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Try this again .....
Sooooo ..... I have gone ring "looking/shopping" at B&M stores in the past with my SO. I always noticed that she ended up picking out a princess cut. 99% of the time it was a solitare. Always simple and classic. And we talked about what she liked several times.
So I purchased a WF princess cut solitare e-ring and plan on proposing next month (she has no idea).
Sure enough, this week she was looking online for e-rings (very randomly) and stumbled across a PS vendor! So she started talking about e-rings. Well, she picks out a 3-stone, round pave setting that she "really likes"!!! I playfully inform her that she always chose simple square cuts. She playfully says that it is her ring and she is still choosing!!!!
Please help calm me down .... I feel like I messed up!!!
On a funny side note ... after a while she decided to start logging onto Mall Jewelry Store website. I was biting my tongue SOOOO hard! I just wanted to yell out everything I have learned from the posters here on PS, lol
Sooooo ..... I have gone ring "looking/shopping" at B&M stores in the past with my SO. I always noticed that she ended up picking out a princess cut. 99% of the time it was a solitare. Always simple and classic. And we talked about what she liked several times.
So I purchased a WF princess cut solitare e-ring and plan on proposing next month (she has no idea).
Sure enough, this week she was looking online for e-rings (very randomly) and stumbled across a PS vendor! So she started talking about e-rings. Well, she picks out a 3-stone, round pave setting that she "really likes"!!! I playfully inform her that she always chose simple square cuts. She playfully says that it is her ring and she is still choosing!!!!
Please help calm me down .... I feel like I messed up!!!
On a funny side note ... after a while she decided to start logging onto Mall Jewelry Store website. I was biting my tongue SOOOO hard! I just wanted to yell out everything I have learned from the posters here on PS, lol
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I'm not laughing. Okay I am.
But here's why. Your lady sounds like she might be PS material. I would propose while you are still in your return window on the ring.
Then tell her honestly you just want her to be happy so if she wants to return the diamond and get something more to her taste, she can (of course you're probably out the price of the setting).
But here's why. Your lady sounds like she might be PS material. I would propose while you are still in your return window on the ring.
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I am amused because it sounds like it is so confusing to be a man! It is such a huge decision to make for someone else''s finger. I agree with Gypsy. Can you propose any sooner? If not, I would go with what you have. I think your first instinct is usually the best. My husband showed me the other ring he was deciding between after he proposed and I was so happy he chose mine. Good luck! Keep us updated!
Yeah I was laughing at points too ... then I seamlessly transitioned into crying, lol.Date: 4/29/2009 12:46:55 AM
Author: Gypsy
I''m not laughing. Okay I am.
But here''s why. You''re lady sounds like she might be PS material. I would propose while you are still in your return window on the ring.Then tell her honestly you just want her to be happy so if she wants to return the diamond and get something more to her taste, she can (of course you''re probably out the price of the setting).
I can''t propose in the return window. Already have a vacation planned and booked next month (and she knows about the trip).
I guess I can always tell her she can "upgrade" if she wants something different and a TINY bit bigger...and like Gypsy said, lose out on the setting. But I''m now afraid that she will say that she loves it no matter what....that she would like something different but not want to change it b/c I picked it out. She is the type of woman who gets an ugly sweater for x-mas, says she loves it, refuses to return it and leaves it in her closet with the tags still on it. And I''m not going to let her put this ring in the closet for years!!!!
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It sounds like she just may be the kind of girl that needs to be a part of the initial decision. If you get her the princess then say, "if you don't want this one, we will get you something else", then if she does want something else, she will either A) feel guilty for changing the ring you picked or B)keep a ring that is not "the one". Alot of girls haven't really picked out anything and are happy with what ever they get, but girls who have been searching themselves, usually have a picture in their minds of what they want. Especially when she playfully commented that "she is still choosing" It's not a bad thing to let your girl be part of the selection process. I was lucky enough to have a husband who let me go through the fun of my ring picking. After your guy gets you your ring, there is never an easy solution where everyone feels good if she doesn't love the pick. I would tell her now before the ring is sent. Can you cancel and not lose anything if you cancel before it's mailed? Who knows, if you tell her now, maybe she'll like the princess, but let her help decide, then if she decides what she agrees on is not what she wants and exchanges it, she will feel more like she picked out the wrong one, not you. Get it?
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She'll wear the ring. Promise. And she'll love it. Because it's from YOU.
Can you be honest with her (to an extent)? Just have her go through the Show Me the Ring folder? Tell her you were looking online you thought PS had some great pictures on it and you want her to pick what she likes... like top five. And also send her a link to a ring similar to yours.
Then if she picks similar rings, you'll know-- and you have the posts to prove you bought it before her selection from SMTR. If not, you can scramble to get something else. And you'll have a funny story to tell.
