janinegirly
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Date: 12/27/2006 11:07:28 PM
Author: dtnyc
155 including us. Perfect size for us. His mom would have liked larger, my dad (who paid for most of it) would have liked smaller.
His mom was hit by a car and in the hospital for a month right after we got engaged and when I told her I wanted less than 200 people she got upset in her hospital bed and basically told me it wasn''t going to be big enough for her to invite everyone she wanted. I still can''t believe that woman gave birth to my wonderful husband.
Great "rules"! Those are the same lines we were thinking along. We should end up with around 40-50.Date: 12/28/2006 10:26:11 AM
Author: ephemery1
We will be inviting about 250... and that''s pared back.I would have loved somewhere in the 150-200 range, it''s just not possible coming from my hometown where both my parents grew up and know EVERYONE, especially with my dad''s job. There was minor frustration with the guest list, because FI''s family isn''t from the same kind of community, so their half of the invitees seem a little more random/distant... but they are planning on paying for a significant amount of it, and I''m abandoning my futile desire that everything be ''fair''... not worth the wasted energy!
My Invitation Rules (for our half of the list):
1) Is this somebody I am exceptionally close to in my current life, who I truly want to share my wedding day with? (ie., friends, certain colleagues)
2) Is this somebody I have shared a significant past with, and can''t imagine getting married without them there? (ie., parents'' close friends, people on the holiday card list, etc)
3) Is this somebody I will be spending a lot of time with in the future, who we will look back and be glad we invited? (ie., certain relatives, newer friends)
If the answer is ''yes'' to one of those questions, they''re in... otherwise, they''re out!