rainbowtrout
Ideal_Rock
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Do any of you have parents who buy you things you know they can''t afford? How do you handle it? I went looking for a dress with my mother today, because I was going to buy myself a 40-50 dollar summer type dress for work if I could find one. I didn''t, but she gave me this shirt to try on. It''s a great shirt, and it looks good, but I couldn''t afford it (78 dollars). I mean yes, its some woman called Ann Fontaine (?) and supposed to be very expensive retail, but I can''t get across to her that it doesnt matter how much it is retail if I still can''t afford it anyway... I have student loans and am going into grad school, so am trying to be reasonably frugal here. I kept telling her this and trying not to make a scene in the shop..
She just bought it for me, and I couldnt exactly fuss at her "you can''t afford it" in front of the saleswoman. It''s just I know this is going to turn up later in something she cannot afford like pills or insurance, because it happens with her a lot. She had made a big deal about buying me diamond earrings (some of you may remember) for graduation, and it just didn''t happen, the way my health insurance freshman year didn''t happen,etc.
I don''t mind when its me--I could care less about diamond earrings, for instance. But I had to give her half my migraine meds last month because hers ran out and she couldnt afford more, and I worry about what will happen to her, and when (knock on wood) to me when she passes on-=-she has stated that she has no intention of paying her large debts before she dies.
If I try to talk to her about it she gets offended (understandably) and says she is an adult and I should not say anything and let her do her thing. But I still worry.
Sorry for rambling. Please let me know any advice.
She just bought it for me, and I couldnt exactly fuss at her "you can''t afford it" in front of the saleswoman. It''s just I know this is going to turn up later in something she cannot afford like pills or insurance, because it happens with her a lot. She had made a big deal about buying me diamond earrings (some of you may remember) for graduation, and it just didn''t happen, the way my health insurance freshman year didn''t happen,etc.
I don''t mind when its me--I could care less about diamond earrings, for instance. But I had to give her half my migraine meds last month because hers ran out and she couldnt afford more, and I worry about what will happen to her, and when (knock on wood) to me when she passes on-=-she has stated that she has no intention of paying her large debts before she dies.
If I try to talk to her about it she gets offended (understandably) and says she is an adult and I should not say anything and let her do her thing. But I still worry.
Sorry for rambling. Please let me know any advice.