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Brilliant_Rock
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Lost on 5th:
Buy what you can afford now. Go for size. Unfortunately, her friends/coworkers are gonna look at the ring. They''re gonna make comments. I ran into the same problem. G/f makes more than me at the moment and so her coworkers tended to have correspondingly "large" rings cuz their husbands tended to be quite successful as well.
My suggestion is to go for size cuz that''s what they''ll notice first. Then, avoid name. Just not worth it (unless that''s all everyone cares about in your part of NYC). However, pick a characteristic that''s the best so she can hang her hat on and brag about. Maybe the best cut. Possibly even a Heart and Arrow branded stone. At least ideal cut tho so she can brag it''s an ideal stone and has hearts and arrows. Stay in the colorless range but possible go down to F color. Go down to the VS2 range.
It won''t be what she wants, but it should be decent enough so she won''t be embarassed and has something to brag about.
Also, I''d run it by her. Explain to her that she can still be proud of it (since it''s ideal cut or whatever). It will bother her. The important part is how much it bothers her. Be VERY observant in this. Look for pauses before she answers and stuff. If too much hesitation is there, I don''t think you should propose. I''m gonna be blunt. Marriage is about compromises and realistic expectations. You can have all the nice dreams of life together in the future while you''re dating. Once you propose tho, you need to get serious and realistic. She just may not be ready to marry you in your current financial situation. It''s not nice to hear, but many girls need a certain amount of financial stability. If you can''t make enough, she''ll be bothered by it just from all the comments her friends/coworkers make and eventually it''ll wear her down. In the process, she''ll be making your life miserable.
Buy what you can afford now. Go for size. Unfortunately, her friends/coworkers are gonna look at the ring. They''re gonna make comments. I ran into the same problem. G/f makes more than me at the moment and so her coworkers tended to have correspondingly "large" rings cuz their husbands tended to be quite successful as well.
My suggestion is to go for size cuz that''s what they''ll notice first. Then, avoid name. Just not worth it (unless that''s all everyone cares about in your part of NYC). However, pick a characteristic that''s the best so she can hang her hat on and brag about. Maybe the best cut. Possibly even a Heart and Arrow branded stone. At least ideal cut tho so she can brag it''s an ideal stone and has hearts and arrows. Stay in the colorless range but possible go down to F color. Go down to the VS2 range.
It won''t be what she wants, but it should be decent enough so she won''t be embarassed and has something to brag about.
Also, I''d run it by her. Explain to her that she can still be proud of it (since it''s ideal cut or whatever). It will bother her. The important part is how much it bothers her. Be VERY observant in this. Look for pauses before she answers and stuff. If too much hesitation is there, I don''t think you should propose. I''m gonna be blunt. Marriage is about compromises and realistic expectations. You can have all the nice dreams of life together in the future while you''re dating. Once you propose tho, you need to get serious and realistic. She just may not be ready to marry you in your current financial situation. It''s not nice to hear, but many girls need a certain amount of financial stability. If you can''t make enough, she''ll be bothered by it just from all the comments her friends/coworkers make and eventually it''ll wear her down. In the process, she''ll be making your life miserable.
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