allycat0303
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Ok so I''m fuming here. Read FUMING. Does it ever happen in job/work related when a boss/teacher makes what seems like a contructive criticism but it''s actually based in something else?
We work in small groups in class, and it was my turn to do the diagram (so basically a huge diagram with all the concepts) and present it to the group. So I worked really hard on it and it was really, really good. The only thing is in french there''s these things called "accents" which go on certain words. Now MOST computers don''t have them, so you can''t put them in a power-point like presentation. Anyways, so at the end of my presentation, all the people in the group are like "wow, great work etc."
And she says to me, "you''re spelling is hideous, you have mistakes on every second word" (ok, accents don''t go on every second word and I did SPECIFICALLY apologize in the beginning). So I say "Yes I''ve been told that, I''m very sorry." (super politely) When I spell in french I can make mistakes in sentence construction, but this diagram was all LISTS. So then I''m leaving and she says "well medicine is a really conservative profession, and if you make mistakes like that as an intern you''re not going to make it anywhere" again I say "I''m sorry." And then she goes on, "the doctors are just going to spend all their time putting big red marks all over your case histories and just rip them up."
And at this point I am getting MAD
. So I tell her, super politely but firmly, that my Hospital supervisor (who is the director of the program) who has read all of my case histories, feels that although I do make grammer mistakes, I have absolutely no problem making myself understood. We''ve discussed this particular issue repeatedly. He said that in all honesty, doctors scan the list, and don''t even make sentences because they want the pertinent info and that''s it. Whether or not it''s literature quality sentences has very little to do with it.
AND she says to that "well I don''t care what he says, you''re a long way from being comprehensive"
I don''t remember how I ended the conversation, but it ended there.
So here''s the thing, in Quebec many french-speaking people HATE english-speaking people. And my friend remarked that the first day when she came to see me, she spoke to me in english and the teacher gave a super-dirty look. And I''ve done about 30 such presentations (in french) before and this is the FIRST time I''ve heard anything like this. I mean when giving constructive criticism you don''t use exaggerated terms like "every second word". Especially on maybe 100 words there''s 10 words missing the accent on them.
BUT now, I feel really bad, because I don''t know if what I said was enough to make her hate me enough to fail me (she owns 20% of my grade). So I''m really worried. But at the same time, I thought it was REALLY unfair, but was I unspeakly rude? Or should have handled it less or more? Or even how to handle it? This happens a lot in my school, mainly because once in a while you meet up with a boss that despises english-speaking people, and I never know how to deal with it. It''s really frustrating and annoying, because they automatically dislike you if they can sense that you are english-speaking. When I talk, my english accent is virtually undetectable, but when I write it becomes really obvious.
Oh yes, and ALL of the books used in my program are in ENGLISH, which is obviously even worst because you have to translate them in french. And things obviously get lost in the translation.
Thanks guys. I''m supposed to be studying but I''m really worried about this.
We work in small groups in class, and it was my turn to do the diagram (so basically a huge diagram with all the concepts) and present it to the group. So I worked really hard on it and it was really, really good. The only thing is in french there''s these things called "accents" which go on certain words. Now MOST computers don''t have them, so you can''t put them in a power-point like presentation. Anyways, so at the end of my presentation, all the people in the group are like "wow, great work etc."
And she says to me, "you''re spelling is hideous, you have mistakes on every second word" (ok, accents don''t go on every second word and I did SPECIFICALLY apologize in the beginning). So I say "Yes I''ve been told that, I''m very sorry." (super politely) When I spell in french I can make mistakes in sentence construction, but this diagram was all LISTS. So then I''m leaving and she says "well medicine is a really conservative profession, and if you make mistakes like that as an intern you''re not going to make it anywhere" again I say "I''m sorry." And then she goes on, "the doctors are just going to spend all their time putting big red marks all over your case histories and just rip them up."
And at this point I am getting MAD
AND she says to that "well I don''t care what he says, you''re a long way from being comprehensive"
I don''t remember how I ended the conversation, but it ended there.
So here''s the thing, in Quebec many french-speaking people HATE english-speaking people. And my friend remarked that the first day when she came to see me, she spoke to me in english and the teacher gave a super-dirty look. And I''ve done about 30 such presentations (in french) before and this is the FIRST time I''ve heard anything like this. I mean when giving constructive criticism you don''t use exaggerated terms like "every second word". Especially on maybe 100 words there''s 10 words missing the accent on them.
BUT now, I feel really bad, because I don''t know if what I said was enough to make her hate me enough to fail me (she owns 20% of my grade). So I''m really worried. But at the same time, I thought it was REALLY unfair, but was I unspeakly rude? Or should have handled it less or more? Or even how to handle it? This happens a lot in my school, mainly because once in a while you meet up with a boss that despises english-speaking people, and I never know how to deal with it. It''s really frustrating and annoying, because they automatically dislike you if they can sense that you are english-speaking. When I talk, my english accent is virtually undetectable, but when I write it becomes really obvious.
Oh yes, and ALL of the books used in my program are in ENGLISH, which is obviously even worst because you have to translate them in french. And things obviously get lost in the translation.
Thanks guys. I''m supposed to be studying but I''m really worried about this.