Maybe this will make you feel better. I have strange hands. My thumb on my left hand doesn't LOOK like it's skinny , but it is because I have really small knuckles. So one day I ws cleaning out my jewlery box ( I did this sometimes, just pulled it all out to reorganize it) and get to my emerald ring, pick it up then put it on my thumb. Well my (now) husband is watching me and he goes WHITE as a sheet. I mean he looked like he'd been shot. So I say, "What happened, what's the matter??" And he says: "You are wearing the ring on YOUR THUMB! WHY are you wearing it on your thumb. That's not your thumb ring... you don't wear thumb rings." And I'm like... Waaaaaaahhh??? So I pull it off and hold it up and demonstrate that it fits on like... 4 of my fingers (including my ring finger) and tell him about my skinny knuckles and he grabs my hand when I finally get it to my ring finger and LOOKS and starts moving it to see how it fits (perfectly) and looks amazing, relieved and happy.
Poor guy. That was the ring he had 'borrowed' to size me for the engagement ring he had bought. And when he saw me put it on my thumb he thought he had picked the wrong ring.
Can you be honest with her (to an extent)? Just have her go through the Show Me the Ring folder? Tell her you were looking online you thought PS had some great pictures on it and you want her to pick what she likes... like top five. And also send her a link to a ring similar to yours.
Then if she picks similar rings, you'll know-- and you have the posts to prove you bought it before her selection from SMTR. If not, you can scramble to get something else. And you'll have a funny story to tell.
Maybe this will make you feel better. I have strange hands. My thumb on my left hand doesn't LOOK like it's skinny , but it is because I have really small knuckles. So one day I ws cleaning out my jewlery box ( I did this sometimes, just pulled it all out to reorganize it) and get to my emerald ring, pick it up then put it on my thumb. Well my (now) husband is watching me and he goes WHITE as a sheet. I mean he looked like he'd been shot. So I say, "What happened, what's the matter??" And he says: "You are wearing the ring on YOUR THUMB! WHY are you wearing it on your thumb. That's not your thumb ring... you don't wear thumb rings." And I'm like... Waaaaaaahhh??? So I pull it off and hold it up and demonstrate that it fits on like... 4 of my fingers (including my ring finger) and tell him about my skinny knuckles and he grabs my hand when I finally get it to my ring finger and LOOKS and starts moving it to see how it fits (perfectly) and looks amazing, relieved and happy.
Poor guy. That was the ring he had 'borrowed' to size me for the engagement ring he had bought. And when he saw me put it on my thumb he thought he had picked the wrong ring.
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Since she already knows about the trip you have planned if you really want to surprise her propose early! (while you still have time to change the stone)
There is a good possibility she will love the ring you picked because of all the effort you put into it. There's also the possibility she'll want something different. There is no way to tell.
And honestly, every time I look at someone's new setting in the Show Me the Ring forum I see something new I love. Which means the more you look, the more you change your mind.
You also might contact WF with the dilemna and see if they could extend the return policy.
PS Cute story, Gypsy!!!
There is a good possibility she will love the ring you picked because of all the effort you put into it. There's also the possibility she'll want something different. There is no way to tell.
And honestly, every time I look at someone's new setting in the Show Me the Ring forum I see something new I love. Which means the more you look, the more you change your mind.
You also might contact WF with the dilemna and see if they could extend the return policy.
PS Cute story, Gypsy!!!
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OMG. Dying ROFLMAO. That is SO true.Date: 4/29/2009 1:06:16 AM
Author: diddy
VERY true .....
''I like this red dress, I want to buy it .... actually I like this blue dress ..... maybe I''ll buy the pink dress .... but the black dress is a classic ..... ''
''What did you buy honey?''
''A pair of shoes''
HAgirl ... thank you for your reply.
The thing is ... she WAS part of the initial decision. Actually, she was the only decision. I almost literally had no say (nor did I really want one) in what she tried on and what she liked.
About 8 months ago we went into every jewelry store in town. In each store she tried on/really looked at about 10 rings. The "final" ring in every store was a solitaire princess. I even knew what aspects of the setting she liked/disliked (prong shape, shank shape, trellis ....). We discussed it for a while and eventually just stopped talking about it. Since then a couple of our friends have gotten engaged and we looked at their rings online. She made comments like "this one is too busy" "too modern" ....
I can''t cancel the order. I get the ring a couple of days before we catch our flights and I''m asking her on the trip. I guess like a week after asking her, I''ll just make sure she understands that she can upgrade through WF for whatever she wants and I''d be absolutely OK with that. Granted...I''d have to buy another setting and upgrade her diamond.... I just don''t want her to look down everyday and wish she had something different.
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Diddy, just from your posts I KNOW she''ll love it. You sound like a wonderful guy and honestly, she sounds great. When you find the man you want to marry, the rest is just window dressing. Yes, it would be lovely to have a choice and to hear that you can upgrade/change... whatever. But ultimately, the true symbol of his love is the time and effort and love he put into finding the right ring. So show her your threads and THAT will be the best present to her. And that''s what her ring will remind her of (no matter what she decides).
