How angry would you be if....

[SparklyLibra]

Yeah, I'd be crushed. It's practically impossible for him to "forget" our anniversary. We got married on Valentine's Day....

If he didn't do or say anything to acknowledge our anniversary, it would speak volumes to me... I believe I would be devastated actually......

 

[TravelingGal]

I''m the forgetful one. But if he forgot birthdays or anniversaries, it wouldn''t faze me.

But mother''s day, he''s dead if he forgets. I earned that one. Plus hello...there''s mother''s day commercials all over the place!!!

 

[sbde]

I'd be hurt more than angry. oh, and i'd get over it but then bug him about it for a while haha...

 

[packrat]

We talk about the dates as they come up. My birthday being incredibly fun for him. He''s about 4 months older, so when his birthday comes, he immediately starts harping on mine. The day of, we don''t right away yell "Happy Birthday" or "Happy Anniversary" the 2nd the other person wakes up..sometimes it takes a few hours. He takes a while to wake up and be coherent anyway. There''s a lot of hugs and reminiscing a few weeks before our anniversary and the anniversary of when we first started dating, so it''s not like it''s forgotten completely.

We never celebrated birthdays when I was growing up, so mine isn''t that big a deal to me-the kids'' being a different story.

 

[Magpie09]

I wouldn't be angry, just hurt and surprised since i also like to remind him beforehand about what important dates are coming up in the weeks leading up to the event. He's yet to forget a birthday or anniversay yet so this method seems to work

 

[katamari]

Date: 7/28/2009 11:21:11 AM
Author: littlelysser
I guess what I don''t understand is that if the birthday or anniversary is so important, why not remind your SO of it? Remembering your anniversary and keeping it to yourself as a test for your DH seems kind of, I don''t know, like setting him up for failure!


I don''t think my DH could forget my BDay or our Anniversary...because we discuss what we''d like to do to celebrate, etc.

Totally agree. I think because I would be terribly sad if he missed one, I do my part to not let that happen. Plus, since I absolutely hate surprises, I want to make sure I am in on any plans, which makes me often the one bringing it up a little in advance.

 

[AprilBaby]

We are opposites. He would be more upset than me if one of us forgot.

 

[steph72276]

Well, I made it easy on him and had our son on my birthday, so I''m always talking about it/planning his party so there is no way he could forget! Also, on our anniversaries, we usually plan a trip, so we start talking about it and planning it in advance. As far as Mother''s Day goes, there are so many commercials, etc. that it is pretty hard to forget and he hasn''t so far. I think I would be a little sad if he forgot that.

 

[mochi]

My ''X'' that was married to for 17 years always forgot my B''day and anniversary, even though it was a day apart. Every year when it got close, he would always say, "I know it''s sometime this month." After 17 years of marriage, I stepped back and was re-evaluating our relationship and put everything into perspective and saw that this was part of a bigger problem...

All thoughout our marriage he made it clear by words and action that I (or our relationship) was not his main focus and that there were other things in his life more important than us. Yes, it took 17 years for me to figure it out, but at least I''m in a happier place now than I ever was.

He was a typical narcissistic person. Good riddance!

 

[Kay]

I don''t mind not receiving an anniversary or birthday gift (we''re both very busy and really do not need more "stuff"), but I would be hurt if he actually forgot to acknowledge the day. We have actually fallen into a bad pattern with gifts because he knows I am very picky and do a lot of research for most purchases. When we were first dating, he surprised me with some lovely gifts, but now never wants to surprise me for fear of disappointing me. (I have never criticised anything he has given me, but he has heard me complain about gifts from relatives that just end up taking up space in the back of the closet, so he got nervous. But he has good taste, and knows my taste, so I wish he would get over it at least for small gifts.) We usually just give each other a list for holidays, but some years we have substantially delayed or just skipped gifts because we get busy and don''t get around to shopping for ideas to tell the other person.

I was actually very disappointed on Mother''s Day. I was very excited about my first Mother''s Day, and would have been happy with a sweet card or small trinket. Instead, I got nothing because I failed to tell him what to buy me! I had mentioned months before that I wanted a ring or pendant with DD''s birthstone, but I just couldn''t find a stone I liked and did not have time to design a piece. A few weeks before Mother''s Day I told him I had changed my mind and did not need jewelry or anything expensive for Mother''s Day. (Note, I did not say I did not need anything!) He figured I would change my mind and pick a piece of jewelry I wanted later, so he did not buy me anything for the day itself, not even a card. It was a very important day for me, and I was very upset not to have a card for my memory box. I had already purchased little gifts for his first Father''s Day several weeks in advance because I was so excited and wanted to make it special for him. (I think the gifts I gave him made him feel worse, although that was not my intent.)

 

[4ever]

Meh, I don''t think I''d mind too much if he forgot an anniversery (even if we were married), I''d just remind him and then ask if we could go out to dinner or do somthing nice.

I''d be pretty depressed and upset if he forgot my birthday. I always put alot of effort into planning a good birthday celebration for him, even the years I have had almost NO money to spend (I''m a student). This year was one of those years and I spent ages planning what I could do with pretty much no money. I spent $20 on a really nice big frame and filled it with photos we took when we met in london, I found a great hard back illustrated version of one of his fave books in mint condition in a second hand book store and spend ages finding a really great and meaningfull quote to write in the frount cover for him, I spent about 6HOURS making him and very perfesional and AMAZING homer simpson birthday cake (To make up for the one that his mum got for him for his 18th birthday that his guests ate it all before he even got to see it) and then spent several hours making a massive roast dinner with pork, chicken, potatoes, vege and all the trimmings and then I took him out to see Transformers which came out that night and he''d been looking forward to.

So yeah, after all the effort I put into his birthdays, I guess I would be a little pissed off if he forgot all about mine.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Honestly? I''d be hurt if he forgot an important date like that. I know he was hurt when I forgot his birthday (I remembered every day leading up to the one!)...