luvsdmb
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missy|1409579657|3742832 said:Good question. I never thought too much about jewelry when I was younger and never planned on marrying so the thought of an engagement ring was never on my mind. However when I was younger my mom had allowed me to wear my grandmother's engagement ring (which was my grandmother's mother's ring) and I loved that ring. It was an OEC but I didn't know that at the time I was wearing it. I just knew I loved its chunky flashes of light and the kaleidoscope of colors that emanated from the ring. And mostly I loved the fact that it was my grandmother's ring.
One Sunday evening my boyfriend (who became my dh) asked me a question about diamonds as we were watching Sex and the City. It was the episode where Carrie found the ring Aiden was going to propose to her with and my bf casually asked which cut was my favorite. After some thinking (because I never really thought about it before) I said emerald cut as I thought they were elegant and classic and understated. Everything my style was about. Of course he promptly ignored that and bought an MRB but to be fair he knew I wasn't sure and he thought MRB's were the most sparkly and also the classic cut for an ER.
Long story short (though I guess I am too late for that haha) I was never fully satisfied with an MRB (no matter how many different settings or upgrades I tried) and though it took many many years I realized it was an OEC my heart was pining for and not an emerald cut. Not an old mine cut and not any other cut. It was the old european cut that won my heart and is still my favorite to this day. While I love many flavors of diamonds it is the OEC I feel connected to for many reasons. The chunky facets, the beautiful colors and the memory I have of my grandmother when I wear it.
Sometimes it is a process to arrive at the diamond that makes your heart sing. You know that old saying? "Almost nothing worthwhile is easy". Well maybe it wasn't written about choosing your engagement ring diamond but I think it loosely applies. Sometimes you get lucky on the first try and sometimes it takes a bit longer as it is a process in getting to know what you love and desire. It is not about finding the perfect diamond (IMO) but about finding the diamond that is perfect for you.
It also depends on how picky you are. Some people are easy to please and happy with whatever their FI chooses because that is not important enough to them. Sometimes I am envious of those people as life would be easier in so many ways if I was happy go lucky.
Good luck to all those still deciding and my advice is to enjoy the process because it should be a happy one. Stress and anxiety should not apply to jewelry choices IMO.
ETA: Jimmianne, you hit it right on the OEC head. It has soul and I have always been an old soul at heart. My dh said from the moment he met me he knew I was an old soul. Romantic and that is what the OEC means to me. Old soul romantic.
Does your center need to be a diamond? As I think it would be amazing to do a colored stone oval antique style cluster ring with those 9 rounds you have from your band.luvsdmb|1416936721|3790284 said:I still feel like I don't know, I go back and forth from cushion or oval or maybe a round (round only because that's what my husband likes).
luvsdmb|1416937709|3790295 said:I think I want a diamond.
http://www.loveaffairdiamonds.com/1-03ct-antique-cushion-cut-diamond-gia-h-si1/
What do you think about this one?
liaerfbv|1416938889|3790306 said:luvsdmb|1416937709|3790295 said:I think I want a diamond.
http://www.loveaffairdiamonds.com/1-03ct-antique-cushion-cut-diamond-gia-h-si1/
What do you think about this one?
Having followed your journey, I don't think it's going to satisfy your need for finger coverage. I like Niel's idea of a colored stone center with a diamond halo. You can get a lot of finger presence with that.