I could do the SMTR folder... but 1) she''d DEFINITELY start cruising around PS and DEFINITELY ID me 2) I have a horrible poker face with her, she knows the minute I try to lie or even bend the truth.Date: 4/29/2009 1:11:52 AM
Author: Gypsy
Can you be honest with her (to an extent)? Just have her go through the Show Me the Ring folder?
That was the ring he had ''borrowed'' to size me for the engagement ring he had bought. And when he saw me put it on my thumb he thought he had picked the wrong ring.
GREAT story!!! lol
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I agree with Gypsy, you sound like a WONDERFUL guy! It sounds like a done deal, but not too worry, Princess solitaires are timelessly elegant, so I''m sure it will be a hit. By the way, what are the specs on this baby?
(if I were getting a pre-picked ring, I would want it to be a solitaire setting, that is the perfect surprise ring)
(if I were getting a pre-picked ring, I would want it to be a solitaire setting, that is the perfect surprise ring)
Date: 4/29/2009 1:32:47 AM
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I agree with Gypsy, you sound like a WONDERFUL guy!
Thank you!
By the way, what are the specs on this baby?
https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/opinions-before-i-pull-the-trigger.111450/
It''s the top one in this thread. Didn''t get ideal ... but it is SOOOO much better than what she was looking at in B&M. Plus the budget was a little low(just my income until she finishes up her Masters)
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omg! I love the X-prong settings! The more you tell me, the more I think this will be "the ring". I can't wait to hear how the proposal turns out. and you definitly need to post hand shots. Will you be getting a picture from WF of your finished ring before it is sent to you? Their professional photos are crystal clear and really show off the ring's best angles.
Good night now! It's 11:45 here in CA and I have to get up early. I will be checking your post tomorrow.
Good night now! It's 11:45 here in CA and I have to get up early. I will be checking your post tomorrow.
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OMG! My girl pulled tis same crap on me! However, after going simple solataire to three stone with yellow side diamonds, to channel set side diamonds, to just a classic three stone, she fianlly came full cicle on me again and told me all she really wants is a solataire! What she really did was just cause me a lot of grief and postponed her proposal by about 3 months! However, If i was you I would just stick to my guns and give her the solataire.
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I can''t tell you how many times I''ve changed my mind since finding PS!!! However, if my BF had proposed with ANY of the rings I have fallen in love with up until now, that ring would have been THE ONE.
She''s probably just a jewelry lover! If you ask the ladies on PS how many different erings they''d be happy to have, I''m sure their lists would be LONG. haha
As long as she has said she loved square cuts and simple solitaires in the past, she''ll love the ring for sure!
She''s probably just a jewelry lover! If you ask the ladies on PS how many different erings they''d be happy to have, I''m sure their lists would be LONG. haha
As long as she has said she loved square cuts and simple solitaires in the past, she''ll love the ring for sure!
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Thank you all for your comments and suggestions! I definitely appreciate them. I had to call in sick today from work because I was up until 430am worrying last night!
I talked to the great people at WF and they informed me that my "inspection period" was longer than I thought (because the stone was a selected ES)! So the new plan is to go with the original plan of asking her on the trip .... trick her into saying yes
.... and inform her that she has the choice of sending it back and picking out a different one.
AAAAAaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ..... I can relax
A big thank you to the posters on this thread and to WF!!!
I''m assuming my next post will be something about, "Rubies look great and are different!"
I talked to the great people at WF and they informed me that my "inspection period" was longer than I thought (because the stone was a selected ES)! So the new plan is to go with the original plan of asking her on the trip .... trick her into saying yes
AAAAAaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ..... I can relax
A big thank you to the posters on this thread and to WF!!!
I''m assuming my next post will be something about, "Rubies look great and are different!"
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Date: 4/29/2009 1:05:36 PM
Author: diddy
Thank you all for your comments and suggestions! I definitely appreciate them. I had to call in sick today from work because I was up until 430am worrying last night!
I talked to the great people at WF and they informed me that my ''inspection period'' was longer than I thought (because the stone was a selected ES)! So the new plan is to go with the original plan of asking her on the trip .... trick her into saying yes.... and inform her that she has the choice of sending it back and picking out a different one.
AAAAAaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ..... I can relax
A big thank you to the posters on this thread and to WF!!!
I''m assuming my next post will be something about, ''Rubies look great and are different!''
I am sure it will all be fine!!
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Date: 4/29/2009 1:06:16 AM
Author: diddy
VERY true .....
''I like this red dress, I want to buy it .... actually I like this blue dress ..... maybe I''ll buy the pink dress .... but the black dress is a classic ..... ''
''What did you buy honey?''
''A pair of shoes''
I made my husband read this post and he was cracking up. Sounds like you have a great plan after talking to WF.
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