how did you ask your bridesmaids/moh

[aggie012]

just wondering if any of you had cute ideas for asking your bridal party?

tia!

 

[Morgie44]

I ordered fortune cookies that said "will you be my bridesmaid?" and put them in little damask take out boxes. All my girls thought they were cute. Here are some pics...

 

[Morgie44]

When they opened the box.

 

[Morgie44]

The cookie and fortune. I ordered them from KBbakery.com and they were actually really good!

 

[Elmorton]

I made mini-scrapbooks (in the wedding colors) with pictures of the two of us and then the last page was a personal note talking about the span of our friendship and how I would be honored to have that friend participate in the symbol of the next step of my life.

 

[elrohwen]

I am so uncreative ... I just called them and asked! Haha. There were only two so I absolutely could''ve done something cute, but it just didn''t occur to me at the time.

 

[KatyWI]

I found these super cute cards by Jenny Sweeney at a local fine stationary store, and I sent them to my girls with really heartfelt notes inside. For example, in the one for my FSIL, I explained that I had never had a sister, so even though we weren''t blood related, I was really excited about becoming each other''s family. I think I did a better job of wording it than that, and it wasn''t the only thing I wrote, but you get the idea

 

[KatyWI]

I found them! This is what they looked like:

 

[havernell]

I just asked my bridesmaids personally/verbally. I asked two over lunch dates, one when we were just spending the evening together, and the fourth over the phone (since we live far apart and wouldn't see each other in time for me to ask her in person). For the three I got to ask in person, it was really special and so nice to see their reactions (big smiles, one even said "yes I'll marry you" to be funny)! I like the cute cards and things others have done, but I guess I'm kind of old fashioned and feel like you can't beat just asking someone in person over a nice lunch together.

 

[marchswallowbird]

I emailed. It''s my sister, I''m only having one attendant.

 

[aggie012]

Date: 1/7/2009 4:04:59 PM
Author: Morgie44
The cookie and fortune. I ordered them from KBbakery.com and they were actually really good!

omg. i may have to steal your idea. so cute!

 

[aggie012]

Date: 1/7/2009 4:24:42 PM
Author: KatyWI
I found them! This is what they looked like:

what a cute card! i went to papyrus and didn''t see any like that so i was thinking of making my own. i haven''t even really begun to wedding plan and i keep getting anxiety attacks thinking about everyone. i love pricescope! everyone is so nice and helpful!

thanks!

 

[Morgie44]

Havernell - I took all of my BM''s out to lunch to give them their boxes. I opted to do something because I am REALLY shy (even with peopel I am close too) and have this strange fear of rejection, so for me it was a compromise for me to ask them through the cookies, but still in person.

 

[havernell]

Date: 1/7/2009 5:01:10 PM
Author: Morgie44
Havernell - I took all of my BM''s out to lunch to give them their boxes. I opted to do something because I am REALLY shy (even with peopel I am close too) and have this strange fear of rejection, so for me it was a compromise for me to ask them through the cookies, but still in person.

Oh, that''s fun! So you got the best of both worlds. Good idea!

 

[bee*]

I just asked mine when we were out celebrating the engagement.

 

[musey]

I had only one, my MOH, and I just sent her a card with a very, very long letter telling her how important she is to me and the way I've felt about her throughout our lives (she's my older cousin and I've very much looked up to her my entire life), and that when I picture my wedding day I couldn't see anyone beside me except her.

Her husband (our officiant, actually) called the day that she got it to say that she wanted me to know that she got the card and of course accepts, but was crying too hard to talk on the phone

So I guess it did its job!!

Anyway, I'm all for the incredibly cute ways of asking... but I do think that a letter is a really special way to communicate just how important that person is to you and why it means so much to you to have them as a bridesmaid.

 

[musey]

Oh btw, my brother's fiance sent me one of those gift-y books (you know, the ones with a bunch of random quotes or anecdotes about people being important) and wrote a little inscription asking me. I actually found that quite impersonal, because she used others' words to tell me how "important" I am and how much "our relationship means" to her, even though (especially at the time) I barely know her at all. It was weird.

So make sure that it's an honest expression of how you feel about the person, because stuff like that can feel contrived and off-putting.

ETA: Found that book:

 

[kittybean]

I took each local girl (there were 4) out to coffee individually, told each how much she meant to me, and asked in person. It was great to see their reactions.

I have three OOT bridesmaids, and I asked them all over the phone, then followed up with a card thanking them for accepting and telling them how much I''m looking forward to having them.

 

[Jena17]

I actually have a funny story! My fiance and I and some of my friends were out celebrating our engagement and my fiance turned to me and asked if my friend that he was standing next to was going to be my MOH.. and I said yes! So... my wonderful Fiance'' turns around puts his arm around her and said that he is so happy that she is going to be my MOH.... OMG.. My friend looked at me and kind of started to cry and asked if he was serious!!! And I just laughed and said yes but that he wasn''t supposed to be the one to ask her!!! My Fiance didn''t understand that asking your MOH or bridesmaid was a special thing and that most girls like to make it special!!! He felt bad after but if you knew him you wouldn''t expect anything different!

 

[lovesparklies]

I was going to buy cards similar to the ones KatyWI used that I had been looking at forever but of course when I actually needed them the store was out of them! So I made my own by cutting out little fabric bridesmaids gowns and gluing them to some nice Crane''s cards and then wrote a message inside asking each girl to be a bridesmaid. It was very "me" to DIY them with scraps of fabric and cards I already had so it all worked out.

I think I''m the only one in my group of friends who did something other than call up the girls and ask them, though. I don''t think it''s totally necessary to do something extra big.

 

[pocahontas]

My sister accompanied me to NYC from Toronto for a quick 2 day trip to drop off my e-ring to Barry at Excel Diamonds for resizing and some other stuff. I took her out for lunch on our first day in the city, told her how much she means to me and asked her to be my MOH (I''m only having one attendant). Aside from the weather being super crappy we enjoyed a really awesome and special trip together.

 

[ice-queen]

I have not done this yet, but I always thought these edible will-you-be-my-bridesmaid cookie cards would be super cute!

 

[redfaerythinker]

I got a poem off the internet that was really sweet. And then I gave them Coach wristlets when they said yes. lol

 

[SarahLovesJS]

I just flat-out asked my Mom and FI''s sisters, but for my friend that was in another state I made her a "Will you be my bridesmaid card?" with cardstock from a craft store and wedding stickers and sent it along. She

d it!

 

[jmtomaui]

I only had one attendant. My MOH is my dearest friend and she actually set DH and I up on a blind date. So we had taken her to dinner for her birthday and one of her gifts was a bridal magazine.

She already knew we were getting married so she was a little confused until I suggested we look at it together to find her dress. Then we talked about why she was so important to me and why I "needed" to have her standing beside me.

 

[dreaming of the day]

I got all of my BM''s the "How to be a bridesmaid handbook" and wrote something special for each one about why they are so special to me, with the last line asking them to be my bridesmaid. The book is super cute, and I wrote in silver pen to make fancy. Most of my girls have never been been a bridesmaid before so it was pretty perfect! My fiance did the same for the GM''s but he got them a book about how soccer rules the world, as they all live for soccer. He wrote meaningful quotes about friendship and life and then put ''welcome to my groomsmen party''. The boys loved it.