How committed are you to your wedding band?

[nala]

So, lately, I have been bitten by the non-matching band bug and have purchased several of what I would like to think are complimentary bands--though not matchy matchy. My husband gets irked because he thinks that the bands draw away from the ring, which he believes, should be the center of attention, every day.
So my question is, how committed are you ladies to your wedding set. Do you feel that when you are trying a new look you are diminishing the effect of your e-ring?
Maybe we can post our alternative sets alongside the original set.

 

[Circe]

I'm deeply committed to my marriage, but my wedding set and I have an open relationship.

At this point, I've gotten an anniversary band for every anniversary we've had, and a few more for good luck. My original wedding band is an etoile-style 3mm platinum stacker band. In addition, I have:

- a bezel set band of alternating round diamonds and marquise sapphies

- an Alex Sepkus Circlet band in platinum

- a 2 mm band of horizontally set baguette rubies, channel-set

- a 3 mm, two and a half carat carre cut platinum band, channel-set

- a 2.5 mm band of french cut rubies, platinum channel-set

- a band of french-cut diamonds, just under three carats, channel-set

- and the latest addition to my little family, a platinum band of emerald and square-cut rubies, just shy of five carats.

I can stop any time I want to?

At any rate, my husband's general perspective is that so long as I'm wearing something, I look committed. And I figure, if one wedding band = married, eight should equal really married, right?

ETA: Knew I'd forgotten one - and a little die-stamped orange blossom band, 1.8 mm, with some of the finest milgrain I ever did see.

 

[mdmc]

I have a solitaire and a plain band. I also have an eternity band I like to wear with it. I like to mix it up

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Hahaha, Circe! I am another who is committed to the marriage and not so much to a specific ring. My original set is yg and I changed over to platinum and wg jewelry, so I no longer wear my original set. (This was sort of spurred on by a resizing of the original wedding band loosening the pave stones in it.)

So I still have the original set, but I wear new rings. Therefore, I can collect or change wedding bands as I wish! At the moment I have a Memoire band with 10.5 pointers and also a Tiffany Legacy band, which I wear the most.

 

[bunnycat]

Here's a thread that adressed something similar and that may give you some ideas. I'm with Circe and Diamondseeker, in general, though at the moment I don't have a really large stacker collection.

[URL='https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/does-anyone-wear-more-than-one-wedding-band-with-your-e-ring.183729/']https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/does-anyone-wear-more-than-one-wedding-band-with-your-e-ring.183729/[/URL]

I do wear at least ONE of the 3 rings I was wearing on my wedding day right now no matter how I mix and match. My wedding band actually goes better with other things than my original e-ring and so I often wear the wedding band with an OEC or with a couple of stackers or I wear the original ering (in my avatar) with stackers but not all that often with the wedding band.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I had to laugh at the poll results so far! Only on PS would 100% say they have more than one wedding band!

 

[CharmyPoo]

I ruined it. I am miss matchy matchy and always wear the same band with my e-ring. I don't have an option for different e-ring plus wedding band sets

 

[Natylad]

My wedding band is a plain WG band. I always wear this on my right hand (this is the rule when you're married in my country. The band on the left hand means you're engaged!). In fact, i never take this band off. On my left hand i wear my ER with my half eternity band and i actually alternate between three different sets of rings and bands, according to my mood!

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I ruined it. I am miss matchy matchy and always wear the same band with my e-ring. I don't have an option for different e-ring plus wedding band sets

But you have more e-rings than anyone here! That is amazing that you managed to get one wedding band that goes with all your rings!

 

[Harpertoo]

Ugh! This is a sore subject with my spouse. I always thought any band he gave me could stand in for the wedding band. I eventually received dispensation to wear an anniversary band. The latest negotiation involves a new ring that I intend to wear alone on my left hand. He eventually agreed it represents our marriage, so it's fine.
Who knew a guy who was ok with an elopement would be so sentimental about jewelry!

 

[Aoife]

I'm deeply committed to my original wedding band, which was also my mother's original wedding band. It's yellow gold, at one time engraved with a floral motif, but it's worn completely smooth at this point. My original engagement ring was a ruby and diamond band which our younger daughter used when she got married.

But.....

When I'm at home I don't wear any ring at all because I work a lot with my hands. When I go out I have a collection of diamond and/or colored stone rings that I mix and match with various bands, including my original band. I would never, ever get rid of my original wedding band, but the rings by themselves aren't our marriage. My Dh and I wear our commitment to each other and our marriage on the inside.

Which is a really convenient rationalization for us to enjoy a variety of rings, bands, and sparkly things.

Why does your DH feel that additional or different bands take away from the effect of your e-ring?

 

[kenny]

I'm deeply committed to my SO and our relationship, 13-years so far.

The ring is just some metal and carbon.
I deeply LOVE the ring, but committed is not a word that comes to mind when I think of it.

 

[gregchang35]

I have the rolling rings and love it. I since have got the asscher semi tension and the rolling rings don't fit on any other finger. It doesn't work as a stacker. So, torn. I can wear it on my necklace, but the WG loses it Colour too quickly. Poo!!!

