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i have friend that has about 10k to spend on a ring, but his gf is expecting a 2+ ct diamond.my advise to him is buy what he could afford without buying on credit.
MMMDate: 1/21/2005 9:385 PM
Author: moremoremore
I say you don''t say anything and mind your own business!Hahaha...But seriously, mind your own business. LOL
The guy is old enough to get married. he''s old enough to make his own good or bad financial decisions. (unless of course, he asks you for your 2 cents)...He doesn''t need you to tell him that credit is a bad idea. He probably knows that already! Stay out of it unless he asks.
p.s. If he asked you how he should tell his gf that he can spend 10k, he can use the delicate approach my loving husband uses...
''NO, you can''t have that. We can''t afford it. Grow up and move on'' LOL...Works like a charm every time (?) hehehehehe
i was thinking more like $7500 per ct. for a nice cut stone.Date: 1/21/2005 11:21:35 PM
Author: Superidealist
A quick check of the Pricescope database shows more than 200 listings for diamonds of 2+ct less than $10,000.
With all due respect, this long period of courtship worked for you; but shouldn''t be looked upon as requirement. I think time spent together doesn''t determine how well one knows someone. I knew more about my hubby in a week than I knew someone I dated for several years. It''s timing (Mara''s Mantra) & personality mesh. We were engaged in less than 6 months of knowing each other. Our marriage has lasted over 20 years.Date: 1/22/2005 7:129 PM
Author: codex57
I''m gonna be honest here. How long have they been together? If under a year, I''d hold off on getting ANY ring and get to know her better.
Date: 1/23/2005 12:10:56 PM
Author: fire&ice
With all due respect, this long period of courtship worked for you; but shouldn''t be looked upon as requirement. I think time spent together doesn''t determine how well one knows someone. I knew more about my hubby in a week than I knew someone I dated for several years. It''s timing (Mara''s Mantra) & personality mesh. We were engaged in less than 6 months of knowing each other. Our marriage has lasted over 20 years.Date: 1/22/2005 7:129 PM
Author: codex57
I''m gonna be honest here. How long have they been together? If under a year, I''d hold off on getting ANY ring and get to know her better.
That said, I did know my future hubby''s basic financial status. Would I have liked a larger stone - sure - but that wasn''t my reality. If he is upfront about what he can afford, then she should respect, and gladly accept what his reality is. If not, then she''s not the one for him and visa versa if he can''t confront her. The cloud of nebuli can be damaging to a relationship & disconcerting.
Date: 1/21/2005 98:56 PM
Author:Dancing Fire
i have friend that has about 10k to spend on a ring, but his gf is expecting a 2+ ct diamond.my advise to him is buy what he could afford without buying on credit.
** not to hijack this thread, but i would rather build off the above information than repeat everything... this also might be the same scenario as the person in discussion initially.....so it could help as well possibly.
Date: 3/31/2005 5:14:59 PM
Author: lost on 5th
** not to hijack this thread, but i would rather build off the above information than repeat everything... this also might be the same scenario as the person in discussion initially.....so it could help as well possibly.
My GF also has high expectations. All 4 c’s and setting and BRAND. It is well out of my realistic budget and she knows it…and feels bad about it. She knows I have debt from grad school and am working a tight budget to recover from said debt. However, she already makes a great deal more than I do. And her profession will on average make much more than mine. Im stuck between doing what I can afford now…and what the reality of our financial situation will be 5 years from now.
….any suggestions given this variation of the initial question?
(dancing fire....sorry for jumping in. just thought i would expand the topic a little)