Hindsight is 20/20...if you could change one thing from the past knowing what you know now...

[Tekate]

not going to medical school. i so wish I could change that.

 

[KristyDarling]

Great question.

I wish i had realised many years ago JUST how much of people's shitty behaviour is ALL ABOUT THEM, and NOT about you at all. It took me more than half my life to learn that. Would have saved me so much angst.

THIS!!!! My kids are teens and are going through the social minefield of adolescence...this is the lesson I've been trying to impart to them, but it's so hard to internalize. Human nature is to assume that it's all about us, and thus we take everything so personally. It's a lot of needless suffering. I just hope my kids will "get" this lesson much, much sooner than I did!!

I failed to visit an adored and dying family member on the day it was requested by his wife. I delayed that trip by one day. I never got to say goodbye in person and he never got to meet my son. I know he loved me and it was not a "thing" for him, but in hind-sight, I should never have valued work over family. I try to remember that...

We cannot know when the time is for someone to pass on. I, too, have “missed” the deadline. We can only offer comfort to the survivors.

I also went through this, with my beloved 97-year-old grandpa. He was in the hospital so we drove 5 hours to visit him. It was dark by the time we arrived. His condition was stable so we decided to visit him the next day. He passed away in the night, by himself without any family around. I'll struggle for the rest of my life with the regret of not saying goodbye when I could have. He helped raise me and I love him more than words can say. I know he knew how much I loved him, but still....

 

[FinleysMom]

THIS!!!! My kids are teens and are going through the social minefield of adolescence...this is the lesson I've been trying to impart to them, but it's so hard to internalize. Human nature is to assume that it's all about us, and thus we take everything so personally. It's a lot of needless suffering. I just hope my kids will "get" this lesson much, much sooner than I did!!





I also went through this, with my beloved 97-year-old grandpa. He was in the hospital so we drove 5 hours to visit him. It was dark by the time we arrived. His condition was stable so we decided to visit him the next day. He passed away in the night, by himself without any family around. I'll struggle for the rest of my life with the regret of not saying goodbye when I could have. He helped raise me and I love him more than words can say. I know he knew how much I loved him, but still....

 

[House Cat]

I would have moisturized.




I never would have smoked. I smoked like a train from the moment I tried it. I LOVE (and hate) smoking. I quit seven years ago and I still crave it. I promise myself that I get to take it up again when I’m 80 years old. I probably won’t, but that thought keeps me from buying a pack when I have cravings.

 

[GreenPapaya]

I regret putting off visiting my sister this summer. I was afraid of traveling and afraid to go see her. Well, today I got a called that she passed. Alone, surrounded by strangers. I never got to thank her or tell her I forgive her. That I'm sorry she's had such a hard life. That despite her faults (being human) she was loved. That's all she ever wanted - to be loved and to be told that we cared for her. This woman grew up in a work camp, shared food with me when we didn't have much, carried and dragged me across land mines and streams and rivers so we can have a chance in the USA. She died not knowing how truly special she was.

 

[Calliecake]

I’m so sorry @dizzyakira

 

[ringo865]

I regret putting off visiting my sister this summer. I was afraid of traveling and afraid to go see her. Well, today I got a called that she passed. Alone, surrounded by strangers. I never got to thank her or tell her I forgive her. That I'm sorry she's had such a hard life. That despite her faults (being human) she was loved. That's all she ever wanted - to be loved and to be told that we cared for her. This woman grew up in a work camp, shared food with me when we didn't have much, carried and dragged me across land mines and streams and rivers so we can have a chance in the USA. She died not knowing how truly special she was.

Sorry for your loss @dizzyakira just reading the way you talk about her, I'm pretty sure she knows how much you love her and that she is special to you. ((((Hugs))))

 

[Maggiemeans]

My career path. Should have done other things.

 

[valeria101]

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@dizzyakira I could not imagine someone doing such things without knowing.



( my grandparents went through some such - of course, they always knew & almost never mentioned ... )

 

[Turbodoug]

I would have cussed my father out every time he lit a cigarette.
Im 58 now.
He has been dead 26 yrs from respritory failure.

 

[luv2sparkle]

There are so many things, mostly involving my kids. in the end, I probably wouldn't change stuff because I would worry that things would be worse if I did, LOL.

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

I would never had a minor surgical procedure that has left me with chronic pain.

cheers--Sharon

 

[MarionC]

I would have invested in Apple at its inception and then come here and bought everyone on PS a 10 -20 carat cut of their choice.
Now you can share my regret LOL

I am sorry about dear posters who have sad regrets. I wish you peace of mind <3