But yes, very committed to the r:ship- or should that be- I need to be committed into a psych ward??? !!! Lol.

 

[Dreamer_D]

I sold my original wedding band, that is how committed I was to it

My husband doesn't care what I wear as long as I wear something.

Right now I only have two wedding bands. I have a platinum engraved that I wear with my diamond solitaire, and I have a 2mm yellow gold plain band that I wear on its own.

I also have a 2.25mm, vintage, bead-set diamond eternity in the mail right now! Fingers crossed its pretty and goes with my e-ring!

 

[momhappy]

I have sort of grown to dislike the concept of the wedding band, but unfortunately, my e-ring and wedding band are soldered together. I would prefer wearing just one ring (no wedding band) which is why I'm researching redesigning my e-ring diamond into a halo setting and wearing it alone.

 

[Sparklelu]

My original band was damaged when it was resized and I lost a few stones. So for a anniversary my DH gave me a 5 stone band which 3 years ago I had BGD turn into my rosé gold trellis.

 

[Smith1942]

Nice ring, Elisa!

I have a LOT of different jewellery, but on my left hand I always wear my original wedding band and e-ring. Been married 7 years.

I know for a fact that I won't be getting any upgrades. My husband's jewellery-buying ended at the e-ring, and he thinks push presents are awful, with which I disagree. However, I have looked after myself very nicely in the intervening years. Although it makes me a little sad when I read about how much jewellery other husbands buy for their wives (and yes, mine could afford it) it does mean that I have a wonderful wardrobe of jewellery that I absolutely adore and that has lots of matching pieces, because I picked it out myself. He and I have different aesthetic tastes, you see. Before we were married he did buy me a pair of large, thick white gold hollow hoops. They made me look like a cheap gypsy!

The other reason my wedding band and e-ring are here to stay is that upgrading these things is completely alien in the British culture. Oh sure, the odd person may have picked up the idea from America and gone for it, but the average UK person would be completely horrified. The idea is that your wedding and engagement rings are for a lifetime.

In general, between upgrades, push presents and anniversary rings, I think American men spring for jewellery more often than UK men. Of course, the cost of living and the taxes are much higher in the UK, and people in America are generally dressier with larger diamonds and more skirts/dresses/salon hair on an average day than the average British person. Over here, people have amazing teeth and blowdrys, and after many months over here, when I go home, the general populace looks rather drab compared to the Americans. So I guess the general lack of glamour is all part of the lack of upgrades.

If I had the chance, I'd upgrade my e-ring. It was a complete surprise and although I do like it, being a fab cut HoF, it isn't really what I would have chosen. I like my wedding band, though, because I did get to choose that. It's a thin 2mm platinum band and I like that look with a solitaire - IMO it's an elegant, simple look. Would look even better with a larger, whiter diamond!

P.S. The smaller diamonds which are acceptable in the UK are why EVERYTHING I have is bezeled in white gold! Pump up the volume!!!

 

[iheartscience]

I'm deeply committed to my marriage, but my wedding set and I have an open relationship.

This sums it up for me. My list isn't as extensive as yours but I'm working on it!

 

[ame]

Well mine fell apart the day of the wedding so obviously, not so much, and I had to send it for a remake while I was on my honeymoon and several times thereafter. So after that was finally sorted out and I got my refund. I went elsewhere. That one was fine on the first go and I wore it til it was stolen several years later. I don't have any of the rings anymore that were part of the ceremony. Either they fell apart from poor workmanship, or were stolen. For a while my husband thought that was a metaphor for our relationship and maybe was a signal from the universe, but other than my e-ring setting, my wedding band situation now is fine.

 

[Laila619]

I don't wear mine anymore because it doesn't fit (it's a 5.5 and I'm more like a 7 now) but I do love it, and while I pondered selling it, I just can't do it.

 

[04diamond<3]

My DH is SOOO connected to the jewelry he buys me. The first diamond pendant he gave me he's really attached to. My first engagement ring setting he's extremely attached to and the second setting we bought a few years ago, he's attached to because it has sapphires and diamond (our birthstones). My wedding band, we've never talked about because it means SO much to me! I realize being committed to your marriage is different from being committed to those things that represent your marriage, but it's the ring he slid on my finger, looked in my eyes and made vows to me with, so no matter what other ering upgrade I may get I will always have my wedding band and it will never ever change. He's very much attached to his band though, I talked about getting him a platinum (which he's always expressed he's wanted), and replacing his original (only 14k) and he won't do it.

We had a very very hard relationship prior to getting married, so to us it's not just metal, it signifies a lot more. Everyone's different though, clearly.

 

[Ally T]

I'm on the side of Smith1942, as I am also British. My wedding band is a plain 3mm platinum band, die-cast & super heavy. It is incredibly sentimental, so much so that when I had both of my daughters by emergency section, I refused to remove it & they taped it over for theater on both occasions. I love my wedding ring. It is elegant, durable, flattering & most importantly, a commitment. it has never ever left my finger in almost 6 years of marriage.

