allycat0303
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I used to have an AMAZING relationship with her. But since the wedding planning began in earnest, not so much. There''s a lot of tension around us. I became adament that there would be no OVERT sign of mourning for my FIL at the wedding. We will light a candle, have his picture displayed prominently, and the speeches will be about him, but she has stated she wants more, and I get the feeling she''s really *annoyed* that I vetoed the other ideas.
I''m annoyed because we''re paying for the wedding, and I feel she pushed for things which I really didn''t agree with (she demanded a limo, champagne for toasts, and chose church readings etc, fighting for processional music). My family is MORMON alchohol is a big NO NO for us. We have open bar already AND full 1/2 liter of wine per person AND massive quantities of cocktail. I think we could have skipped the champagne toast. The toast (1 flute per guest) is 2000$ extra. I think limos are a complete waste of money. And I DO NOT want to walk into the church to the traditional wedding march song. I HATE it. And she keeps pushing for it. I also think it''s a big concession for a Mormon girl to get married in a CATHOLIC church, and this was done because SHE wanted it. Between FMIL, my mother, my sister, and future husband, the only thing I decided on without any compromises was my photographer.
So, how is your relationship with FMIL? Better or worst? Or unaffected by the wedding planning/stress? An uneasy truce? Or maybe she couldn''t care less (which I am beginning to think it the BEST way to be a MIL).
I''m annoyed because we''re paying for the wedding, and I feel she pushed for things which I really didn''t agree with (she demanded a limo, champagne for toasts, and chose church readings etc, fighting for processional music). My family is MORMON alchohol is a big NO NO for us. We have open bar already AND full 1/2 liter of wine per person AND massive quantities of cocktail. I think we could have skipped the champagne toast. The toast (1 flute per guest) is 2000$ extra. I think limos are a complete waste of money. And I DO NOT want to walk into the church to the traditional wedding march song. I HATE it. And she keeps pushing for it. I also think it''s a big concession for a Mormon girl to get married in a CATHOLIC church, and this was done because SHE wanted it. Between FMIL, my mother, my sister, and future husband, the only thing I decided on without any compromises was my photographer.
So, how is your relationship with FMIL? Better or worst? Or unaffected by the wedding planning/stress? An uneasy truce? Or maybe she couldn''t care less (which I am beginning to think it the BEST way to be a MIL).