bubbly1126
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Hey everyone.
My son is 7 months old. If I am going to have another baby, we'd start trying when he's a year to a year and a half. I want 2 kids at most but am having a hard time deciding if we will actually have another, or not.
My reasons for having another baby:
Liam will have another child to grow up with. Sure, he has cousins but he doesn't see them all the time. I would like for him to have a sibling he can (hopefully) we close with.
I don't feel as though our family is "finished."
Pure selfishness. "I" want another baby.
Reasons for not having another baby:
Daycare. My mom currently watches Liam. However, she's made is abundantly clear she won't be watching the next baby. She's too worn out from my sisters extremely high maintenance children. She's absolutely in love with Liam but says she won't know if she'll have it in her to watch another grandbaby. I wouldn't be sending one child to her and the other to daycare, it would be both in daycare and I certainly cannot afford that.
I don't want to struggle financially. ie, mortgage & car payment wise. And I don't want Liam to ever have to go without something he needs.
Maybe this goes with the above but I also want to be able to live comfortable enough that we can take family vacations.
I am sure there is more I could come up with but these are the main things. I am young yet, 27 to be exact, so I have plenty of time. However, I don't want more children after the age of 30. It's just personal preference. So I need to make a decision in the next year or so if I want to keep them close in age.
How did you all decide to have more children or not have more children? I never thought it would be this hard to decide. Are there any other things I should think about? Am I overthinking this? Any advice at all??
My son is 7 months old. If I am going to have another baby, we'd start trying when he's a year to a year and a half. I want 2 kids at most but am having a hard time deciding if we will actually have another, or not.
My reasons for having another baby:
Liam will have another child to grow up with. Sure, he has cousins but he doesn't see them all the time. I would like for him to have a sibling he can (hopefully) we close with.
I don't feel as though our family is "finished."
Pure selfishness. "I" want another baby.
Reasons for not having another baby:
Daycare. My mom currently watches Liam. However, she's made is abundantly clear she won't be watching the next baby. She's too worn out from my sisters extremely high maintenance children. She's absolutely in love with Liam but says she won't know if she'll have it in her to watch another grandbaby. I wouldn't be sending one child to her and the other to daycare, it would be both in daycare and I certainly cannot afford that.
I don't want to struggle financially. ie, mortgage & car payment wise. And I don't want Liam to ever have to go without something he needs.
Maybe this goes with the above but I also want to be able to live comfortable enough that we can take family vacations.
I am sure there is more I could come up with but these are the main things. I am young yet, 27 to be exact, so I have plenty of time. However, I don't want more children after the age of 30. It's just personal preference. So I need to make a decision in the next year or so if I want to keep them close in age.
How did you all decide to have more children or not have more children? I never thought it would be this hard to decide. Are there any other things I should think about? Am I overthinking this? Any advice at all??