My engagement ring however, was damaged beyond repair last year. Thankfully the insurers let me keep it so I can salvage the remaining diamonds for my daughters, but I do have a new engagement ring which is bigger, better & significantly more me. I now wear something that I probably would have chosen originally if I'd not been surprised.

I must admit though, as I no longer wear my original engagement ring, my new 'upgrade' feels far less sentimental. I don't think at this stage I would be adverse to swapping out the diamond for a bigger one in the future, but who knows. Maybe 6 years from now I might be as attached as I was to my original ring I do also wear a full eternity now - my set is complete & I do love the way they look together.

 

[Jereni]

I tend to fall in the middle of the spectrum, I think. I wear my original wedding band every day or close to it. But I change out what I wear next to it very frequently, almost daily.

Often that is my (new) sapphire engagement ring, but I also have 3 different stackers that I alternate with it, depending on the look I'm going for. And I have plans for several more stackers in the long run...just love the stacked look for lower-profile bling.

 

[Enerchi]

I was completely monogamous for the first 27 years of my marriage... its just in the past year that I've started to play the field... and kind of started to see other.....

rings!

I now wear my 7 stone DBL FLY with my 3 stone BGD princess but even then, I will wear flip the OEC/IDJ band to the left hand and then wear just the IDJ band only, or the FLY only... or my RG spacer... I'm a woman with many needs and not just one ring will satisfy them...

 

[KaeKae]

My original wedding and erings were a size 4.5. Five years later, I added a sapphire/diamond band, also size 4.5. Fifteen years after that, I was shoving them onto my finger. So, when I reset, I got the ering in a 5.25 and had a 'matching' band made. It's the type that contours to the split shank of the solitaire. I don't love it because it spins. So, I bought myself a very thin pave band, then added a topaz/diamond eternity for our 22 anniversary. Count me in with those committed to the man, open with the rings

I do still have my original band, and the now empty semi mount. Eventually, I'll get myself a pretty sapphire to put in the ering, and wear with the sapphire band. I'll have to size them up. For some reason, I don't want to have the original band sized up. Something in me says: keep it as it was on the day we were married. Sentimental, but not practical.

 

[ame]

I was completely monogamous for the first 27 years of my marriage... its just in the past year that I've started to play the field... and kind of started to see other.....

rings!

I now wear my 7 stone DBL FLY with my 3 stone BGD princess but even then, I will wear flip the OEC/IDJ band to the left hand and then wear just the IDJ band only, or the FLY only... or my RG spacer... I'm a woman with many needs and not just one ring will satisfy them...

You harlot.

 

[marcy]

I usually wear my ering and anniversary band but I have other rings I can wear and change them out sometimes. DH doesn't care but does notice if wear something different. If we are going out of town and I don't want to worry about keeping my rings clean I'll wear a WG PC bypass band for my wedding ring. I have a WG ering with a heart diamond and sapphire accents and I'll wear it sometimes without a band. I have looked for a YG sapphire / diamond anniversary band to use with my ering but haven't found a keeper yet. Of course the search continues whenever I get the chance.

 

[purplesilk]

Sometimes I wear it alone, sometimes I stack it with other rings, but I always wear my YG plain wedding band: without it I feel naked!
I think it's a culture thing: Italian married people use to wear plain bands on their left finger, so that's the way I do.

 

[missy]

It's funny. I always wore my original wedding band with my ER through all my resets. But when I got my OEC ER I went without a WB for a while (as my original WB didn't look right with my new ER) and my dh wanted me to wear a band even if on the other hand. LOL. I never thought he would care as he is so easy going about everything. Now I have 2 wedding bands that go with my OEC ER so I switch it up but I always wear one on the left hand with my ER. Though for a week or 2 there I was just "engaged" haha.

I didn't vote in the poll because I only rotate b/w 2 bands...

(I still have my original WB and will always keep it because it was the original but will not wear it with my ER though I can and have worn it on my right hand with my previous ER setting that Adam made into an eternity band for me to wear-my 2 eternities are very blingy together).

 

[Cozystitches]

For the first 12 or so years, I wore my ering with my band. As a result, the gold wore down the top of my band and the design is closer to the top now (there's less gold missing at the bottom). This made me very sad, so I've switched my wedding ring to my left hand and have switched up what I wear on my right hand. I had gained weight when I was staying home w/the kids and had it sized up (and thankfully the engraving on the inside was mostly preserved ) so when I lost the weight it fits great on my left hand.

I also became a bit less sentimental (have always been more sentimental about our bands than hubs) after his was stolen during our robbery. Hubs had stopped wearing his matching band because the design was being worn away, so he wears what looks like a beat up washer. It's one of those titatnium plain bands....

However, he doesn't seem to understand (support) the idea of upgrade, apparently he's more attached to my ering. Sigh. I still have it, but the prongs are rough (which no one seems to understand/be able to fix, so I gave up)...