no posting super identifiable stories, no pics). I don’t post much to social media either. It sucks because I’d love to be able to share, but i just don’t feel safe doing it sometimes.

Hope this situation resolves itself peacefully OP with no issues or blowback on your family.
 
YadaYadaYada said:
Can one of you great PS folk do me a favor and see if you go under my username if you can see my old posts? I think I changed my security settings so you can see them but I’m not totally sure.
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I searched your name here...It says you keep things private so I guess that works. Can someone search my name and let me know? I think I made it private. Thanks
 
@YadaYadaYada , Can you ask Ella if there is a way she can completely delete your past posts on Pricescope? If she can I would ask her to do so and then just start a whole new account and user name.
 
This is what comes up for you @MamaBee

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Could you do me a favour please and let me know what my profile shows? MTIA
 
Thanks @missy, I appreciate it xxx
 
missy said:
My pleasure.

@MamaBee You're A OK too.

@YadaYadaYada I'm sorry you are stressed about this. I am not sure any of us is afforded any true privacy if we have any internet presence. :/
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Thanks @missy It’s so crazy out there. I once got an alert through Facebook that someone that wasn’t my friend on Facebook posted my photo. I got nervous until I saw that I was part of a crowd in a wedding reception photo. What is available that they can have facial recognition from a small pic. It freaked me out a little.
 
@YadaYadaYada change your name again, I know it's a PITA but she will have to go to the lengths of finding it again.. I have posted many personal pix and talked about my sons, and if someone tells my son's what I say then I will deny it, deny it, deny it, and then Attack! Attack! Attack! of course my sons are in their late 20s and early 30s.. not a middle schooler... I find it VERY disconcerting that a 13 year old is stalking you in such a way.. I would think she's not the best gf for your boy.. but lord knows, I've had teen boys.. I would bet Ella would delete posts if you get the numbers and names of the threads, the numbers would be helpful.. I decided - for me only - that I'm an open book and that is the way it goes, frankly one can easily track people it takes a little work that's all.
 
Sorry I haven’t responded to all of you individually but believe me I appreciate everyone who has weighed in.

@Calliecake, This is a great suggestion but I think I’m just going to leave it be. Son has already spoken with her and it seems like by letting her know they won’t be more than friends that maybe some of this fascination will die down. For goodness sake they are 13, when I was 13 I was still playing with dolls!

Man, I can only imagine what it would be like if son was on social media, thankfully he has no interest so I plan on keeping him off as long as possible.
 
@MamaBee same thing. If I log out, I can see all of your activity. Logged in it says, oops you’ve run into some problems. Or some such. :/

ETA Because I didn’t read back. You have to log off and know/search the user’s name. @missy I won’t screen shot but I can see all posts @MamaBee made
 
@Bayek, ah I totally get it but I’m not changing my name, I was most upset that someone my son’s age would go through the trouble of tracking me down, he also found it really strange (thankfully). I took some time to explain boundaries and private spaces, true the internet is not private but even my DH doesn’t read my posts because he feels it is my space, likewise I let him have his space on his toy groups.

Maybe that is something she just doesn’t understand yet, that boundaries are not a bad thing, and they should be respected if you truly care about someone.
 
Unfortunately I think people are looking at the wrong thing.
If you hover over someones name and click on the # of messages or # of threads (so not the actual word of either) EVERYTHING shows up. You ladies are thinking you are "safe" because you cant access your profile - but logged in or logged out all of these are still visible and easily found.
@MamaBee @Slick1 @Austina I can still see all of these on yours. Please dont be complacent just because youve blocked access to ONE part of your PS activity.
 
@telephone89 you can only see when logged out. Logged in I can’t search threads or posts.
I am ok with it. I accepted it long ago when I changed my username to a more anonymous one.

ETA sorry to thread Jack @YadaYadaYada. You’ve made the right decision. She will move on. Help her/him along if need be.
 
Slick1 said:
@telephone89 you can only see when logged out. Logged in I can’t search threads or posts.
I am ok with it. I accepted it long ago when I changed my username to a more anonymous one.
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I am logged in right now and this is what I see (I will delete in a few mins once youve seen)
eta - I can actually go back and find the first post under your UN from Jan 3, 2013.
 
@telephone89 wow! I can’t see that in others’ profiles when I click there. Thanks!

ETA thank you for deleting! :)
 
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@Slick1 Yeah, you can. I wrote how its accessed above. That also doesnt even include people googling usernames, reverse search images, google cache for deleted threads/posts, etc.
 
telephone89 said:
@Slick1 Yeah, you can. I wrote how its accessed above. That also doesnt even include people googling usernames, reverse search images, google cache for deleted threads/posts, etc.
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Ok! Scratches head :doh:that I didn’t know that feature!!! Thank you for the directions. I was using the Find tab.
 
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